Birth Moms Real Talk

Abby is a transracial adoptee as a black adoptee adopted in 1971 by white parents. Her family was interested in adopting another Black child but that did not work out.

Her family were told by adoption agencies that a Black child would be the“Cheapest and Quickest “.

Abby started searching earnestly for her “truth” with her mother’s dementia,diagnosis.

Abby is also a Birth/First Mother and psychotherapist serving clients in the adoption constellation.

Abby spoke about the “ Real Truth” in Adoption dispels the Blank Slate ,Nurture over Nature that she heard in her family .

She speaks about her “ Dream Family” for her son placed in adoption.

The Truth Always Prevails and we need to Talk the Truth about the Trauma

Samantha was truly a joy to talk to about her Journey becoming a mother.

Samantha is in an open adoption and spoke so openly about the challenges of determining the best option for her son.

The voices of “ They “ seems to appear in many podcast episodes .

Our minds have many facets of living the life of a birth/first/natural mother .

Like many mothers, Samantha finds Mother’s Day especially emotionally charged.

We think about the ‘ little humans that we bring into this world.

Moms go through many journeys; all we ask is that “ They “ simply ‘ Take a Walk in Our Shoes “.

We are so proud of Samantha as she walks boldly through her journey .

Kathie sent me an email after listening to my story on BMRT to share that she is breaking through her wall of brokenness, shame and trauma .

Kathie talked about her not having a voice as a survivor.

Words spoken to us in childhood can stay with us for life. Relationships depend on love and trust and endure only when both are expressed and affirmed.

Kathie stood steadfast through all her difficult times to stay on The Road of Hope.

Talking about our trauma takes bravery and courage . We applaud you , Kathie.

Kathie’s account of her family’s lack of communication brought back memories of my own family.

“They “ are people who don’t walk in out ‘shoes’ with their own opinion that sometimes have a ‘stronghold over our thoughts, ONLY if we allow .

Kathie has turned her Pain into her Path of Hope.

Kate shared her story after a period of soul searching and faith to gather the courage. I was so pleased to hear from her again after nearly 4 years . she was ready to share .

It takes a tremendous amount of courage to share our story of loss as a birth/first/natural mother .

The trauma is real and our body keeps the score even if we don’t .

Kate allowed her love for her son to overshadow any disappointment .

Kate occupies two spaces in the adoption constellation as an adoptee and a birth mom.

Listen to her share her story and the path towards Grace and Healing that she is on and encourages others to join her.

We talked with Tara, a good friend and birth/first mother who shares her story of facing the dilemma of her teenage pregnancy and deciding her path .

Tara shared about her fear of telling her parents and her denial after the first pregnancy test. Tara found a friend and confidante who was there for her to give her encouragement and support .

In the 1990s, Mother-Baby homes were prevalent, and Tara found her voice to make her own decision.

Over the years, Tara described how she communicated with her son through their open adoption.

Tara and I shared about the imagined fear of the ‘ evil birth/first mother ‘ that “ Society ” feared would snatch their child from the adoptive families.

These emotions of leaving a ‘ piece of our heart ‘ with our children is “Real “,

Tara talked about disenfranchised fear and the ambiguous loss which many people ‘ outside’ of the adoption constellation simply don’t understand .

Tara is on her “ Path to Healing “

We celebrated BMRT 5th Anniversary at the 2026 National Council for Adoption Conference in Washington, Dc.

After 5 emotional, powerful impactful years talking to Birth/First/Natural Mothers sharing their stories has been a Healing Place of Grace. Some women have told ‘ their secret after 20, 30, 40, 50 years. Thank you for trusting me with your story .

We had the opportunity to meet fellow advocates for unsealing OBC , Rebecca in the Fight and Win in Virginia this year after many years. YES, Virginia is now pen effective July 1, 2026, for adult adoptees to receive their original birth certificate ( OBC) .

We talked about “ THEY” spoke for moms not wanting to have OBC because of the shame and forgetting about their child. We think of our children every day in one way or another just like parents who raised their children.

