April 01, 2019

Attracted Clients

35 minutes

Curt and Katie talk about what to do when your clients report sexual or romantic transference. We look at how to explore these feelings, how to set boundaries, and what you need to be cautious about.

It’s time to reimagine therapy and what it means to be a therapist. To support you as a whole person and a therapist, your hosts, Curt Widhalm and Katie Vernoy talk about how to approach the role of therapist in the modern age.

In this episode we talk about:

How normal it is that clients become attracted to their therapists.

The level of safety and intimacy in therapy can be so attractive to clients that they become romantically attracted to their therapist.

Examples of how this type of attraction can show up in the room

The caution to wait to jump to “Are you hitting on me?”

Looking at what is appropriate and inappropriate, especially given cultural differences

How supervisors can advise their supervisees in these situations

The difference between a misunderstood connection and physical attraction – and thoughts on how to handle each one

How physical appearance can impact the pre-treatment expectations

A study on Attractive Business Women – the idea of the Femme Fatale

Looking at how being gorgeous might impact your clinical work

Be authentically yourself, with the understanding of what societal bias could come up

When the clients start responding to the therapist as an individual, rather than the therapist or the therapy relationship – looking at transference/counter-transference

How hard it can be to talk about the client’s sexual attraction in the therapy room

Holding space – acceptance with clear boundaries

Making sure to address safety

Exploring the interplay between emotional intimacy and the expectation for sexual intimacy

How to set the boundaries in the psychotherapy relationship when attraction has been disclosed by the therapist

The caution to avoid shaming the client and how to do so

The importance of consultation during these types of situations

Factors that can impact these types of interactions in the treatment room

The safety factors and risks to be aware of, when facing sexual or romantic transference

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Resources mentioned:

We’ve pulled together resources mentioned in this episode and put together some handy-dandy links.

Article: Attractive businesswomen viewed as less trustworthy 'femmes fatales'

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Credits:

Voice Over by DW McCann https://www.facebook.com/McCannDW/

Music by Crystal Grooms Mangano http://www.crystalmangano.com/

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By Curt Widhalm, LMFT and Katie Vernoy, LMFT

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