Welcome back yall!! What if the key to becoming your best self… is being more self-focused?In this episode, I’m breaking down the difference between identity vs reputation, and why constantly seeking validation or following the “expected” life path is holding you back from your next level.We talk about self-worth, relationships, societal pressure (marriage, timelines, etc.), and why doing what you want (even if it looks different!!) is the real way to level up.If you’ve ever felt behind, confused, or pressured by what everyone else is doing… this episode will shift your perspective.✨ In this episode:– Identity vs reputation (and why it matters)– Why being “self-obsessed” can actually change your life– Letting go of societal timelines & expectations– Dating, red flags, and self-respect– How to stop people-pleasing and trust yourself– Becoming confident in your own pathLet’s step into your next era 🔒Enjoy & dont forget to tweet/ig story me a screenshot of you listening!MY NEW WEBSITE!! Shop merch, sign up for my newsletter, book a coffee chat, & more: http://stellaraeherself.comGet $1000 off the health coach certification program I'm doing with promo code STELLACOACHING https://www.shareasale.com/u.cfm?d=1281553&m=96296&u=1030263I edit using Riverside! https://www.riverside.fm/?utm_campaign=campaign_5&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_source=rewardful&via=stella-holtshop my new glo up merch!! https://stellarae.myspreadshop.com/instagram http://instagram.com/stellaraepodcastlisten to and/or support the podcast: https://anchor.fm/stella-raetiktok: http://tiktok.com/@stellaraeherselftwitter: http://twitter.com/stellaraegoodreads: https://www.goodreads.com/user/show/10449999-stella-raemy fav books/products/health: https://www.amazon.com/shop/stellaraemy current filming set up:camera: https://amzn.to/4cEQiLOmicrophone: https://amzn.to/3Z2A5gctripod: https://amzn.to/3AEmxgKring light: https://amzn.to/3XxZrShbox lights: https://amzn.to/4e1Q1Ubportable light for phone: https://amzn.to/3XxZspjjoin my patreon for ad-free episodes, early access, merch discounts, behind the scenes, & more! https://www.patreon.com/stellaraepodlisten on spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2DMbeh7EqiqgROIjvW0sI9listen on apple podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-stella-rae-podcast/id125561818200:00 intro – “be more self-obsessed?”00:45 identity vs reputation explained02:00 storytime: non-traditional path (school, youtube, etc.)04:30 trusting yourself vs following expectations06:30 doing what’s right for YOU (no FOMO)08:30 societal pressure: marriage, kids, timelines10:00 why people follow the “expected” path11:00 women, people-pleasing & conditioning12:30 relationships, red flags & self-respect15:00 why you need to focus on yourself first17:00 standards, boundaries & not settling18:30 final advice: build your life around YOUR values#StellaRaePodcast