You're horny. You're hooking up. It's hot and heavy. Then, a hand makes its way to your throat… wait WTF? Yup. Choking during sex has hit the mainstream.

Choking was once the kinda thing you'd only come across in the world of BDSM, but now thanks to our easy access to porn it's literally everywhere and young women are in its grip.

A recent study discovered almost 60 per cent of female college students have been choked during sex, with a quarter having been choked by the time they're 17.

Yumi Stynes finds out why some women love to be choked during sex and talks to others who aren't so enamoured with it.

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Featured in this episode: 
Dr Debby Herbenick - Professor at Indiana University’s School of Public Health, sexuality researcher, educator and author of Yes, Your Kid: What Parents Need to Know About Today's Teens and Sex
Aleks Trkulja – Sex therapist at The Pleasure Centre

Choking during sex – can it ever be safe?

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We live in a sex obsessed world, where hook-up culture is king and getting laid out like a spatchcocked chicken is a status symbol. 

But what if you’re a fully-fledged adult, paying your own bills and you’re still a “virgin”? 

Some women might hold off having sex for the first time because they want to meet the “right” person, others because they haven’t had the opportunity or are waiting until marriage. Whatever the reason, it can feel lonely and isolating when there so much noise around sex.  

Yumi Stynes talks to women who haven’t yet had sex, either by choice or circumstance and to another who waited to have sex for over 40 years, until she met her perfect person. 

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Amanda McCracken, writer on love and limerence

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Are you a card-carrying virgin? Know what it's like to be the other woman? Horny as hell and can’t get enough? 

Ladies, We Need To Talk is back and we’re going deep! 

This season we’ll be meeting the truly gorgeous women who are eager to have sex for the very first time, but for whatever reason haven’t met the perfect person yet.  

You’ll find out about the mysteries of PCOS and why it’s one of the leading causes of infertility. And we’ll hear from the women who are horny with a capital H, and we can’t get enough of it! 

Also, for the first time ever we’re going weekly baby! With our new, spicy and short episodes of Ladies, We Need To Talk...Back! Your favourite hot Aunty Yumi will be dishing out her no-holds-barred advice on everything from slovenly partners and squishy vaginas and serious mum guilt.  

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Choking during sex – can it ever be safe?

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