Catch My Black and Gay

Jay is back with another story that has him questioning whether being a good friend sometimes means ignoring your own instincts. What starts as helping a friend get back on their feet turns into a lesson about expectations, boundaries, and the risks of becoming too invested in other people's potential. Join the conversation and leave us a voicemail at 213-349-8220

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Jay opens up about validation, leadership, friendships, and the difficult lesson that not everyone is meant to walk into your next chapter with you. A candid conversation about trusting yourself, owning your vision, and learning when it's time to stop waiting on others and start moving forward. Join the conversation and leave us a voicemail at 213-349-8220

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From unmet expectations and emotional reciprocity to therapy, personal growth, and learning when to let people go, Jay, Torrian, and Chef Von have an honest conversation about what happens when friendships no longer serve the same purpose they once did. Along the way, they explore accountability, boundaries, loneliness, healing, and the difficult realization that not everyone is meant to grow with you. Join the conversation and leave us a voicemail at 213-349-8220

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What starts as a discussion about age gaps in relationships quickly evolves into a deeper debate about influence, consent, friendship, and the responsibilities we have when someone clearly tells us who they are and what they want.

Along the way, Jay, Torrian, and Chef Von unpack the challenges of loneliness in the Black LGBTQ+ community, whether power can exist beyond age, and where the line is between genuine connection and manipulation. As always, the conversation gets passionate, personal, and a little messy, but it leaves plenty for listeners to think about. Join the conversation and leave us a voicemail at 213-349-8220

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Today, we're giving you an exclusive first listen to a brand-new project: Extreme Curiosity.

This fictional audio drama follows a Black gay man who insists he's not stalking anyone... he's just extremely curious. What starts as innocent fascination with strangers quickly turns into brief obsessions that blur the line between curiosity, connection, and something a little more concerning.

Extreme Curiosity is suspenseful, funny, thought-provoking, and just a little bit unhinged.

Take a listen to this sneak peek and let us know what you think.

Welcome to Extreme Curiosity... where being nosy is a lifestyle. Join the conversation and leave us a voicemail at 213-349-8220

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Torrian's back and he did NOT come to play. After sitting out last week's episode about "fairy godfathers," "mentors," and grown men who overstepped, Torian pulls up with receipts, tea, and a story of his own. Join the conversation and leave us a voicemail at 213-349-8220

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What began as affectionate nostalgia, remembering the men who taught them gay culture, the language, how to navigate the lifestyle — gradually unfolds into a heavier realization. With the hindsight of adulthood and therapy, we come to name what they experienced for what it was: grooming! Join the conversation and leave us a voicemail at 213-349-8220

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Jay has a confession to make: he might be a prude... or maybe he's just becoming a full-blown Karen.

The guys discuss apartment living etiquette, and the fine line between being considerate and being competely annoyed by everyone.

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What happens when your own grandmother breaks your femur, and then gives your money to the church? The guys break down a wild TikTok story that has the internet completely divided. Is he wrong for going after the insurance? Was grandma out of pocket? And why are the cousins making everything worse? Buckle up, because this family drama has layers. Join the conversation and leave us a voicemail at 213-349-8220

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This week, the crew tackles a story that has sparked conversations across the country—the tragic death of Nolan Wells, an 18-year-old Black teen from Mississippi whose disappearance and death have left many unanswered questions. As details continue to emerge, Jay, Torrian, and Chef Von discuss race, trust, community, and the realities of navigating America as Black people.

The conversation expands beyond the headlines into personal experiences, cultural perspectives, interracial relationships, systemic racism, privilege, and the lessons Black families pass down for survival. It's an emotional, thought-provoking, and at times uncomfortable discussion that challenges listeners to examine how history shapes the way we view present-day events. Join the conversation and leave us a voicemail at 213-349-8220

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