10 signs you are self-sabotaging

1. The fear of being vulnerable
2. The constant need for validation
3. Testing your partner for their loyalty / affection
4. Overcompensating and people pleasing
5. Fear of being alone (different to loneliness)
6. Projecting the past into the present relationship
7. Unrealistic expectations (entitlement: hello ego, grandiosity, and narcissism)
8. Inconsistent or avoidant communication
9. Over analysing and excessive worry (ruminating in circles)
10. Lacking boundaries (this is not just an outside thing, but really an internal boundary system)

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