Being messy is one of the first steps to being free.

How could you possibly go from being constricted and choosing men who don’t give you real love to being free enough to have amazing relationships and an amazing life?

 On the way to your feminine energy, everything comes apart. 

You have to untangle the beads before you can make a new necklace.

 It’s going to be messy — but that’s how you begin to breathe again.

When you hide your emotions, your nervous system breaks down. 

Stress overloads you, and the patterns that once kept you safe start to crumble. 

That’s when the feminine arrives — in the chaos, in the feeling, in the honesty of who you really are. 

Because when you finally let yourself be messy — when you stop trying to hold it all together — that’s the moment your feminine energy wakes up.
This is the heart of feminine energy — and Siren Island will help you live it every day.

The Siren Island Official Course & Community will get you where you want to go in every part of your life because you'll finally learn how to live from your Feminine Energy.

Check out Siren Island here:

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Love, Rori

Sometimes the man you’re drawn to brings out fear, anger, or pain. And when he finally shows up, what you feel isn’t joy… it’s relief.

Have you noticed that when you feel afraid most of the time, everything starts to feel heavy — even your relationships?That little rush of chemistry or passion can feel like love, but real love feels different. It feels safe. Steady. Connected.If he isn’t truly showing up — if you’re carrying the whole relationship — that’s not love. That’s fear running the show.You deserve something real. That’s why I created The Rori Raye Feminine Energy Siren Island — a space to heal your emotions, learn how to recognize real love, and grow your ability to have it all just by being your authentic girl-self.Siren Island is here:https://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/siren-island-mystic/Love, Rori

We’re not broken — it’s trauma! Many of us choose partners who aren’t good for us, sometimes even narcissists or psychopaths, and blame ourselves.

It’s your background, not your worth.We’ve been taught to stay small, and yet the healing begins when we expand.Try this:Stretch your arms wide. Feel the edges of the room, the mountain, the ocean.

As you grow bigger, the man you’re pining for suddenly feels smaller.You don’t have to choose between love and anger — your bigness lets you feel them all at once.

You just need to feel the feelings.In The Rori Raye Feminine Energy Siren Island, you’ll learn my Feminine Energy tools to feel stronger — inside yourself and in front of a man, now and forever, no matter where you’re starting from.Here’s Siren Island:https://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/siren-island-mystic/Love, Rori

He Wants You Mad!

Some men provoke anger on purpose. 

When he’s defensive or distant, it’s often guilt—he already feels he’s not doing enough. 

If you explode, he gets the alibi he needs to pull away: “See? You’re always angry.”

Step out of that trap.

Take two slow steps back, say nothing, and let his words land. 

Don’t feed the guilt loop.

 The shift in energy alone can change the whole dynamic.

Many of us feel drawn to the men who give the least, while dismissing the good ones. 

That isn’t weakness—it’s subconscious self-protection. 

The first step toward change is to notice the pattern and stop giving away your life-force to men who won’t meet you halfway.

Lean back.

Breathe.

Protect your energy.

When you stop reacting, you break the cycle and reclaim your power to choose love that feels safe, healthy, and mutual.

Bring the tools off the podcast and into your life.

Join Siren Island for live classes, a replay library, and a warm, supportive community.

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Love, Rori

What saved me was circular dating.

the simple decision to keep meeting people, stay social, and treat all men as equal until one puts a ring on your finger.

For years I believed that once I kissed someone, I had to be exclusive.

That mindset kept me stuck.

Circular dating freed me to connect, to heal through being social—even coffee dates, language meetups, or just standing and letting people talk to me.

Most of us choose men who don’t truly choose us because our subconscious wants us to stay single—it’s trying to protect us from old pain handed down by family, childhood, and even generations.

The key is learning to feel instead of suppress.

Feelings are the healing!

When we make all men equal and express ourselves honestly—especially when triggered—we begin to love from a place of power instead of fear.

Want to learn my Circular Dating tools in real life with coaching and support?

Siren Island is where you’ll find a full and growing library of coaching demonstrations, live workshops, and a loving circle of women practicing together.

Siren Island is here:

https://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/siren-island-mystic/

Love, Rori 

Why have you chosen a complicated, difficult relationship?

Why are we choosing complex, difficult relationships?

Because we want to.

Yes—you’re afraid of intimacy. 

You’re afraid of commitment.

Do you choose men who make you pine for them?

It is all us.

It’s all you.

Why do I want this complexity?

We are all choosing to match what happened with our parents.

The discomfort of love and relationship—the pain of bad relationships—actually becomes our norm in our brains.

And we keep trying to repeat it.

We are trusting our chemical attraction and following that… more than we are following our actual want.

The conflict is this:

I want security.

I want ease.

I want to feel relaxed.

But just waiting for him to do stuff, and spending your life waiting—

that is a choice we make because we really don’t want a relationship.

You’ve been trained to choose what’s difficult.

But it can feel natural—even easy—to want connection, commitment, and love - and start baby-step by baby step to let love in! 

If this lands for you...

On Siren Island you’ll have access to tools, guides, and live personal coaching.

