Do Tell Relationship Podcast

Boundaries vs. Rules, Community, and “Burn the Cape” w/ Dr. Raquel Martin


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On this episode of Do Tell, Nina sits down with Dr. Raquel Martin to unpack the difference between boundaries vs. rules, why “ignoring my ‘no’ is aggression”, and how to rebuild community without cutting everyone off.

They also talk parenting (respect > control), friendship “bat signals,” and Dr. Raquel’s Burn the Cape movement creating mental-health spaces for Black women. If you’re navigating conflict, consent, or capacity in relationships, this one’s for you.

👤 Guest: Dr. Raquel Martin — Licensed psychologist & founder of Burn the Cape, building practical tools and community for Black mental health.

🎯 You’ll learn:

  • A simple test for boundaries vs. rules (and why most people confuse them).

  • Why “no” doesn’t mean “convince me” (consent at home, work, and online).

  • How to downgrade a one-sided friendship without burning bridges.

  • Practical ways to build community as a mental-health resource.

  • Parenting reframe: respect builds relationships; obedience builds resentment.



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