Coaching Culture

JP Nerbun sits down with co-host Betsy Butterick to explore how intentional communication transforms athlete relationships, team culture, and coaching identity.

1. "Anytime someone says 'that's just who I am,' what immediately comes up for me is — no, that's who you've been. You get to choose who you get to be in the next moment." — Betsy Butterick
2. "If we hope to teach them, we first need to reach them. It is arguably much easier for one person — the coach — to shift how they communicate than it is to try to change an entire generation." — Betsy Butterick
3. "When you speak quietly, people need to come closer, lean in. That was exactly the space I wanted to coach athletes in." — Betsy Butterick

1. When you communicate with your athletes before a big moment, are you trying to inspire them — or genuinely educate and invite them into something? What's the difference for your team?
2. Are there phrases or habits in your coaching communication that fall under "that's just who I am"? What would it look like to ask instead: Is this who I want to be?

Kids These Days by Betsy Butterick — the practical communication guide for coaches working with today's athletes. Packed with immediately usable frameworks, real-world stories, and a resource section built to last.

Visit: betsybutterick.com

1. Communication is a craft, not a personality trait. Betsy's communication didn't come from natural talent — it came from decades of intentional reps: journaling, coaching thousands of young athletes, and a relentless curiosity about language. The implication for every coach: this is buildable.
2. Inspiring a room and inviting athletes in are not the same thing. Betsy's goal is never to inspire — it's to educate. But the best teaching carries emotional charge, and the question you ask after a lesson is what bridges information to behavior change. Don't just tell them. Ask them what they got from it.
3. Yelling is a tool — use it like one. In a decade of coaching, Betsy raised her voice about seven times — and believes every player could still tell you exactly why. Coaches who rarely yell make every raised voice meaningful. Coaches who yell constantly give athletes nothing to read.
4. "That's just who I am" is a pattern, not an identity. When coaches or athletes use that phrase, it closes the door on growth. The reframe Betsy offers: that's who you've been — not who you have to be. Adapting your communication style isn't lowering your standards; it's what makes holding high standards possible.
5. Accountability requires co-creation, not just enforcement. Most accountability conversations fail because expectations were never truly shared — they were just announced. When athletes help build the standard, they're far more likely to hold each other to it. Peer accountability only works after shared understanding exists.

• Audit Your Volume: Track how often you raise your voice this week. Is it a tool — or a habit you haven't examined?
• End With a Question: After your next team talk, close with one question that invites athletes to reflect on what they just heard.
• Spot the Pattern: Notice when you or your athletes say "that's just who I am." Replace it with: "That's who I've been — is it who I want to be?"
• Co-Create One Standard: Pick one expectation you've been enforcing alone. Build shared understanding around it with your athletes this week.

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• Betsy Butterick — blog, book, and resources: betsybutterick.com

