Beyond Skin Picking & Hair Pulling

If you're always on the go, chasing the next achievement, and only letting yourself relax once everything is done, this episode is for you.

In this heart-to-heart, I share what slowing down really means (and what it doesn't), why high-achievers resist it, and how you can begin doing it without guilt, shame, or losing your edge. Because slowing down isn’t about doing less, it’s about doing life with more presence, peace, and purpose.

You’ll learn:

• Why constantly being “on” drains your decision-making and self-worth
• A powerful metaphor that explains what you’re missing by rushing through life
• Four small shifts to start slowing down today (without throwing your routine out the window)
• What to do when slowing down feels uncomfortable, pointless, or unproductive
• How to handle others judging your pace and why slowing down inspires more than it disappoints

This isn’t about laziness or neglect, it’s about choosing intentionality over autopilot. Tune in and give yourself the permission you didn’t know you needed.

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

In this powerful episode, we dive deep into the concept of relationship blueprints, the subconscious patterns that shape how we connect, love, argue, and attach.

Together with guest Adam Hudson, we explore the anxious-avoidant trap, what drives hyper-independence, how to identify your own blueprint, and the exact tools you need to rewire old emotional habits.

Whether you're anxiously attached, avoidant, or somewhere in between, this conversation will help you take radical responsibility for your patterns without shame, and offer hope that deep, stable connection is possible.

What We Cover:

• What a “relationship blueprint” is and where it comes from
• The real difference between attachment style and attachment blueprint
• Why anxious and avoidant partners are so often drawn to each other, and how it plays out
• The myth of hyper-independence and the cost of emotional self-protection
• How to self-soothe and regulate when you're triggered
• Why avoiding conflict doesn't keep you safe - it keeps you disconnected
• The specific steps both anxious and avoidant types can take to build security
• Why healing your attachment wounds in partnership can be the most powerful growth work you'll ever do

Quote Highlight:

"You’re not unlovable - you’re running a blueprint that you didn’t consciously choose. But once you see it, you can change it."

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

In this episode, Rafaela dives deep into why chronic skin picking often flares up when we’re struggling to focus — and what you can do about it. She shares science-backed, practical tools to help you ground yourself, improve concentration, and break free from the shame spiral that comes with distraction and avoidance.

Whether you live with ADHD, get stuck in overwhelm, or just feel scattered during the day, this episode offers gentle, actionable support to help you work with your brain, not against it.

What You’ll Learn:

• Two simple focus-boosting tools: magnesium + the Pomodoro method
• Why pushing through distraction often backfires
• How to break big tasks into smaller, doable steps
• The importance of realistic expectations and adjusting your workload
• How to use “bridging tasks” to transition between activities
• Tips to reduce overwhelm and create a smoother daily flow
• Why working with yourself is more effective than forcing discipline

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re hiding parts of yourself or struggling to speak up, Angela’s story will deeply resonate and remind you of what’s possible when you choose to show up with self-love.

In this powerful session, I’m joined by Angela, a courageous client who opens up about her year-long journey of transformation.

What began as a desire to stop skin picking turned into something much deeper: learning to trust herself, speak up, and live from a place of compassion rather than shame.

Angela shares how she went from carrying skin-picking tools everywhere to no longer needing them at all!

We dive into the connection between suppressed emotions and compulsive behaviors, the life-changing impact of using her voice, and the ripple effect of healing not only for herself but for the young girls she now mentors.

She also vulnerably opens up about uncovering family secrets, finding a new sense of identity, and stepping into unfamiliar spaces.

What we talk about in this session:

• The moment Angela stopped believing there was something “wrong” with her
• How she broke free from the cycle of shame and control
• Using her voice in moments she would've stayed silent before
• The surprising connection between silence, frustration, and skin picking

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

Welcome to Untapped Confidence, formerly the Untapped Potential Podcast. In this episode, I share why the podcast has a new name and how it reflects the deeper purpose of this space.

We also explore an important question from my free support group - "Why does eating sugar increase the urge to pick your skin?+

Here’s what you’ll learn:
 • How sugar impacts dopamine, stress, and emotional regulation
 • Why sugar cravings and skin picking urges are biologically connected
 • What the research says about sugar’s addictive nature
 • Three realistic ways to reduce sugar’s impact without going cold turkey
 • How to enjoy sweets more mindfully without falling into picking spirals

This is a grounded, practical conversation that helps you take more control without creating food anxiety.

