Welcome to the show!

I'm super excited to have you with me today.  Today, I've got a business friend and former client with me that I truly adore, Sherry Quam Taylor.

Get ready because Sherry is going to amaze you with all the ways she is navigating her business and finding even more success not only with her voice but by listening to others voices.

Sherry is an expert in her work with non-profits and today we are talking about all things non-profit, business, voice, and finding success in a turbulent time.

Sherry is an outstanding public speaker and has really learned to use her voice to take people on an emotional journey while she reveals the most amazing version of herself.  But, what I find super interesting is how she is navigating business across the board by what she hears in other's voices.

Sherry is a gift to the world and even if you aren't in the non-profit space you don't want to miss what she has to say.  If you are in the non-profit space, listen up!

I'm delighted to have worked with her, I'm honored to be her friend.

 

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Guest Bio

Sherry Quam Taylor teaches nonprofit leaders how to pivot from a heavy dependence on program, government, and event gifts and into securing large, investment-level donations from individuals so they can finally fund their missions. The leaders she works with are experts in their field, but when it comes to individual donor fundraising, they’ve simply never been trained on how to do it, so it feels uncomfortable and frustrating.

She helps them learn the exact steps to launch a mid- and major level gift program that feels comfortable involves less dread, and fully funds their mission for the long-haul. She does this nationally through her private coaching and her 90-day LET’S GROW fundraising accelerator.

You can find Sherry over on Linked In: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sherryquamtaylor/

Today, I want to talk about the voice mask of defense. Voice masks is a unique concept of mine. It is something that I hear. I hear certain sounds and I can identify with how they are processed subconsciously. That's my body of work.

Voice mask of defense is something that I just recently had with someone in a group that I formed. It was a course testing group. And I've heard it all the time. I hear it all the time. And it is the voice mask of defense. It's very similar to needing to prove, but defense is saying “I know”, needing to prove is saying that ‘I know everything. I’ve been there. I've done it.” I always use the example of my brother and the story about Italy and how he said, “Oh, don't go to Italy. I know all about Italy” and he'd never been. Defense is the ego. Defense is feeling inferior, and here's the thing;

All masks are about insecurity. We are insecure about something that comes from a driver and we put something in place. We put this mask in place because we think it will cover up whatever we're trying to cover up and that it will get us what we want. So, defense is very much a repellent and I'll be totally honest with you, defense exhausts me. It's an area that I struggle with because I find it very disrespectful and a lot of people do. And the interesting thing about this mask is that everybody hears it. Everybody sees it. A lot of times, people can't identify people-pleasing. And a lot of times people can't identify needing to prove.

Needing to prove is very often initially perceived as confidence. And then it moves into obnoxiousness. But the initial reaction and perception, especially from somebody that is more insecure or has lower self-worth, is that they're confident. They're really good. And then they get repelled and turned off and find that ‘needing to prove’ mask exhausting and obnoxious.

Defense is almost the same thing. Defense is very much about saying “I cannot be wrong. I cannot take responsibility. I cannot under any circumstances let you know that I feel inferior in any way, which means I cannot let you feel superior in any way.” Now that's kind of crazy because I don't feel superior in any way, but I know what I'm talking about in my area of expertise. I don't know a whole lot about anything else though. I don't say that I'm not smart anymore because I, that's not a story I'm going to buy into. But I don't know a lot about anything other than voice. I don't know how to cook. I don't know much about math. I don't know science.

I have stayed in this lane and I don't feel superior on any level. I think that there are people in this field that probably know more than me. But what happens in the mask of defense is even if I'm teaching, the other person puts up this mask of defense, whether they know what I'm talking about or not, but they want to create the perception that they already know and they already do. They already do it. They already know it. I just had such a great example of this the other day.

I can't even remember was sharing this with me. I would imagine it's somebody that I'm working with. It was this scenario where someone had asked the person I was talking to a question and my person answered the question and the other person said, “I already knew that.” And my person said, “well, why does this person have to even go there? If they already knew, why did they ask?” And I said, “well, it sounds like a mask of defense to me because they have a driver that says, ‘don't let people know that you don't know everything’.”

Let people know you are protected. If you let people know that you already know everything and you push back on what they have to say to you. “Oh, I already know. Yeah. I already know that.” An example from my work and I don't see it a lot, but I do see it sometimes and it's a form of resistance. The mask of defense is a form of resistance and it will come in my work in a scenario like this; somebody will ask a question. It's very similar to the story I j

Welcome to the show!

I'm so excited to have you with me today and I've got a great show for you.

One of my former students is with me and she's really got some great nuggets to share with you today!

