This week’s guest is no stranger to the limelight. YVIE JONES became a household name when she joined the cast of Gogglebox. She went on to feature in “I’m A Celebrity, Get Me Out Of Here!”, ultimately placing second. She’s the co-host of feminist podcast “Chickstory”, which focuses on women forgotten throughout history.

In this week’s episode, Yvie and Clementine talk about being diagnosed with mental illness in your adolescence, fat shaming, relationships and boundary setting. From little sisters, they answer questions about letting go of guilt; navigating ‘friends with benefits’ when you need to also have honest communication about feelings; and why people (men) are so fixated on women’s body hair.

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I’m so excited to introduce you to this week’s guest! SAYOMI ARIYAWANSA is a human rights lawyer and researcher looking at the circumstances of migrant workers in Australia. In this incredibly in depth chat, we talk about racism, migration, labour and classism and its particular impact on low paid migrant women workers. 

We speak to little sisters about how to extricate yourself from a relationship that no longer serves you AND how to navigate the patriarchal imposed guilt of this; how to best support a close friend or family member when you learn someone has perpetrated sexual assault against them; and some practical tools for how to respectfully break up with someone who you still have lots of love for.

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If this episode has triggered any trauma in you from experiencing sexual assault or rape, please call 1800 RESPECT. There are also these state based services for Australian listeners:

• ACT — Canberra Rape Crisis Centre 6247 2525
• New South Wales — NSW Rape Crisis Centre 1800 424 017 or NSW Health Sexual Assault Services (visit web page to find the number in your local area)
• Northern Territory — Department of Health, Sexual Assault Referral Centres
• Queensland — Sexual Assault Helpline 1800 010 120
• South Australia — Yarrow Place Rape and Sexual Assault Service (08) 8226 8777 or 1800 817 421 freecall
• Tasmania — Sexual Assault Support Service 1800 697 877
• Victoria — Sexual Assault Crisis Line 1800 806 292
• Western Australia — Sexual Assault Resource Centre (08) 6458 1828 or free call 1800 199 888

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Hello everyone! Apologies for no episode last week - I took a much needed break. But we're back this week with the very excellent ALYSSA HO, who you may know from calling out beauty influencers online over their cultural appropriation via the "fox eye trend". Alyssa and I talk about this and much more in this illuminating episode, and it's a must listen for anyone who cares about how to be a good ally while consuming fashion and beauty trends.

From little sisters, we answer questions about evolving beyond your relationship, how to break up with kindness and compassion and what to do when you realise a man has been using the language of feminism to gaslight you.

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How do we know we're doing it right?

This is the question that plagues so many of us, particularly with the excessive influence of social media, the wellness industry, fashion and how we navigate interpersonal relationships in an increasingly plugged in world. These topics and more are all explored in great detail in PANDORA SYKES' debut book, "How Do We Know We're It Right? Essays on Modern Life".

Pandora joined me for a very special in-conversation for this week's episode to discuss her book and some of the many themes covered within: fast fashion, moral judgement, choice feminism, motherhood and what she calls the 'flattening of women'. I loved this conversation and I hope you enjoy listening to it!

You can buy Pandora's new book at your local bookstore, and I'll also be giving away TWO COPIES on my instagram to coincide with the release of this episode, so make sure to check that out!

For feedback or to submit your own questions, you can email me on [email protected]

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NOTE: Please note this episode contains discussion of controlled eating and significant weight loss in adolescenceI was joined this week by JAN FRAN, who's a legendary journalist, presenter and host of the popular The Frant. We had an excellent conversation about how women express control under the patriarchy and a much more practical conversation about how someone might go about getting into journalism or writing. Jan had brilliant advice here about just doing "the next best thing" on your path to wherever it is you want to go. Rather than looking just at where you want to be, imagine each next best thing to do that will get you there. This is definitely the episode for young women looking for practical advice on achieving their career goals (particularly in media).

With the little sisters, we answered questions about how to break up with your high school sweetheart; how to navigate serious sexual harassment at work, particularly when it's being brushed under the carpet; and what to do when your in-laws are making the dinner table a hostile place

Next week: The one and only PANDORA SYKES will join me to talk about her new book and answer little sister questions, so submit anything you want answered to [email protected]!

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If you're not following @thirtysomethingsingle on instagram, do yourselves a flavour and get on it. She is hilarious, insightful and brilliant, and she models excellent boundary setting in the dating world and via the apps. Kate posts a lot about self worth, decoding men's dating profiles and the ways they speak to women (particularly when they are cruel) and how fatphobia is rampant in the dating world. We had such an excellent conversation - you'll notice this episode is a lot longer than usual, but it's because I didn't want to edit out too much of our almost two hour long chat.

Please note this episode, like most episodes, contains a content note for discussion of topics like domestic abuse, self harm, body image and terrible experiences with men.

We talk about navigating emotional manipulation, setting up boundaries, asking for what you want and the difference between performing sex and being in touch with your own pleasure, whether that's for women or men. With the little sister questions, we address image based exploitation, sexual exploitation and what to do if both of these things have been present in your relationship. We discuss catcalling and young feminists being so inspiring, and answer a question from a mother concerned about how to handle her daughter's increasing body anxiety.

