So often, we acquiesce.

Not because we’re weak, but because it’s easier.

Easier to go along with his mood, his energy, his comfort zone—than to sit with what’s actually alive inside of us.

If I just soften, smile, agree, maybe the tension will go away.

Maybe love will feel safe again.

But when I do that too quickly, without checking in with me first, something happens: I start to disappear.

And with that disappearing act comes resentment.

Tiny and quiet at first, like a whisper we don’t want to admit we hear. We tell ourselves, “I’m fine. I’m the cool girl.

I can handle this.” But under that “fine” is a feeling that never got acknowledged.

And when we keep stuffing that feeling down just to keep the peace, we slowly lose touch with our true feminine power.

But what if we didn’t do that?

What if your first reaction wasn’t to him, but to you?

This is the practice!

It’s in those exact moments—when he’s distracted or cold or unavailable—that you have a choice.

You could shrink and make it about him…

Or you could lean into your own body, your own breath, and ask gently, “What’s happening in me?”

When we respond to ourselves first, something softens and steadies. Maybe we don’t need to say anything right away. Maybe the moment becomes a cup of tea, stroking the cat, letting our nervous system settle.

And sometimes—often, even—before you know it, he’s right there, arms around you, pulled back in by the magnetic truth of your centeredness.

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Love, Rori