Parasocial Panic, Kink Fantasy Fandoms, MBTI, and Other Topics: Dr. Kirk Honda answers patron questions about taboo fiction, fandom discourse, parasocial relationships, psychodynamic therapy, personality theory, MBTI, self-forgiveness, and why we sometimes unconsciously recreate old relationship patterns. July 17, 2026

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00:00 What profiles of people may be drawn to taboo fantasies?
11:25 Has Dr. Kirk's voice changed?
14:03 Is Dr. Kirk aware of his parasocial impact? 
23:10 Is it normal to solidify your theoretical stance after graduate school? 
25:03 Psychodynamic self-awareness
26:48 Can MBTI be helpful in therapy? 
43:48 Why is it easier to offer compassion to others and not ourselves? 


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[Rerun] Dr. Kirk answers patron emails. October 4, 2021

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A follow-up chapter from our deep dive three years ago about the Duggar family. July 15, 2026

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00:00 What's going on with the Duggar Family (recap)? 
14:39 Who are Joseph and Kendra Duggar? 
34:29 How has the Duggar family responded to the allegations?
57:29 How has the public responded? 
1:09:26 Did Josh Duggar comment?

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[Rerun] Dr. Kirk Honda presents his master’s-level course on attachment. February 15, 2021

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Are some people simply evil? Is "sorry" overused? Can an incel community ever be healthy? Dr. Kirk Honda explores those questions while also discussing family therapy education, addiction recovery, infidelity and children, Mobile Crisis Teams, and two troubling listener-submitted stories involving catfishing and youth mental health programming. July 13, 2026

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What is the difference between being distorted and being psychotic? What do we really mean when we talk about culture? Why do some people over-function while others under-function? And what are dreams actually for? Dr. Kirk Honda explores these questions in a patron email episode. July 10, 2026


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00:00 What is the difference between distortion and psychosis? 
06:09 Why do people relate culture to race? 
25:20 Do some underfunctioners believe they're overfunctioners? 
33:06 Are dreams interfering with my sleep? 
47:20 What purpose do dreams serve?
1:04:16 How can lucid dreaming be helpful?
1:07:46 How can dream journaling help therapy? 


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Rerun] Dr. Kirk answers patron emails about attachment.November 25, 2020

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Dr. Kirk and Rebecca answer patron questions about Lily Allen's latest album, coping with the death of a beloved dog, macrophilia, and one listener's question about learning how to navigate male spaces after transitioning. July 8, 2026

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00:00 Mochi's passing & the importance of rituals
32:27 Highlighting PIS listener interactions
38:20 Lily Allen's West End Girl
50:33 How to Build a Sex Room
56:07 How can I be a man around women? 

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[Rerun] Dr. Kirk answers patron emails about attachment. November 23, 2020

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Dr. Kirk Honda discusses the ethics of physician-assisted suicide and Medical Aid in Dying (MAID), particularly when requests are based on severe psychological suffering rather than terminal physical illness. He reviews current laws in the United States, Canada, and several European countries, examines high-profile cases that received international media attention, and explores the challenges of balancing autonomy, suffering, treatment possibilities, and public safety. July 6, 2026

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00:00 What is the current landscape of MAID? 27:08 Does the media sensationalize these cases?

43:13 Why do we avoid the reality of aging? 


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