Kate is really so wonderful and I have learned so much from her. Please follow her on instagram if you're not: @thirtysomethingsing

This is also the article I reference in the pod by Tracie Egan, "The Emotional Conquistador is the new Sexual Conquistador". I send this piece to so many women, multiple times a year. It's really amazing.

Let. me know what you thought of the episode! If you like it, please consider rating it so I can continue to grow the listenership and army of sisters!

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Australian listeners will all be familiar with Yassmin Abdel-Magied. A writer, TV presenter, podcast host, speaker and former race-car chassis designer (I mean, WOW), Yassmin also became a lightening rod for Australian racism, Islamophobia and misogyny when she posted a simple anti-war statement on her Facebook page in 2017. The reaction was swift and astonishing. She was excoriated across every strata of society, from the media to the public and even within the Federal government. What had this proudly Muslim, proudly feminist, proudly Sudanese-Australian woman said that was so outrageous?

"Lest we forget: (Manus, Naura, Syria, Palestine)"

Yassmin was eventually forced to leave the country to protect not just her life but also her mental health. She has since become an international juggernaut, authoring two YA books that have been optioned for screen, hosting an immersive theatre event at Kensington Palace, presenting podcasts and television shows and commanding stages all over the world.

Yassmin joined me for a very special episode of the hotline to discuss what it means to have life as you know it destroyed and to have to rebuild something more powerful from the rubble. We talked about what it means to be brave and what it means to live a good life. This is an in-conversation episode, so unfortunately we haven't answered questions from little sisters - but I think you'll agree that the rich and illuminating conversation was worth it!

Next week: I'll be joined by the very funny @thirtysomethingsingle from Instagram, who posts about dating disasters, disappointing men, body positivity and fatphobia particularly in romantic scenarios.

In the meantime, you can purchase Yassmin's first YA book, "You Must Be Layla" from all good bookstores!

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*****Part two of the Hotline's episode with AILEEN QUINN comes with a very big content warning for domestic abuse, sexual coercion and manipulation.****

The Hotline received a question submission from a woman whose husband is behaving in a coercive manner and using manipulative tactics to try to force her into sexual engagement with him. I double checked with the Little Sister that she was comfortable having her situation shared so publicly, and she was clear she wanted the discussion to be had. Since recording this episode with Aileen, I've also shared the audio with the LS so she could listen to it privately and safely before knowing it was out in the world. She has since confirmed she is happy for it to be made public, and so I'm sharing this now as a bonus episode.

Please remember to go gently while listening. If you recognise any of what we discuss in your own relationship, please understand that you can seek support and help from 1800-RESPECT.

Sexual coercion is abuse. I am glad to report that our little sister here has since reached out to 1800 RESPECT to receive further advice on what to do, and she is putting some things in place to try to extricate her and her children from this situation.

Our guest Big Sister next week on the Hotline: YASSMIN ABDEL-MAGIED

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Hello friends and sisters! This week's episode is all about the hellscape that is online dating, and joining me to navigate it is guest big sister Aileen Quinn, aka the genius behind the instagram account Tinder Translators (@tindertranslators, follow her and do yourselves a flavour).

We talk about the trash that is online dating and specifically the trash cis-het men get away with on dating apps. We also discuss how to define what it is you want in a relationship and why naming rights with children IS a feminist issue. This is a robust and full bodied discussion friends, so it's a BUMPER EPISODE. Not only is it longer than usual (because I didn't want to cut any of it) but we have an additional BONUS QUESTION that I will be uploading separately because it was actually extremely serious and triggering. So we're going to give you some space to listen to that at your leisure. I'll share the additional content later tomorrow.

In the meantime, tune in here to have a good old fashioned natter about how patriarchy impacts our dating choices and why marriage is bad for women!

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Have you ever been cast in a particular role in your family? Are you the black sheep or the troublemaker, the wild child or the attention seeker? Do you seek your parents' approval, even though they continue to hurt you? Well, this episode is for you! But it's also for any one who has ever had a family, or wants to have a family because the truth is we ALL write narratives for ourselves and other people when we're related to them. The question is, how do we stop? This week, Clementine is joined by writer, academic and author of the new memoir, "No Matter Our Wreckage" (out now through Allen & Unwin), GEMMA CAREY. They talk about Gemma's new book, which details the abuse she experienced as a child and her decision as an older teenager to secretly take her abuser to court. They also discuss grief, forgiveness and patriarchy's impact on young women. From little sisters, they answer questions about those pesky family narratives and how we can work to break free of them.

***PLEASE NOTE, this episode contains mentions of abuse (not graphic) and narcissistic mothers.***

If you want to submit a question to the hotline, you can do so at [email protected] and if you would like to support the making of the podcast, you can find me at www.patreon.com/clementineford

Thank you SO MUCH to everyone who has been subscribing and reviewing. It is so wonderful to read your words! Please continue to share to your friends so we can fully celebrate the capacity for women to take care of each other and help create an army of sisters!

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