Busy Woman's Guide to Wellbeing

It’s normal when you set goals for yourself, that you get focused on the outcome. That the reason you work towards certain goals for yourself in the first place is because of that outcome that you want to achieve - an outcome which will have you feeling more confident, more balanced, more healthy or whatever it is that you want for yourself.

But what if you’re finding yourself struggling to achieve those goals? And what if it’s because you’re clinging on so tightly to the desired outcome and the happiness and success that’s going to come with it, that you’re actually unknowingly pushing that outcome further away? 

Well this week we’ll be delving into this and talking about:

-What happens when you hold on too tightly to an outcome (or more precisely, the meaning you’ve assigned to that outcome)

-How that can actually push your goals further out of reach

-The surprising thing you that you might just need to do to bring them much closer again and open up a world of possibilities

Resources:

-My website https://www.chickfit.co.uk/

-Find me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/alixchickfit

-Review and subscribe to my podcast https://www.podfollow.com/chickfit 

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Ever find yourself dragged into shiny object syndrome? With every passing moment there seems to be something newer, better, more effective popping up. Whether it’s a brand new diet which is promising all the results for minimal effort, a new workout programme that can give you the body you desire in less time than it takes to have your shower in the morning, or the latest so called miracle cure to a problem you didn’t even know you had. 

It’s what I call the noise. The noise that is constantly being projected by the world, that tells you that the answers that you’re looking for are hidden in their awesome 3 step programme, or magical supplement. The noise that consistently tells you that what you think you know - well that doesn’t work any more and it’s time to move on.

And it’s so distracting. It makes you second guess yourself, it can feel ridiculously confusing and it can keep you in this kind of state of paralysis where you either don’t know what to do for the best, or find yourself bouncing from one thing to the next in the vain hope that one day one of these things is going to start working.

We’re diving into this today and we’re going to figure out:

-what’s going on with the noise

-why you’re trapped in shiny object syndrome

-and how you can start to dial down the volume or even turn off the noise altogether to find consistency and balance in your life.

Resources:

-My website https://www.chickfit.co.uk/

-Find me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/alixchickfit

-Review and subscribe to my podcast https://www.podfollow.com/chickfit 

If you’re ready to get out of limbo and start getting results, it’s time to explore coaching opportunities with me! Check out what I can offer at https://chickfit.co.uk/therapeutic-coaching/

Do you ever feel like you’re living in a state of suspended animation? It’s that place where you feel like you’re kind of doing things to start progressing towards your goals - the research, the dreaming, the thinking, but in truth, you’re not taking concrete action yet. You’re caught between knowing what you want and actually starting that journey.

It can be a really comfortable place to be sometimes - full of the possibility of what lies ahead. But what if we end up spending way too long there? And that waiting becomes too comfortable. So comfortable in fact, that we stay stuck and just can’t seem to move forwards.

That’s what we’ll be tackling today. How to get you out of suspended animation and into action taking so you can finally start to realise your goals. Here’s how you can do it:

-Utilise “the gap” to it’s full potential

-Focusing on process rather than outcome related goals

-Leaning into imperfection

-Make the individual steps work for you

-Stop searching for more information and instead turn inwards to what you already know!

Resources:

-My website https://www.chickfit.co.uk/

-Find me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/alixchickfit

-Review and subscribe to my podcast https://www.podfollow.com/chickfit

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If you’ve ever felt guilty about taking time out for yourself, then I can confirm that you absolutely are not alone. For so many of us, it feels like to be a good mum, a good partner, a good employee, daughter, friend…or whatever other roles we might have in our lives, we have to give as much of ourselves as possible.

Which means that when we’re not doing that - when we’re not hustling, achieving, being productive or putting other things and other people first, the guilt can start to creep in. So that even when we know that taking a bit of time out would be good for us, it can start to feel almost impossible to do that.

So let’s get to the bottom of this today. Here’s what we’re talking about:

-Nervous system regulation and why it’s the glue that holds us together!

-Why we feel guilty for taking time out - and why it’s part of our conditioning and not ours to carry

-How guilt ties into our sense of worth and our sense of identity, therefore making it hard to shift

-3 ways to reduce the guilt and reframe the idea of rest

Resources:

-My website https://www.chickfit.co.uk/

-Find me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/alixchickfit

-Review and subscribe to my podcast https://www.podfollow.com/chickfit

Join me over in the brand new, totally FREE Patreon group - especially for podcast listeners - www.patreon.com/busywomansguide

Sometimes it feels like you’re doing a lot of the things you need to get a result - but you’re not quite doing everything you could. And yet in spite of the fact you know this, there’s still a big part of you that’s just getting frustrated that you’re not getting the result that you truly want.

And we can sometimes end up here for a long time - hoping that we can keep doing the same things and something is just going to magically shift or change, or that some super easy, effortless hack is going to pop up that means we’ll finally get where we want to.

But we all know that’s not the way things work. So today, I’m talking about how to decide the best route to take when you’re in this situation, and how to decide what you’re truly willing to do to see the changes that you want.

Takeaways include:

-Why staying on “resistance road” is tempting - but unhelpful

-Empowering yourself by choosing between “acceptance avenue” or the “commitment causeway”

-Weighing up the compromises and pros and cons to each approach

Resources:

-My website https://www.chickfit.co.uk/

-Find me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/alixchickfit

-Review and subscribe to my podcast https://www.podfollow.com/chickfit

Ready to take what we’ve talked about today and turn it into positive action? Join me over in the brand new, totally free Patreon group just for podcast listeners - www.patreon.com/busywomansguide

Safe to say that we all engage in a bit of emotional eating from time to time. But if its something that we start to feel is sabotaging our efforts with healthier eating on a regular basis, then it can become really tempting to try and control it with diets, restriction and cutting out certain foods for periods of time.

