#239. We've been handed every framework imaginable for navigating love — the checklists, the red flags, the attachment style deep dives. And somehow we're still confused. Because the problem was never information. It was nerve. This week on Ask P, we're getting into the questions you actually sent — two crushes in the same friend group, holding your standards after a great relationship ends, rebuilding trust after a breakup, the name change debate, and how to show up for a friend who keeps choosing someone wrong for her. This one is for every woman who already knows the answer and just needs permission to trust it.

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#238. My spring favorites are here — beauty, fashion, tech, rituals, TV, people worth following, and a few random things I can't stop talking about. This one's a proper list episode: personal, specific, and full of things that have actually been making my life better lately. Consider this your permission to add to cart.

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Pregnancy and motherhood come with pressure, opinions, and plenty of advice, but very few honest conversations about how it actually feels to be a mom. “Tell Me I’m a Good Mom” speaks to the pressure to get it right and the fear of being judged when we don’t. Through her own transition into motherhood, Lo Bosworth Natale explores the identity shift, expectations, emotional plot twists, and educational hacks that make the journey lighter, all while navigating a culture that performs, posts, and rates motherhood online. This is not about perfect parenting. It is about becoming a mother, for real.

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#237. YOU’RE INVITED. Because I’ve documented my love life on NTS since my now-husband and I met– from our early dating days, to moving in together & baseball craziness, to breaking up and not speaking for a year (lol), to getting back together and now tying the knot– it feels right to walk you through our wedding weekend in vivid detail. As usual, I’m getting extremely candid about my experience planning, pre-wedding prep, what went right (& what went wrong) on our wedding day, and the early days of marriage. Thank you for being here to witness our little love story! We love you. xx

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#236. I’m sitting down with content creator Greta Louise Tomé for a conversation that covers all the things your group chat has been debating. They get into the real rules around moving in together, why your community matters more than you think when it comes to baby timing, and why "what's your Plan B?" is a question worth retiring for good. Plus — Greta shares her philosophy on being sexy for yourself, and why a little creativity might be the most feminine thing you can do.

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#235. In this month’s installment of ASK P, we are tackling listener questions on topics like romantic relationships, to friendships, to knowing ourselves. What do I do when my life feels too boring? Should I leave my relationship due to incompatibility? When should I exit the friendship? Listen to ASK P on Note to Self every month, and write in your own Qs (anonymously) via the link below. 

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#234. Talia Hubble has a theory: when life falls apart, you set the table. The content creator and hostess extraordinaire joins Payton for a conversation about her recent home renovation, navigating a breakup in her thirties, and why her answer to heartbreak was to invite everyone she loves over for dinner. Talia talks about building a life split between New York City and her Rhode Island cottage, the way nesting became her love language during a hard season, and how intentional hosting became her most powerful form of self-care. This one is for the woman who is learning that community isn't just something you find,It's something you create, one dinner party at a time.

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#233:

In a season that glorifies romantic love, this episode is your reminder that the most important relationship you’ll ever build is the one you have with yourself. We’re talking about falling in love with yourself in ways that are both romantic and psychologically grounded — from small rituals that make you feel cared for to the science of self-trust and self-compassion. Whether you’re single or deeply partnered, this is your invitation to become someone you feel safe, steady, and proud to be.

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#232. Brittany Ball joins Payton to unpack what it really looks like to choose yourself over and over again through life’s biggest transitions. They talk about young motherhood, navigating divorce, co-parenting in a non-traditional dynamic, and finding love again without losing yourself in the process. This episode is a reminder that trusting your inner knowing can open doors to a life more honest, expansive, and aligned than the one you were “supposed” to live.

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#231. This episode is a candid life update and a values-driven conversation about navigating the current U.S. political climate as a woman who cares deeply but needs to take small moments for herself. We talk about boundaries, nervous system care, and how to stay clear-headed, informed, and aligned.

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