#236. I’m sitting down with content creator Greta Louise Tomé for a conversation that covers all the things your group chat has been debating. They get into the real rules around moving in together, why your community matters more than you think when it comes to baby timing, and why "what's your Plan B?" is a question worth retiring for good. Plus — Greta shares her philosophy on being sexy for yourself, and why a little creativity might be the most feminine thing you can do.

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#235. In this month’s installment of ASK P, we are tackling listener questions on topics like romantic relationships, to friendships, to knowing ourselves. What do I do when my life feels too boring? Should I leave my relationship due to incompatibility? When should I exit the friendship? Listen to ASK P on Note to Self every month, and write in your own Qs (anonymously) via the link below. 

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#234. Talia Hubble has a theory: when life falls apart, you set the table. The content creator and hostess extraordinaire joins Payton for a conversation about her recent home renovation, navigating a breakup in her thirties, and why her answer to heartbreak was to invite everyone she loves over for dinner. Talia talks about building a life split between New York City and her Rhode Island cottage, the way nesting became her love language during a hard season, and how intentional hosting became her most powerful form of self-care. This one is for the woman who is learning that community isn't just something you find,It's something you create, one dinner party at a time.

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#233:

In a season that glorifies romantic love, this episode is your reminder that the most important relationship you’ll ever build is the one you have with yourself. We’re talking about falling in love with yourself in ways that are both romantic and psychologically grounded — from small rituals that make you feel cared for to the science of self-trust and self-compassion. Whether you’re single or deeply partnered, this is your invitation to become someone you feel safe, steady, and proud to be.

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#232. Brittany Ball joins Payton to unpack what it really looks like to choose yourself over and over again through life’s biggest transitions. They talk about young motherhood, navigating divorce, co-parenting in a non-traditional dynamic, and finding love again without losing yourself in the process. This episode is a reminder that trusting your inner knowing can open doors to a life more honest, expansive, and aligned than the one you were “supposed” to live.

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#231. This episode is a candid life update and a values-driven conversation about navigating the current U.S. political climate as a woman who cares deeply but needs to take small moments for herself. We talk about boundaries, nervous system care, and how to stay clear-headed, informed, and aligned.

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#230. In this Ask P episode of Note to Self, Payton answers listener questions about navigating life’s in-between seasons — from fresh breakups and New Year resets to long-term relationship “ebbs,” family dynamics, friendship loss, and early dating red flags. This episode explores how to move through heartbreak while staying hopeful, maintain independence inside committed relationships, and set boundaries with parents as an adult. Payton also shares her perspective on New Year’s resolutions that actually stick, staying motivated during winter, and how to find peace when a friendship ends without closure. If you’re in your 20s or 30s and rebuilding, recalibrating, or quietly starting over, this episode offers grounded advice and permission to take your time.

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#229. If you’ve done the work but still don’t feel fully present, this episode is for you. We break down why getting out of your head isn’t a mindset shift but a nervous system one, and how embodiment creates calm, confidence, and connection. Think of this as a gentle invitation back into your body — and back into yourself.

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#228. Welcome to the 2026 toolkit—a curated collection of what's working, what's worth it, and what creates the infrastructure for an intentional life. This isn't about perfection or having it all figured out; it's about the specific tools, rituals, and systems that help you show up as a better version of yourself. Your good life starts with what you choose to let in. 

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#227. January isn’t about becoming someone new—it’s about editing what already exists. This week, we’re talking about the art of curation: the rituals worth protecting, the urgency worth releasing, and the one thing you’re building just for you. Welcome to The Annual Edit.

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