Rebecca talked about her journey as an adoptee and a birth/first/natural mother. She shares her unique perspective of navigating life and is now serving the adoption community as a social worker.

We talked about our experience at the NCFA and hearing comments that were somewhat disturbing at the same time knowing that our voices needed to be hard in these rooms

I spoke openly in a full ballroom that “ GOTCHA “ day celebration for adoptive family is “ LOSTYOU Day grief for first/birth/natural families .

There was an audible ‘GASP in the room . Maybe someone realized this truth for the first time . Let’s hope it did. .

Rebecca shared powerful words of “it is not the responsibility of birth/first/natural mother to heal the trauma of an adoptive family .

Adoption must ALWAYS be about the child..

The REAL Talk of this episode

“Everyone has to Do their Work to Heal “

This is a Special episode of BMRT . WE had a very candid conversation with birth/first/natural mothers, Dana, Jesse and Jori about their journey.

As I say , we are all in this together .

We also have on the podcast Drs. Ashley and Paulina , who are conducting a research study with birth/first/natural mothers to listen to US.

BMRT is in collaboration because our Voices have been silenced for so many years. This is our chance to openly candidly share our stories, our journeys of what we experienced then and now .

Our Voices of hurts and trauma have been silenced for too long. I created this platform , BMRT 5 years ago to give us a Voice . We offering you the opportunity though this research study for the world to ‘Hear US’ .

The First Families Project is a research study designed to hear the stories of families who have placed a child for adoption. In the first wave of this study, we are looking specifically at talking with birth mothers.

We want to listen to your life story to better understand what led to the placement, the placement process itself, and what life has looked like since.

I am asking all birth/first/natural mothers to participate in this research study .

Click the click below to share your story , you deserve to be heard.

As always , any mothers who wish to share on BMRT Podcast , reach out to be at [email protected]

Tell others , post this episode to your social media pages and birth/first/natural mother Facebook groups .

Don’t just talk among us , let’s talk to the world.

“They” will not understand our path unless we share.

To all who are willing to share, we are so grateful for the gift of your story. Please email us at [email protected]

Thank you Ladies, Love to All of You

Yvonne

Yvonne is H. O. T , Honest, Open, Transparent of the long advocacy fight on releasing from the vault , original birth certificate ( OBC) .

Our voices, Birth/First/Natural Mothers , need to be heard and not silenced .

Yvonne speaks about BMRT partnership with “ First Families Project “ by Dr. Paulina and Dr. Ashley on Life History Interviews with U. S. Birth Mothers.

Grief and trauma is pre-verbal for adoptees.

It is grief and trauma for mothers their entire life , the question is how mothers are dealing with Grief and Trauma .

We like to say – There is Grace in Healing , the mission of BMRT podcast , approaching 5 years in sharing the stories of birth. first. natural mothers .

BMRT is a platform for Grace and Healing

Mother’s Day is soon, what are you feeling ?

We will have a special episode on the emotions around Mother’s Day

Cassy grew up raised by her grandparents wondering why . When she found out the circumstances , she realized the sacrifice her grandparents Cassy discovered they made to ‘ Step Up ‘ to raise her.

Cassy discovered her pregnancy at a late date . Her mental mindset became a split in emotions on what to do . Cassy kept her pregnancy secret from nearly everyone .

Cassy had less than 2 hours to choose a family that would raise her child . The fact that this was Cassy’s experience , “it chills my soul “.

Cassy leaves this message to birth/first/natural mothers that “We Lead from Love” and this ‘ Love Makes Us Stronger than You Think”

Sherry shares her journey of experiencing the trauma, secrets and shame that most birth/first mothers experience. Her thoughts of denying her pregnancy and persistently saying “ I a not pregnant “. Once reality was made real , then there was the decisionthat she faced.

Sherry spoke about believing there was “ A Plan “ . Sherry and Yvonne talked about the ‘ Real Talk of what birth/first mothers went through physically as we birthed “ small humans into this life “.

Sherry shares the story of her journey and her life over the years with her daughter.

Listen how Sherry shares her emotions through “ Loving from Afar” .