Trying to date like a secure person while your brain screams, “THEY'RE PULLING AWAY.”

In this episode, I get real about what it’s like to date with an anxious attachment style—and how that plays out not just in romantic relationships, but in my bond with Sam, the 17-year-old chihuahua who somehow understands my emotional needs better than most men.

We also read a listener letter from someone feeling stuck and second-guessing everything after a six-week situationship came to an abrupt end. We talk through the anxiety loop, the craving for reassurance, and how hard it is not to take it personally when someone pulls away.

If you’ve ever found yourself analyzing text messages like they’re part of a true crime case, wondering if you’re “too much,” or feeling like you're always one step away from being ghosted—this one’s for you. Because here’s the truth: your need for connection isn’t a flaw. It just needs to be met by someone who can actually show up. And as always, our motto stands strong: Fuck That Guy.

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