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

If you've ever felt stuck, misaligned, or quietly overwhelmed by a life that looks good on paper but feels off inside, this episode is for you.

In this conversation, we explore what it really takes to come home to yourself.

Through the lens of Adam Hudson’s raw, personal story, we unpack the deeper patterns behind burnout, disconnection, and fear of being seen so you can start rewriting your own.

Inside this episode:

• Why rebuilding self-trust is the foundation for real change
• How to stop avoiding your truth and start hearing it
• What the inner rebel is trying to tell you, and how to let it guide you
• Why empowerment isn’t about perfection, but radical self-acceptance
• The hidden cost of success when it’s built on suppression
• How to know when it’s time to walk away from something that no longer fits
• What to do when healing feels messy, nonlinear, or slow

Whether you’re navigating loss, a big transition, or a quiet inner reckoning, this episode will give you insight, language, and hope for what comes next.

Press play and reconnect with the version of you that’s been waiting to rise.

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

What if your intrusive thoughts weren’t something wrong with you—but actually a protective mechanism rooted in past experiences?

In this heartfelt episode, Raffaela Marie dives deep into the nature of intrusive thoughts, exploring how they connect to chronic skin picking and other Body-Focused Repetitive Behaviors (BFRBs).
Drawing from her personal healing journey and research, Raffaela sheds light on why intrusive thoughts develop, how they often stem from trauma, and why self-acceptance and community are essential for lasting healing.

You’ll learn:

• What intrusive thoughts really are - and what they’re not
• Why these thoughts often emerge from a place of protection, not pathology
• How intrusive thoughts fuel compulsive behaviors like skin picking
• Practical, holistic strategies for managing intrusive thoughts with compassion

If you've ever felt ashamed, afraid, or stuck because of the thoughts in your mind, this episode offers hope, understanding, and a realistic path forward.

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

Do you feel like chronic skin picking is more of a compulsion or like OCD rather than a behavioural addiction?

In this episode, Raffaela Marie dives into the nuanced relationship between chronic skin picking and compulsive behaviours, and obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD). Drawing from personal experiences and psychological insights, she explores how skin picking can function as a compulsive behaviour tied to control, intrusive thoughts, and emotional overwhelm.

You’ll gain clarity on:

• How OCD shows up in skin picking patterns
• The role of control, perfectionism, and anxiety
• Why shame-free understanding is key to healing
• How to relate more compassionately to your urges

This is a must-listen for anyone questioning the root of their behavior or seeking a more informed, supportive path to recovery. Whether you’ve been diagnosed with OCD or simply suspect there’s more beneath the surface, this episode brings depth, validation, and direction.

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Timestamps:

• 00:00 – Introduction to the Podcast
• 01:21 – Understanding Chronic Skin Picking as an Addiction
• 02:58 – Exploring Chronic Skin Picking as OCD
• 07:45 – The Role of Control in OCD
• 19:42 – Personal Experiences with OCD and Intrusive Thoughts
• 28:29 – Healing and Moving Forward
• 30:15 – Conclusion and Call to Action

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

What if your heightened skin picking urges early in the year aren’t just random but rooted in deeper emotional patterns and unrealistic expectations?

In this episode, we explore why skin picking often intensifies during the first few months of the year. Through heartfelt personal reflections and powerful listener stories, we unpack the pressure of New Year’s resolutions, post-holiday fatigue, and rising responsibilities that can all become hidden triggers.

This episode offers practical tools and a compassionate mindset shift to help you:

• Recognize and manage seasonal and situational triggers
• Let go of the pressure to “start fresh” perfectly
• Create goals that align with your capacity, not your inner critic
• Prioritize rest and self-kindness as part of your healing journey

Whether you're feeling overwhelmed by expectations or stuck in a cycle of picking, this episode offers a supportive roadmap for regaining your balance.

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

NAC (N-Acetyl Cysteine) is often recommended to people struggling with dermatillomania, but does it actually work? In this episode, we break down what NAC really is, how it functions in the body, and why it might help reduce chronic skin picking.

We’ll explore:

• What NAC is and how it’s connected to antioxidants and glutathione
• How oxidative stress affects your body (and mind)
• The possible link between NAC and neurotransmitters like dopamine and glutamate
• Real experiences from the community on whether it helped
• What else you can do to support your healing from the inside out

Plus, Raffaela shares simple but powerful lifestyle shifts that support your nervous system and reduce urges - no supplement required.

If you've been curious about NAC or wondering whether it's worth adding to your routine, this episode is a must-listen.

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.