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Did you know there are two main types of thinking in marriage? 

If you want a thriving marriage you have to learn to think both emotionally and transactionally.  

Emotional thinking is subjective and is tied to how you "feel."

Transactional thinking is objective and is tied to "logic." 

Typically, you will fall into one category more naturally than the other. But when you learn to think both ways, with the ability to pivot naturally, you'll discover a powerful tool in your relationship.

The Bible gives us two examples of this type of thinking - in the life of King David and Jesus.

In this episode we will dive into both of these examples as we discuss the power of thinking both ways and the practical steps we can take to switch between the two. 

And, if you haven't read our book Beauty In Battle, you can grab a copy HERE!

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One of our greatest needs in marriage is emotional connection.  But that's impossible if you're not first emotionally intelligent.

In this episode we're going to look at the two parts of the brain - the emotional and the logical - and discuss how we can make sure the emotional side of us stays healthy and strong so we can remain connected to our spouse.

We'll also talk about the four parts of emotional intelligence and the research that shows how our emotional intelligence far outweighs our cognitive intelligence when it comes to success in life.

When we're done, you'll be equipped with tools that will not only help you to understand yourself better, but connect with your spouse on a deeply personal level.

And for Tori's jokes, they weren't quite as good in this episode, but she tried hard - and for that, she gets an "A+!"  Ha Ha Ha

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One of the best things we've done in our marriage that's helped us understand each other better is taking the Enneagram.  Knowing our enneagram types has given us new eyes to see each other and understand the core motivations that fuel our behavior.

And, as many of you may not know, Tori is a certified Enneagram coach. As such, she has a deep understanding into this powerful tool and how it can help you and your spouse get along better!

So in this episode, we dive into the nine enneagram types and talk about how we can relate to each other regardless of where we are on the scale.

Oh, and Tori's jokes are pretty epic in this one. Just being honest.

Enjoy!

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How badly do you want the spark that started your relationship back?

The power of desire is so important in a relationship because it's where it all starts. What's interesting is the longer you're married, (Can I get a witness?!) that desire begins to wane off.

You can restore your desire for your spouse.

Don't buy that freaking lie of, 'Well, when you get married, you know...feelings are supposed to go away.'

Fight for your spouse and the treasure that is your marriage.

In this episode, we talk about:

• If you really want it, you'll go get it.
• You arouse desire by where you spend your time.
• The 3 D’s - determination, discipline, diligence.

Mentioned in this episode:

• The Importance of Pursuit

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Conflict is the one topic that nobody wants to talk about, but everybody wants to talk about.

And it comes down to one thing:

Do you know how to fight well with your spouse?

When we start talking about conflict, we have to remember who the real enemy is (hint: it's NOT your spouse!).

It takes a mature person to be in the heat of conflict and find a way to speak life into their spouse at that moment.

This life-giving act has the strength to break chains and to knock down walls.

Fighting with your spouse can bring you closer together rather than draw you apart if you learn to fight the right way. That's what this episode is all about.

Here are a few things we talk about:

• The two things that always manifest in every conflict. 
• How to manage conflict, rather than resolve it. 
• The proper way to handle conflict when it happens. 

Mentioned in this Episode:

• A New Pair of Glasses

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Seeing isn't just believing - it's behaving!

If you want to see positive change in your marriage you have to adjust the way you see your relationship.

How you see determines how you act.

In this episode, we dive deep into practical ways you can change the way you view your spouse and your marriage so your relationship will thrive no matter how crazy and chaotic your life may be!

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You can harness and utilize dopamine (the feel-good chemical for your body) consistently for your marriage.

Wait, what?

Did you know that your brain releases dopamine when you pursue a goal? When you have that sense of fulfillment and accomplishment...when you achieve it.

This is great news for married couples because when you pursue your spouse with a sense of winning their heart, dopamine floods your body and it feels good.

That's what we're going to talk about in this episode - the value of pursuit and how we can stay in "full pursuit" mode without letting it fade away, so the dopamine in our bodies can do what it does!

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You can't build a house without establishing a foundation first. In this episode, we'll dive deep into several fundamental concepts upon which you can build your marriage. 

We'll also talk about how your marriage is a lot like a triangle. The closer you draw to God individually the closer you get to each other relationally. And when you do, everything in your marriage changes for the better. 

Tune in as we talk about some key foundational thoughts on marriage and why your spouse was meant to be a little bit like sandpaper to make you into the person God wants you to be. 

As Gary Thomas says, "your marriage isn't to make you happy, it's to make you holy!"
Oh, and Tori has some epic jokes as well!

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Do you remember where you were when 911 took place?

We had only been married nine months, and the image of the weeks and months that followed etched in our memories forever. All of us as Americans felt so connected to each other, and for a brief moment in history, we put aside our differences and chose to fight alongside each other against an enemy who wanted to take us out. 

We saw firsthand how fighting together drew us together and knew from that moment forward the lessons we learned from that tragic day 20+ years ago can be applied to marriage. 

There's a very real battle going on in the world. It's a spiritual struggle between the forces of good and evil. And God has designed your marriage as a divine weapon for the fight! 

But Satan wants you to fight FACE TO FACE against each other rather than SHOULDER TO SHOULDER against him. Why? Because he knows that's the only way he can win. 

The beauty of marriage is discovered when a couple chooses to no longer fight AGAINST each other in a personal war but rather ALONGSIDE one another in the spiritual battle.

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