Captivate the Room

Welcome to the podcast. I'm your host, Tracy Goodwin. And I'm so glad to have you with me today as always. Thank you so much for your shares and your downloads and for being a subscriber. I love being on this voice journey with you, and I've got a great episode for you today. Today, we're going to talk about controlling the outcome and your voice.

As I do every year, I took August off and I normally take August off because I have for the last 12 years been involved in a program for youth. I'm not doing that program anymore, but this August I moved across the country in a pandemic. 

I’m glad to back!  I've got some super exciting episodes for you coming up and some incredible interviews with amazing people that you are going to love hearing from.

Now very quickly, I want to let you know, I have two more groups this year. I'm about to do my second to last small group coaching program and then I'll run it one more time in October. So do not miss out. If you want to jump on now at the current price, make sure you go over to captivatetheroom.com. Look under the work with me tab and/or email me Tracy, [email protected].

I've got a lot of great things going on, a lot of cool changes and happenings, and I'm excited to share it with you. It's been a challenging year. I know for so many of you and I believe that 2021, we're almost there and it's going to be different. So, let's talk about controlling the outcome, and the reason that I picked this topic is that it is so prevalent in my coaching program. When I work with people in solo sessions about all the noise in their head, and there are a lot of different versions of noise that we could talk about. But one of the biggest problems that I see people struggle with without even realizing it is trying to control the outcome. You cannot control the outcome.

What you can control is the conversation. And that's truly where the power is. And when I put people in that place and teach them how to control the conversation, not only is it very powerful, but it's so much fun and not in a manipulative, horrible kind of way, but in a ‘controlling the experience’ kind of way. What kind of journey do you want to take me on? That is what is in your control. Which of my senses do you want to touch? Which emotions do you want to connect with me on?

That's what I mean by controlling the conversation. And you do have the ability to do that when you know how to use your voice to do it. But what people do every day, nonstop is try to control the outcome. Now, what does this mean? Control what you think of me. Control how you're perceiving me. Control what I get and sometimes it's simply an outcome-driven and I'm a problem solver, and I'm going to drive to the outcome and solve your problem because I'm going to control the outcome by solving your problem.

But here's the thing, and you have to embody this. You cannot leave this theory. You cannot control me.

I use this example and you've probably heard me give you this example before. I would love for you to like me. I would love for everybody to like me. I would love for everybody to think I was a great voice coach. But at the end of the day, I have no control over what you think of me. I have no control over whether you like me and I don't even go to that place of the outcome. All the time my clients ask me, “how do you, do it?” And it's, it's quite simple. I have it absolutely, 100% trained myself to not go to the outcome and if I go there, I immediately get back to the now.

I have people that I work with that are problem solvers, that are outcome-driven, they are people pleasers. I've got people that I've worked with over the years that will sit and spend a Sunday trying to figure out every single solitary question that might be asked of them and how they will answer it, that's trying to control the outcome. I don't go there.

Now, that's not to say I don't prepare because I always prepare. I've got a little list of bullet points,

Welcome to the show!

Today I thought we'd revisit a topic that is very important, speaking truth but doing it beautifully!

Speak your truth is a big thing now but what is often forgotten is the part about doing it beautifully.

In today's episode, I break down the beautifully part and talk about why it's so important not to vomit your truth all over people in a way that is hurtful or rife with emotion.  If you do that, speaking your truth won't work in your favor.

Everyone deserves to be heard...everyone and learning to use our voice in a way that reflects how we really feel are very important.  However, it's also important to speak our truth, well...beautifully!

Welcome to the podcast!

 

I'm so excited to have you with me today and I can't wait to share this episode with my friend Beverley!

 

Beverley and I are in a business mastermind together and ever since the day I met her I just adored her.  But, she also an incredible businesswoman and a master at messaging!

 

Beverley primarily works with leaders in the fitness industry but don't let that stop you from listening to our episode because she is dropping some incredibly useful information in the episode.

 

I know you are going to love hearing what she has to say about messaging, using your voice and so much more!

 

Guest Bio

 

Beverley Simpson, owner of BSimpsonFitness, Former Fitness Manager for Crunch in Manhattan, New York turned online business owner. Currently a certified personal trainer and pre/postnatal specialist. (NASM CPT, FMS I & II, PN2, SFG I,) and dozens more certifications in movement. I’m passionate about the science of training, and I’ve helped hundreds of trainers package their genius into products and helped them sell their service without feeling sleaze-y.

 

Also a mom of two daughters under the age of two, and watched my body transform from fit coach to pregnant coach to new postpartum coach in a different but same body twice. Once I discovered that body transformation DEPENDS on body acceptance, I was finally able to lose over 50 lbs and KEEP it off without dieting and spending hours in the gym, and I’ve helped dozens of moms do the same thing.

Welcome to the show!

Ahhh the old needing to prove mask, this is a BIG one.

 

I can't even begin to tell you the damage this mask causes and how many people are wearing it!

 

I hear this on the daily, I hear it in sales, I hear it in life.  It's REPELLING people and it has to go, it's costing you business and it has to go.

 

It's highly possible that you've been hiding behind this mask for far too long.  If you are wondering why you might not be getting the deals you want, why you might not be building the relationships you want, you might not be where you want to be...well, maybe you need to see if you are trying to prove something...like your worth.

