#210. What if your financial plan received the same amount of care as your skincare routine? In this episode, fractional CFO and "dumb rich" newsletter creator Ariel LaFond joins me to reframe money as wellness. We're breaking down the HENRY trap (High Earner, Not Rich Yet), sharing financial rituals that actually work, and building budgets that include joy—not just survival. Because money isn't just about security, it's about creating a life that feels abundant and free.

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#209. Breakups, boundaries, and brutal honesty. In this Ask P, I answer your questions on handling hate comments, moving on from long-term relationships, opening up to friends after heartbreak, navigating toxic family dynamics, and finding peace when you feel out of place.

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Today we are revisiting a classic Note To Self episode: Dating Horror Stories with Emon and Kristen. Hope you enjoy!

#132. We are reading & discussing some pretty horrific listener dating stories in this episode of NTS. I have two of my favorite friends, Emon & Kristen, in the studio to weigh in on your experiences and share some of their own.

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#208. Feeling stuck, confused, or like your “real life” hasn’t started yet? In this episode, we’re talking about the sneaky ways we postpone joy, progress, and big decisions while waiting for the “perfect” timing. I’ml sharing practical, low-pressure strategies to help you get unstuck, from clarifying your values to taking small, meaningful risks. Whether you’re in a career limbo, a relationship crossroads, or just feeling unmotivated, this conversation will help you see that life is already happening—and you need to start living now. 

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You never know where this podcast is going—and neither do they. Known as Syd and TP, Syd Colson and Theresa Plaisance are best friends, former teammates, and now hosts who cannot, will not, stay on topic. After launching a hit TV show (which also didn't stay on topic), they return their hilarious antics to mainstream audiences, as their podcast "Unsupervised" brings in the same energy that fans have grown to love. One minute they’re dissecting reality TV drama, the next they’re debating if pigeons are government spies. Somewhere in between, they'll pull audiences into completely unhinged games that are way more fun than they should be (no, seriously), and they’ll dish out impressively solid life advice to callers, who probably have no idea who they are and may wonder, are they okay? It’s an in-real-life text thread turned podcast — like a 2 a.m. group chat you accidentally walked into. You'll be glad you stayed.

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#207. I’m catching up with my favorite roommate of my 20s, Taylor King aka TK, while our paths crossed in NYC. We’re talking dating in the modern era, the formula for finding the perfect roommate, and so much more. This ep is best listened to on your hot girl walk, pregaming the bars, or doing an apartment deep-clean, btw.

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#206. Only 2% of art sold globally is by women — and today’s guest is working to change that. Nuria Madrenas is the founder of Tacit, an online gallery and art consultancy dedicated exclusively to female artists. In this episode, we talk about how to start your own art collection — even on a budget — and how to choose pieces that feel personal, meaningful, and lasting. Whether you're filling your first apartment or curating a forever home, this conversation is about making your space a reflection of who you are.

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#205. In this Ask P episode, we’re talking through the messy, beautiful in-betweens of life and love. I’m answering listener questions about hooking up with an ex you’re not over, wanting a dog when you’re not settled down, and moving cities for your partner’s career when you’re still building your own. These aren’t black-and-white situations — there isn’t always a “correct” answer to some of life’s questions. If you’ve ever felt pulled between freedom and connection, or between control and letting go, this one’s for you.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          

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#204. Violet Witchel, aka the Dense Bean Salad Girl (my fav), earned a degree in economics and swam competitively in college—then walked away from it all for culinary school. What began as a single recipe turned into a viral movement and a nationwide pop-up series. In this episode, we talk about the courage it takes to choose a different life, how to follow an idea that makes no sense on paper, and what reinvention really looks like. For anyone questioning the plan they thought they had to follow—this one’s for you.

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#203. Is your relationship just going through a rough patch — or is it time to walk away? This week, I’m joined by relationship therapist and author Laura Caruso (The Empathy Deficit) for a candid conversation about love, conflict, and compatibility. We talk about how she dates as a therapist, what really happens in couples therapy, and how she personally handled a recent breakup. Laura breaks down the difference between healthy conflict and chronic struggle, and shares tools for navigating relationships where one partner is anxious and the other is avoidant. Whether you're single, dating, or deep in a long-term relationship, this episode is full of real talk and insight. We also touch on repair vs. rupture, attachment styles, and how to know if it’s worth working through.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             

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