Try Siren Island for a month for only $33.

Siren Island is here:

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Love, Rori 

If you find yourself taking the responsibility for the relationship and the apologeticness of the conflicts that happen all the time… if you’re always trying to solve stuff, excusing him for bad behavior, and it’s always in 60/40, 70/30 mode where you’re doing most of it—something’s wrong.

The Modern Siren tools work—sometimes so well that a man who isn’t truly ready can still look like he is.

That’s why the real power isn’t just in using the tools—it’s in going deeper, listening to your intuition, and choosing only the love that’s real.

It fools you because he’s able to step up when he wants to.

And by the way, this is a narcissist’s whole ability for roping in women—they’re really good at convincing you they’ve got the goods.

They can convince you for months, even years, and then their real self shows up.

You don’t get to have a long-distance relationship because you can’t handle it, because we choose difficult relationships for a reason.

This is something I want you to ask yourself: Why am I choosing a difficult relationship?

Difficult would be a long distance.

I don’t get to touch him.

He doesn’t get to smell me.

He doesn’t get to feel me.

So how can he actually feel anything? He can’t.

Dismantle the pattern keeping you stuck in difficult relationships, and learn to swim fully in your feminine energy—and in the love you truly want—on Siren Island.

Learn more about Siren Island here: https://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/siren-island-mystic/

Love, Rori

You already have a script inside you — from your parents, your school, your society, your religion.

But are you actually living your life on your playbook or somebody else’s?

Many women wake up in midlife realizing they’ve been following someone else’s rules the whole time.

The truth is: the man in front of you may be a partner in your life, but he is not the center of your life.

You are the center of your life.

When you begin to shift into your own center, fear comes up — because it means facing the parts of yourself that have stayed small or quiet out of habit. But those baby steps into your own gravity are where empowerment starts.

When you take baby steps, you’re not just changing habits — you’re meeting yourself.

You’re uncovering the parts that push love away, the pieces terrified of connection, the lonely places that stay lonely on purpose.

On Siren Island, this is what you’ll practice — baby step by tiny, manageable baby step, with a global community of women beside you. Together, you’ll soften, experiment, and reclaim the playbook of your own life.

Siren Island is here:

https://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/siren-island-mystic/

Love, Rori

If you ever find yourself feeling invisible in a room with your man and his friends, pause and ask: Why am I here?

If this is an everyday pattern, that’s a red flag.

But if he’s otherwise a great guy, don’t force yourself into his moments with his buddies.

Instead, notice your feelings and share them with warmth: “I love that you have such great friends, and I also feel a little left out. I want more time with you—what do you think?”

The key is knowing what you truly want, not reshaping a man to fit you.

If his lifestyle leaves you aching, that’s valuable information. And while you figure it out, don’t collapse into desperation.

Circular Dating — being social, having options, letting yourself be seen — protects your heart and builds sanity.

When you stop pushing and start living fully, your vibe shifts. You feel safe, empowered, and magnetic again.

🌸 On Siren Island, we practice turning ouch into options — learning how to express your feelings without pressure, and discovering what you truly want so you’re not just reacting, you’re creating your love story.

Inside, you’ll explore tools and how-tos for Circular Dating and Empowering your Feminine Energy, so you feel good no matter what is happening — plus live coaching and community support to help you feel magnetic, safe, and chosen in love.

Siren Island is here:

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Love, Rori 

If you are pulling away from him because he’s too handsome or you’re pulling away because he’s not handsome enough, ask yourself, “Okay, this is a free therapy session with a man who showed up. Let’s find out his message and let’s treat him like a good person.”

Breathe.

You don’t have to go home and wash your hair.

Just learn whatever you’re there for.

Think of it as a spiritual experience, and practice speaking to this guy you might otherwise want to shut down or dismiss.

This is where your power is: bold sharing of your actual feeling state. This is your superpower.

Can you imagine how many women in the world cannot do this—99% of them? And how many men feel pushed, shoved, and treated poorly by women? We’re not here to treat guys badly.

We’re here to find a partner, someone who gets us. And how will they get you if you don’t share what’s really going on?

The whole “high maintenance” thing is a sham. Men love high maintenance women.

There’s a big difference between being high maintenance and being dramatic, angry, or pissed off at him for everything.

That’s what he’s trying to avoid. If you tell him what you want, he can relax.

He doesn’t have to guess anymore.

Yes, it’s vulnerable. Yes, it’s facing our own wants and expectations.

And yet, the practice of gently experimenting, saying things out loud, and treating a man you don’t even see romantically as just a good person—it’s revolutionary.

You don’t even have to know why you matched.

Just let yourself be there. 

In Feminine Energy, what we’re really aiming for is finding what you’re feeling, what makes you feel good, and sharing that.

This flies in the face of everything we’ve been patterned to do around men… and we’re turning it all around, baby step by baby step.

Inside, Siren Island—my official course, community, and so much more. you’ll be invited into real Siren conversations like this one, learn transformational tools, and experience what it means to live in the power of the Modern Siren.

Here’s Siren Island:

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Love, Rori