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🏆 What does "buy-in" actually mean and how do you build it as a leader? Every coach talks about buy-in. But most coaches struggle to define it, measure it, or create it in a consistent, repeatable way. In this episode, JP Nerbun, Nate Sanderson, and Betsy Butterrick break down what athlete buy-in really is, what it's NOT, and give you a practical, systematic approach to building genuine investment and commitment on your team. Whether you're a head coach, assistant coach, athletic director, or team leader, this conversation will challenge how you think about team culture, player motivation, and leadership communication.📌 IN THIS EPISODE YOU'LL LEARN: ✅ Why "buy-in" is misunderstood and what coaches actually mean by it✅ The difference between compliance, commitment, belief, and trust✅ How to treat your athletes like shareholders (and why it works)✅ The Minimum Buy-In concept, what's the floor for your team?✅ How co-creation increases athlete investment and ownership✅ Brené Brown's 5 C's of communication for leaders and coaches✅ How your own stories and triggers are silently undermining your culture✅ The Culture System framework: Establish → Support → Enforce⏱️ CHAPTERS:0:00 – Introduction: Why "Buy-In" Is the Most Overused Word in Coaching1:45 – What Coaches Actually Mean When They Say "Buy-In"4:10 – Compliance vs. Commitment vs. Belief: Knowing the Difference6:50 – The Dangerous Stories Coaches Tell Themselves About Athletes8:02 – Treating Your Roster Like Shareholders: The Investment Framework8:56 – Transactional vs. Transformational Leadership (You Can Be Both)11:30 – Not Everyone Invests the Same — and That's Okay13:00 – The High-Stakes Poker Table: Defining Your Minimum Buy-In14:18 – Real-World Example: Coaching an Amateur Gaelic Football Team in Ireland15:30 – How Much Should the Coach Decide vs. Co-Create With Athletes?17:53 – When Past Success Becomes a Leadership Trap19:30 – Dusty May, Curiosity, and What Championship Coaches Do Differently20:32 – The Shark Tank Framework for Coach-Athlete Negotiation21:47 – Brené Brown's 5 C's: A Communication Blueprint for Leaders23:40 – It's Not About Motivation — It's About Clear Communication25:00 – Internal Reflection: Examining Your Own Triggers Around Buy-In28:02 – The Transfer Portal, Gen Z Athletes, and the Stories We Tell30:09 – The Culture System Framework: Establish, Support, Enforce31:00 – How to Access TOC Coach and The Culture System Book🔗 RESOURCES & LINKS MENTIONED: 📘 The Culture System (Book by JP Nerbun):https://a.co/d/04obWTJ6 🌐 TOC Coach — Online Coaching & Leadership Development Platform:https://www.skool.com/toccoach/about 📩 Subscribe to The Coaching Culture Newsletter:https://tocculture.com/culture-toolbox 🎙️ ABOUT THE COACHING CULTURE PODCAST The Coaching Culture Podcast is hosted by JP Nerbun alongside Nate Sanderson and Betsy Butterick. Our mission is to help coaches and leaders grow — not just in strategy and X's and O's, but in the human side of leadership: building trust, developing culture, and creating environments where athletes and teams can truly thrive. New episodes every week. Subscribe so you never miss one. #CoachingCulture #TeamCulture #LeadershipDevelopment #AthleteMotivation #CoachingTips #BuyIn #TeamBuilding #SportsLeadership #CultureCoach #CoachingPodcast #HighSchoolCoach #CollegeCoaching #AthleteEngagement #PlayerBuyIn #GenZAthletes #LeadershipCoaching #TeamCohesion #CoachingCommunity #SportsCoaching #CultureSystem #MindsetCoaching #JPNerbun #NateSanderson #BetsyButterick #CoachDevelopment #WinningCulture #AthleteLeadership #TeamMotivation #CoachingLife #SportsPsychology

What does transformational leadership actually look like in practice? Father Mike Schmitz, 15-year director of the Newman Center at UMD, sits down with coaches to share the leadership principles, culture-building strategies, and mentorship frameworks that have transformed thousands of lives on a secular college campus.

Whether you're a coach, team leader, manager, or anyone invested in building high-performance culture, this conversation is packed with actionable wisdom on setting priorities, establishing boundaries, leading with authenticity, and developing the next generation of leaders.

IN THIS EPISODE:

• How to identify your one true priority (and stop pretending you have many)The "rock analogy" for protecting your closest relationships during demanding seasons
• Why saying NO with conviction is an act of leadership — not selfishness
• The 3 pillars Father Mike used to build a transformational culture from scratch
• The FACT (and FACE) framework for identifying and developing emerging leaders
• Small group leadership: how to structure teams within teams
• How to lead authentically in a secular environment without compromising your values
• Why Gen Z craves in-person connection more than any generation before them
• The concept of "spiritual fatherhood" and what it means for coaches and mentors

⏱️ CHAPTERS:

00:00 — Introduction: Coaching through busy seasons of life

02:45 — The Rock Analogy: Protecting your family during demanding seasons

06:30 — Defining your TRUE priority (it's singular, not plural)