We feel like the more control we have over ourselves, the less likely we will be to react emotionally to food. But unfortunately, that strategy often falls on it’s face. Today we’ll be delving into what’s going on with emotional eating - whether what we’re experiencing is actually the result of something different, and then we’ll explore some practical strategies for tackling the self sabotage of emotional eating once and for all.

Takeaways include:

-How to find out if you’re really experiencing emotional eating, or if it could be something else

-Why emotional eating isn’t necessarily a bad thing

-The steps we can take to stop sabotaging with emotional eating

Resources:

-My website https://www.chickfit.co.uk/

-Find me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/alixchickfit

-Review and subscribe to my podcast https://www.podfollow.com/chickfit

Join me over in the brand new, totally FREE Patreon group - especially for podcast listeners - www.patreon.com/busywomansguide

We’d all love to feel more in control right - to be able to deal with all the day to day stuff that life throws at us, to be totally organised and to have the time to look after ourselves as well. And in that mythical land where we are the ones in control, everything suddenly feels easy, we can finally be exactly who we want to be, and we can have the life that we crave.

Except what if all of this effort we’re putting into having control is actually having the opposite effect - making us feel more anxious and keeping us awake at 3 in the morning as we try to figure out how to keep it all together and manage life to the very best of our ability. 

Well today we’re going in. We’re talking about what we think we’re going to achieve and feel in our lives by having more control - and we’re maybe going to busy a myth or two around that which will have you thinking very differently by the end of this episode.

Takeaways include:

-What really happens when we try and exert more control in our lives

-The dangers of super high personal expectations and all of those “should” 

-What happens when you finally let go of people pleasing

Resources:

-My website https://www.chickfit.co.uk/

-Find me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/alixchickfit

-Review and subscribe to my podcast https://www.podfollow.com/chickfit

Book your Unstuck & Unstoppable session - and claim your free follow up session (only available until Wed 5th Feb 2025) - https://chickfit.co.uk/unstuck-unstoppable/

I’ve been a personal trainer for well over 11 years now - and in that time I’ve learnt so so much. But what I’ve particularly learnt from are some of those early experiences I had where I showed up full of the naivety of a newly qualified PT thinking that all I needed was to show up with a brilliantly designed programme and everyone was guaranteed to get the results they wanted.

So you can imagine my disappointment when it didn’t always go to plan. But the great news for you is that it means I’ve learnt an awful lot about what women actually need - and I want to share that with you today - 5 of the key lessons I’ve learnt that you can apply to your own life to get so much closer to those fitness, wellbeing and lifestyle goals that you have right now.

Takeaways include:

-Why cultivating your own motivation is crucial for achieving fitness goals

-How connecting to the deeper emotional reasons behind fitness goals can drive real change

-What procrastination is REALLY about (it’s not what you think)

Resources:

-My website https://www.chickfit.co.uk/

-Find me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/alixchickfit

-Review and subscribe to my podcast https://www.podfollow.com/chickfit

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Listen to episode 173: The 3 vital phases you need to know about to create consistency with your fitness - https://pod.fo/e/27d857 

Plateaus in fitness (and motivation) can be super frustrating. BUT they are a natural and necessary part of the journey toward long-term health and wellness. So this week we’re diving into how you can approach, bust through and even embrace those plateaus rather than seeing them as a failure which can ruin your long term progress.

In fact, fitness plateaus can be an amazing time to build resilience and mental strength - we just need to cultivate a few key skills and strategies in order to make that happen. Here’s what we’ll cover:

-Plateaus are a normal part of any fitness journey, and learning to embrace them is essential.

-The different ways in which we can measure our fitness, change our perspective, and therefore recognise the other ways we’re making progress.

-Learning the skill of patience - and all that it brings with it

Resources:

-My website https://www.chickfit.co.uk/

-Find me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/alixchickfit

-Review and subscribe to my podcast https://www.podfollow.com/chickfit

FIND OUT MORE ABOUT THE MIDLIFE REBOOT AND SECURE YOUR SPACE AT https://chickfit.co.uk/midlife-reboot/

Listen to Episode 153 - Body Image & Midlife - The NEW Impossible standard? Right here - https://pod.fo/e/248434

Our 40s and 50s can be a huge flashpoint when it comes to our relationship with our bodies. A flashpoint that can feel even harder to navigate when it feels like all the strategies that used to work for us are no longer working - when our bodies are changing in ways that we don’t feel comfortable about and yet it feels like there’s nothing we can do to stop it. 

Now of course, there are absolutely things we can do to hold back the tide - I’m sure you all know by now that things like more protein and strength training are the way to go - but I believe there’s more to it than that. That this is also an opportunity for us to really address our body image and how we feel about our bodies in a way that we might never have done before.

So today I want to dive into body positivity and body neutrality, and how we can use them (especially the latter) to not just make friends with our bodies, but to improve our overall health and wellbeing too.

Resources:

-My website https://www.chickfit.co.uk/

-Find me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/alixchickfit

-Review and subscribe to my podcast https://www.podfollow.com/chickfit