Lori and I talk about using your voice in a powerful way,

How to get visible without fear,

What it takes to build a business fast,

Why your voice matters and SO much more!

Lori is one of those people that when you meet them, you instantly feel like you've known them your whole life.  She's got a voice that makes people listen and has accomplished some impressive feats in a short amount of time.

I know you are going to love hearing from her!

Make sure you take a listen and go check out Lori's work on Instagram.

 

You can find Lori on Instagram at lwskincare

 

Guest Bio

Lori is a mother of 2 girls and 2 boys ages 14-25 and has one granddaughter.  Lori has been married for 26 years!  Lori is 46 and dang proud of it.

Lori went to esthetic school with her daughter Rilee in 2016 and opened a home clinic in 2017 and moved it to a storefront in 2019.  She is an age and acne specialist.  Lori has 8 employees in her clinic.  

Lori is an aging advocate herself and is big on gut health.  Lori exercises eats good nutrition, avoids sugar, and believes in how holistic nutrition can and will heal the skin.  

Lori believes honesty and integrity in her business have an impact over popularity.  Helping others feel and look their best is what gives her life!

Welcome to the podcast. I'm your host, Tracy Goodwin. And I'm so glad to have you with me today as always. Thank you so much for your shares and your downloads and for being a subscriber. I love being on this voice journey with you, and I've got a great episode for you today. Today, we're going to talk about controlling the outcome and your voice.

As I do every year, I took August off and I normally take August off because I have for the last 12 years been involved in a program for youth. I'm not doing that program anymore, but this August I moved across the country in a pandemic. 

I’m glad to back!  I've got some super exciting episodes for you coming up and some incredible interviews with amazing people that you are going to love hearing from.

Now very quickly, I want to let you know, I have two more groups this year. I'm about to do my second to last small group coaching program and then I'll run it one more time in October. So do not miss out. If you want to jump on now at the current price, make sure you go over to captivatetheroom.com. Look under the work with me tab and/or email me Tracy, [email protected].

I've got a lot of great things going on, a lot of cool changes and happenings, and I'm excited to share it with you. It's been a challenging year. I know for so many of you and I believe that 2021, we're almost there and it's going to be different. So, let's talk about controlling the outcome, and the reason that I picked this topic is that it is so prevalent in my coaching program. When I work with people in solo sessions about all the noise in their head, and there are a lot of different versions of noise that we could talk about. But one of the biggest problems that I see people struggle with without even realizing it is trying to control the outcome. You cannot control the outcome.

What you can control is the conversation. And that's truly where the power is. And when I put people in that place and teach them how to control the conversation, not only is it very powerful, but it's so much fun and not in a manipulative, horrible kind of way, but in a ‘controlling the experience’ kind of way. What kind of journey do you want to take me on? That is what is in your control. Which of my senses do you want to touch? Which emotions do you want to connect with me on?

That's what I mean by controlling the conversation. And you do have the ability to do that when you know how to use your voice to do it. But what people do every day, nonstop is try to control the outcome. Now, what does this mean? Control what you think of me. Control how you're perceiving me. Control what I get and sometimes it's simply an outcome-driven and I'm a problem solver, and I'm going to drive to the outcome and solve your problem because I'm going to control the outcome by solving your problem.

But here's the thing, and you have to embody this. You cannot leave this theory. You cannot control me.

I use this example and you've probably heard me give you this example before. I would love for you to like me. I would love for everybody to like me. I would love for everybody to think I was a great voice coach. But at the end of the day, I have no control over what you think of me. I have no control over whether you like me and I don't even go to that place of the outcome. All the time my clients ask me, “how do you, do it?” And it's, it's quite simple. I have it absolutely, 100% trained myself to not go to the outcome and if I go there, I immediately get back to the now.

I have people that I work with that are problem solvers, that are outcome-driven, they are people pleasers. I've got people that I've worked with over the years that will sit and spend a Sunday trying to figure out every single solitary question that might be asked of them and how they will answer it, that's trying to control the outcome. I don't go there.

Now, that's not to say I don't prepare because I always prepare. I've got a little list of bullet points,

Welcome to the show!

Today I thought we'd revisit a topic that is very important, speaking truth but doing it beautifully!

Speak your truth is a big thing now but what is often forgotten is the part about doing it beautifully.

In today's episode, I break down the beautifully part and talk about why it's so important not to vomit your truth all over people in a way that is hurtful or rife with emotion.  If you do that, speaking your truth won't work in your favor.

Everyone deserves to be heard...everyone and learning to use our voice in a way that reflects how we really feel are very important.  However, it's also important to speak our truth, well...beautifully!

Welcome to the show!

Ahhh the old needing to prove mask, this is a BIG one.