10:15 — How to say NO without guilt — and why conviction sets you free

15:40 — Knowing your limits: the wisdom of boundaries in leadership

19:00 — Building a transformational culture from scratch (the 3 pillars)

25:10 — Seen, Known, and Loved: the culture framework that changed everything

29:30 — Bottom-up leadership: creating a culture where people correct you

33:00 — Small group leadership: the FACT framework for identifying leaders

39:20 — The Jenna story: how one person's faithfulness sparked a movement

44:45 — Leading Gen Z: why in-person connection is the ultimate differentiator

49:10 — How to create psychological safety so people speak freely

53:00 — Spiritual fatherhood: reframing your role as a coach or mentor

58:30 — Leading with faith in a secular environment

🔗 RESOURCES & LINKS:

📖 The Bible in a Year with Father Mike Schmitz: https://www.youtube.com/@UCzUZD3iCxkHmwYkCqYn8fBw

🏛️ UMD Newman Center: https://bulldogcatholic.org/

📚 Stephen Covey's "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People" (mentioned): https://www.amazon.com/Habits-Highly-Effective-People-Powerful/dp/0743269519

🎓 FOCUS (Fellowship of Catholic University Students): https://focus.org/

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transformational leadership, coaching leadership, building team culture, mentorship, leadership development, how to build culture, high performance teams, athlete development, Gen Z leadership, setting boundaries as a leader, how to say no, priority setting, small group leadership, servant leadership, authentic leadership, coach mentorship, spiritual leadership, team building strategies, leadership in sports, culture building, how to develop leaders, Father Mike Schmitz, Newman Center, FOCUS ministry, college coaching

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Every coach will face a culture killer on their team. Whether it's a star player with a toxic attitude, an athlete stirring drama behind the scenes, or a kid whose behavior is slowly poisoning team morale — knowing how to respond is one of the most critical leadership skills a coach can develop.In this episode of the Coaching Culture Podcast, JP Nerbun, Nate Sanderson, and Betsy Butterrick get practical on how to identify culture killers early, avoid common coaching mistakes, and take action — even when you feel handcuffed by administration, politics, or roster constraints.🔑 What you'll learn:How to recognize culture cancer before it metastasizesWhy ignoring toxic behavior is the worst thing you can do (and what to do instead)The difference between behavior that hurts the individual vs. behavior that hurts the whole teamHow progressive consequences and restorative accountability actually workWhy "choose your hard" is the mindset shift every coach needsHow to give athletes an "out" without it feeling like manipulationThe role of captains, assistant coaches, and administrators in managing culture killers🎙️ About the Coaching Culture PodcastWe help coaches grow as leaders and build stronger team cultures — beyond the X's and O's. New episodes every week for coaches at every level and sport.📚 Resources Mentioned in This Episode:The Culture System by JP Nerbun — the final chapter dives deep into culture killers: https://a.co/d/00ccdd4lTOC Coach — online community, courses & coaching platform: https://www.skool.com/toccoach/about🎧 Related Episode: Boomer Roberts at Purdue Northwest on radical accountability https://youtu.be/9dn51b3abe4?si=L_fePaO3VkvxB7ta🎧 Related Episode: Eric Lang at American International College on radical transparency https://youtu.be/QLoEshEfvpI?si=mRvYmiwD2WTs6vcj📌 CHAPTERS0:00 — Introduction: Every Coach Will Face a Culture Killer2:10 — What Is a Culture Killer? (And Why "Culture Cancer" Might Be More Accurate)4:00 — The Constraints Coaches Face: No-Cut Policies, Star Players & Administrative Pressure5:55 — Why Coaches Feel Powerless — And Why That's a Mistake7:47 — What Doesn't Work: The Most Common Coaching Mistakes With Toxic Athletes9:21 — "What We Permit, We Promote" — The Cost of Inaction11:03 — Ignoring Symptoms, Hoping Players Fix It & Addressing the Room Instead of the Individual13:00 — The Hero Complex in Transformational Coaching14:24 — Starting With Awareness: Having the Right Conversations16:57 — Trusting Your Intuition as a Coach (Even Without Cold Hard Facts)19:40 — In-Bounds vs. Out-of-Bounds: Behavior in the Team Space vs. Outside It21:30 — Radical Transparency: Lessons From a Division I Hockey Coach23:56 — When You Can't Remove Them: Giving Athletes an "Out"25:00 — Progressive Consequences in Action: Step-by-Step Accountability26:33 — Real Stories: When Athletes Opt Out — and When They Turn It Around28:00 — Setting Automatic "Trap Doors" for Behavior at the Start of the Season30:00 — "Choose Your Hard": The Toughest Truth in Coaching Culture31:36 — Culture Over Convenience: What You're Really Telling Your Team33:00 — Restorative Consequences and Navigating the Gray34:57 — Using Assistant Coaches, Captains & Parents to Share the Load34:57 — Wrap-Up + Resources: The Culture System & TOC CoachKeywords: coaching leadership, team culture, toxic team members, culture killers, transformational coaching, athlete accountability, team dynamics, coach development, sports leadership, building team culture, progressive discipline, restorative consequences, coaching podcast, locker room culture, leadership skills for coachesVisit us at: https://tocculture.comQuestions? Join the TOC Coach community and ask us directly!

