Note to Self

#268. Before I go on podcast-sabbatical, I’m leaving you with an assignment: your Q4 agenda.

This isn’t a winter arc, a life reset, or a list of impossible habits to master before January; it’s 20 worthwhile things to do with the last few months of the year. Think: getting your money and digital life in order, hosting people you love, learning a forever dish, starting something new, building a personal archive, doing something intimidating, and finally dealing with the things you’ve been putting off.

It’s a mix of life admin, personal development, fun, and a little seasonal maintenance — so you can finish the year feeling like you actually lived, not just survived, the holiday chaos.

Grab your Notes app and get started! I’ll see you in 2027. 🤍

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#267. This week, we’re talking about three ideas making my life materially better (none of them are for sale). Satisficing, raising my uncertainty threshold, and creating as a response to over-thinking. BTW– next week’s episode is my last episode before a fall break! 

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#266. In this installment of ASK P, we’re hearing from listeners about surprise breakups, pending breakups, adapting to life post-college, and losing your virginity in your 20s. This is the last ASK P of 2026 — be back in 2027!

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#265. I’m back with a quarterly favorites episode, this time helping you achieve your coziest fall ever. We’re starting with style– think investment pieces, trends, where to shop– moving on to beauty favorites, home decor swaps, what I’m making in the kitchen, fall rituals, and more.

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#264. Unfortunately, summer is coming to an end (though I'm not ready to admit it). Nonetheless, we have a lot to catch up on. I'm going through the whole summer — France, Texas, Joe's season, Los Angeles, Georgetown, the National Security Summit — plus what this fall looks like heading into the hardest course of my program. I also have some news about the show.

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#263. Everyone's talking about the oxytocin menu, so this week I'm building mine — with a very honest look at what the research actually supports. Built like the dopamine menu, this episode includes Oxytocin appetizers through specials: the 20-second hug, the long phone call, the standing weekly thing.    

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#262. We’re talking about the realities of Beauty Maxxing, the good & the bad, with Caroline Stern. In this episode, we are sharing procedures we’ve undergone, what we regret, and touch on the emotional side of beauty maxxing and the desire to change yourself. How far is too far? What is worth the price? Where does one draw the line? All in this episode of Note to Self. 

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#261. Kristen went on a date with her task rabbit. Emon can’t stop talking about 4d movies and her nemesis from 2nd grade. Your favorite girls from the now-defunct 3 Way podcast are back on the mic for a few very important life updates. 

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#260. The men are not alright in today’s installment of ASK P. We’re talking about relationships, post-college life, guy friends & beyond this week. 

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#259. A re-release of a favorite, Things I Left Behind to Gain Peace, and some of these may be rather controversial. In every era of my life, whenever I notice I’m a little on-edge, I realize I’m more often in need of releasing what doesn’t suit me rather than adding to my life. What are you releasing in this era? 

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