 

I can't even begin to tell you the damage this mask causes and how many people are wearing it!

 

I hear this on the daily, I hear it in sales, I hear it in life.  It's REPELLING people and it has to go, it's costing you business and it has to go.

 

It's highly possible that you've been hiding behind this mask for far too long.  If you are wondering why you might not be getting the deals you want, why you might not be building the relationships you want, you might not be where you want to be...well, maybe you need to see if you are trying to prove something...like your worth.

 

It won't work, ever!  The best reveal of you is what we are after, that's what is key to your success.  Voice masks keep us out, isn't it time to let the mask down and let us in?

 

I promise you, it's better to let it go.

 

Don't forget to check out my upcoming 8-week small voice coaching program.  I'm about to start another round in August and I'd love for you to join me!  Just go to Captivatetheroom.com and look under the work with me tab.

Welcome to the podcast!

 

I'm so excited to have you with me today and I can't wait to share this episode with my friend Beverley!

 

Beverley and I are in a business mastermind together and ever since the day I met her I just adored her.  But, she also an incredible businesswoman and a master at messaging!

 

Beverley primarily works with leaders in the fitness industry but don't let that stop you from listening to our episode because she is dropping some incredibly useful information in the episode.

 

I know you are going to love hearing what she has to say about messaging, using your voice and so much more!

 

Guest Bio

 

Beverley Simpson, owner of BSimpsonFitness, Former Fitness Manager for Crunch in Manhattan, New York turned online business owner. Currently a certified personal trainer and pre/postnatal specialist. (NASM CPT, FMS I & II, PN2, SFG I,) and dozens more certifications in movement. I’m passionate about the science of training, and I’ve helped hundreds of trainers package their genius into products and helped them sell their service without feeling sleaze-y.

 

Also a mom of two daughters under the age of two, and watched my body transform from fit coach to pregnant coach to new postpartum coach in a different but same body twice. Once I discovered that body transformation DEPENDS on body acceptance, I was finally able to lose over 50 lbs and KEEP it off without dieting and spending hours in the gym, and I’ve helped dozens of moms do the same thing.

Welcome to the show!

 

Are you a people pleaser?  You might be shocked at how many people are.

 

In today's episode, I'm talking about the mask of people-pleasing and just what it's costing you!

 

People-pleasing does change your voice and it definitely affects how we process your voice subconsciously.  Ultimately, it's hurting your income, your connections, and your success.

 

Even if you think you aren't a people pleaser, you might not want to miss today's episode!

 

Also, don't forget, if you want to jump into the final round of my 8-week live coaching program then sign up at www.captivatetheroom.com under the work with me tab.

Welcome to the podcast!

I think you are going to like the next 3 episodes, a series I'm running all about voice masks.

I created the idea of voice masks because I could hear people hiding behind a sound, that sound came from a story, an experience, driven by the subconscious to keep you safe.

The problem, they keep you from success and many of them are repellants.

Over the next 3 episodes, I'll be talking about 3 of the most toxic voice masks that could potentially be hurting you...if you have them.

I think you'll like this episode!

Don't miss my upcoming live training and my upcoming 8-week group program.

Go to www.captivatetheroom.com and look under the work with me tab to sign up!

Welcome to the show!

You are in for a super treat today!

With me on the show is another guest, another Australian and someone whose work is so aligned with my Psychology of the Voice I can hardly believe it!

Jen Forster is with me today and I met her in the group that Tyson and I spoke about in last week's episode.

Jen and I had an incredible conversation about patterns and habits and how we sabotage ourselves.

Jen helps people rewrite these patterns so they can get out of their heads and make decisions with ease.

I know you are going to love this conversation and feel like you've known Jen your whole life!

**Make sure you check out the website, I'm running another group coaching program in early August and I don't want you to miss it!

 

Guest Bio

Jennifer is an entrepreneur, holds a Master in Business, has pioneered change for women abroad, succeeded as a competitive sportsperson, adventured globally and solo parented two kids. But as a ‘serial overachiever’ her success came at the cost of broken relationships, inner conflict, and burnout. In her book, The Power of a Peaceful Woman: 49 Ways to drop the armor and defuse the drama, she shares her 49 practical ‘real-life lessons’ that were the catalyst for getting her out of her head and into her heart and ultimately gave her a deeper level of peace, happiness and aligned her with a purpose-filled, abundant life.

 

  

For further information:

Website: www.jenniferforster.com

Linktree: https://linktr.ee/jennifer_forster_

 

Order Jen's book on Amazon, your favorite online store, or by clicking here: https://www.booktopia.com.au/the-power-of-a-peaceful-woman-jennifer-m-forster/book/9780648391746.html