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Taking hard feedback is one of the most underrated leadership skills — and most of us are doing it wrong.

In this episode, JP, Betsy, and Nate get real about the emotional side of criticism: why feedback feels so personal for coaches and leaders, how to regulate before you respond, and the mindset shift that turns brutal feedback into your greatest tool for growth.

Whether you're a coach, athletic director, team leader, or anyone who's ever been stung by a harsh comment — this conversation is for you.

🎙️ In this episode, we cover:

→ Why feedback hits differently when your work is your identity

→ How to regulate your emotional response before reacting

→ The difference between feedback as a verdict vs. feedback as information

→ Practical tools: exit interviews, anonymous polling, and mid-season check-ins

→ When to stand firm — and when to own it and grow→ How small language shifts completely change how feedback lands

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⏱️ CHAPTERS

0:00 Cold open & welcome

2:36 What makes feedback so hard to take?

3:03 Betsy: when feedback feels personal

4:55 Nate: the paranoia about not knowing what's coming

5:48 JP: proximity, relationship & the 2015 turning point

7:33 Positive feedback experiences — what actually worked

9:08 How your response to feedback shapes future feedback

10:20 Betsy's coaching program breakthrough moment

12:48 What to do when feedback feels like an attack

14:30 Real coaching example: helping a coach put it down

16:41 First steps when you're triggered — regulate first

19:00 Own the hard feedback before it owns you

21:04 The complexity of coaching decisions: playing time & perspective

23:38 Is it true? Learning from feedback regardless of the answer

25:01 Feedback as information, not a verdict

26:37 The language shift that changes everything

28:13 Rewriting harsh feedback so you can actually hear it

30:51 How to ask for better feedback from your team

33:07 Setting expectations early & capturing in-season intelligence

35:45 Normalizing feedback & modeling how to receive it

37:44 The Man in the Arena — and what Teddy got right (and wrong)

40:17 When to stand firm vs. when to fold

43:08 How going through hard feedback builds conviction🔍

KEYWORDS

leadership development | coaching culture | how to take feedback | receiving criticism | coach mindset | athletic leadership | team culture | growth mindset for coaches | sports leadership podcast | feedback in the workplace | leadership skills | handling negative feedback | transformational coaching | emotional intelligence for leaders | coaching podcast

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In Part 2 of our conversation with New York Times bestselling author Daniel Coyle, we go deeper into the mechanics of building high-performance teams, psychological safety vs. brave spaces, and what 13 years inside the Cleveland Guardians organization has taught him about leadership development, team culture, and coaching from the inside out.