 

It won't work, ever!  The best reveal of you is what we are after, that's what is key to your success.  Voice masks keep us out, isn't it time to let the mask down and let us in?

 

I promise you, it's better to let it go.

 

Don't forget to check out my upcoming 8-week small voice coaching program.  I'm about to start another round in August and I'd love for you to join me!  Just go to Captivatetheroom.com and look under the work with me tab.

Welcome to the show!

 

Are you a people pleaser?  You might be shocked at how many people are.

 

In today's episode, I'm talking about the mask of people-pleasing and just what it's costing you!

 

People-pleasing does change your voice and it definitely affects how we process your voice subconsciously.  Ultimately, it's hurting your income, your connections, and your success.

 

Even if you think you aren't a people pleaser, you might not want to miss today's episode!

 

Also, don't forget, if you want to jump into the final round of my 8-week live coaching program then sign up at www.captivatetheroom.com under the work with me tab.

Welcome to the podcast!

I think you are going to like the next 3 episodes, a series I'm running all about voice masks.

I created the idea of voice masks because I could hear people hiding behind a sound, that sound came from a story, an experience, driven by the subconscious to keep you safe.

The problem, they keep you from success and many of them are repellants.

Over the next 3 episodes, I'll be talking about 3 of the most toxic voice masks that could potentially be hurting you...if you have them.

I think you'll like this episode!

Don't miss my upcoming live training and my upcoming 8-week group program.

Go to www.captivatetheroom.com and look under the work with me tab to sign up!

Welcome to the show!

You are in for a super treat today!

With me on the show is another guest, another Australian and someone whose work is so aligned with my Psychology of the Voice I can hardly believe it!

Jen Forster is with me today and I met her in the group that Tyson and I spoke about in last week's episode.

Jen and I had an incredible conversation about patterns and habits and how we sabotage ourselves.

Jen helps people rewrite these patterns so they can get out of their heads and make decisions with ease.

I know you are going to love this conversation and feel like you've known Jen your whole life!

**Make sure you check out the website, I'm running another group coaching program in early August and I don't want you to miss it!

 

Guest Bio

Jennifer is an entrepreneur, holds a Master in Business, has pioneered change for women abroad, succeeded as a competitive sportsperson, adventured globally and solo parented two kids. But as a ‘serial overachiever’ her success came at the cost of broken relationships, inner conflict, and burnout. In her book, The Power of a Peaceful Woman: 49 Ways to drop the armor and defuse the drama, she shares her 49 practical ‘real-life lessons’ that were the catalyst for getting her out of her head and into her heart and ultimately gave her a deeper level of peace, happiness and aligned her with a purpose-filled, abundant life.

 

  

For further information:

Website: www.jenniferforster.com

Linktree: https://linktr.ee/jennifer_forster_

 

Order Jen's book on Amazon, your favorite online store, or by clicking here: https://www.booktopia.com.au/the-power-of-a-peaceful-woman-jennifer-m-forster/book/9780648391746.html

Welcome to the show!

Today I've got an amazing guest that I know you are going to love hearing from, Tyson Sharpe.  Tyson's work is so aligned with Psychology of the Voice Effect, I know you are going to love hearing from him.

Tyson and I had a great conversation about ego,

Needing more vs. giving,

How to find inner freedom,

How to build a business you love and so much more!

 

 

Guest Bio

If you have ever felt as though you need to ‘achieve’ to feel worthy of love, your growth may not come from another business strategy, but a shift in consciousness.

 

Tyson has coached hundreds of online business owners helping them transcend their patterns of fear, doubt, and frustration so they can build a more conscious business as an extension of their personal awakening. He does this by connecting ancient wisdom, eastern philosophies, and western psychology with modern-day business building.

 

Tyson is the creator of the online community ‘Connect Contribute Collaborate’ and is also the host of the ‘Awaken Your Business’ Podcast.

 

He believes that when you build a business from flow, creativity, and love, the universe will gift you opportunities that mirror the inner peace you feel. If you are ready to take your heart’s leap and create a meaningful difference, Tyson’s superpower is helping you to develop your wings to fly.

Welcome to the podcast!

I'm glad you are here today and I've got a very important episode for you...getting rid of filler words.

I hear a lot of people say, "Don't worry about them, it's not a big deal, talk the way you talk"...

It's a big deal.  When it comes to credibility...it's a big deal.  

When it comes to distraction and being able to connect to you and your message...it's a big deal.

In this episode I'm talking about what makes filler words a problem, 

what filler words actually are,

how to get rid of them for good!

I think you'll like this episode!

Welcome to the show!

Today I've got another episode for you that is related to video and video platforms and came as a request from a listener.

How do you command a presence when you are on video or on a video platform is what we are talking about.

In today's episode, I'll give you specific techniques that will help you stand out and be heard no matter what platform you use your voice on.

Video is tricky and Zoom gets exhausting.  After you listen to this episode, you will feel more commanding no matter what venue you are speaking on.

Video is here to stay and a lot of events are going to move to virtual.  From webinars to live speaking engagements that are now online, commanding a presence is key!