Whether you're a coach, athletic director, team leader, or culture builder — this episode will challenge the way you think about rules, growth, and connection.

🔥 WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE:

• Why "safe spaces" is the wrong goal — and what to build instead (brave spaces)
• How vague team rules create MORE accountability than specific ones
• The difference between complicated vs. complex systems — and why it changes everything for leaders
• How the Cleveland Guardians flipped their coach development model to drive growth from the inside out
• The two types of attention every leader needs to understand: controlling vs. connective
• Why powerful questions are the #1 leadership tool (and how to use them)
• Daniel's "daily rando" habit for building genuine connection
• What "yellow doors" can teach you about leadership presence and openness

⏱️ CHAPTERS

0:00 – Introduction: Why This Conversation Matters

0:41 – The Four H's Exercise: Building Connection Through Questions

3:40 – Designing Constraints That Spark Vulnerability

5:28 – Safe Spaces vs. Brave Spaces: What Psychological Safety Really Means

7:01 – Team Rules, Standards & Norms: Why Vague Is Better

10:30 – Complicated vs. Complex Systems: A Leadership Game-Changer

13:46 – How Great Teams Self-Organize Like a River (Not a Machine)

14:29 – Terry Francona's 4 Rules and Why They Work

16:39 – Navigating a Complex Season Without Losing Your Mind

18:04 – The "You're Going to Have a Great Time" Rule (Agency in Action)

18:47 – Inside the Cleveland Guardians: Building a Culture of Mattering

20:50 – How the Guardians Use Questions to Develop Coaches

23:03 – Flipping Coach Development: From Expert-Driven to Inside-Out

25:59 – Shared Development vs. Solo Development

27:27 – Daniel's Role with the Guardians: Asking Dumb Questions

30:00 – Controlling Attention vs. Connective Attention Explained

32:46 – The "Daily Rando" Habit for Leaders

33:51 – 3 Steps to Sum Up the Book: Notice, Ask, Listen

35:14 – Yellow Doors: How Openness Fuels Flourishing

37:12 – Fred Rogers and the People Who Loved You Into Being

38:34 – Daniel's Little League Coach and the Power of Meaningful Moments

39:39 – Outro: Safe Spaces vs. Brave Spaces Revisited + TOC Coach Community

RESOURCES & LINKS

Daniel Coyle's Book : https://danielcoyle.com

Part 1 of This Conversation (Episode 450): https://youtu.be/ylxPptaE-0E

TOC Coach Community (Free to Join): https://www.skool.com/toccoach/about

JP's Article — "I've Got No Interest in Safe Spaces": https://tocculture.com/post/cause-ive-got-no-interest-in-safe-spaces

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ABOUT DANIEL COYLE

Daniel Coyle is the New York Times bestselling author of The Culture Code, The Talent Code, and Hardball (the basis for the Keanu Reeves film). He has spent over 13 years as a consultant with the Cleveland Guardians and is one of the world's foremost experts on team culture, leadership development, and high-performance organizations.

🎧 ABOUT THE COACHING CULTURE PODCAST

The Coaching Culture Podcast helps coaches, athletic directors, and leaders build stronger team cultures, develop leadership skills, and become better coaches. Hosted by JP, founder of TOC Culture and author of multiple leadership development programs. New episodes every week. Subscribe so you never miss one.

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What does it take to build a truly flourishing team? NYT bestselling author Daniel Coyle (The Culture Code, The Talent Code) returns to share insights from his powerful new book Flourish — and this conversation will change how you think about leadership, team culture, and what it means to matter.We explore the difference between belonging and mattering, why psychological safety isn't enough, and how the most transformational leaders don't motivate — they architect meaningful moments. From a small Vermont town that produced 11 Olympians, to the New England Patriots' Four H's exercise, to a $90 million deli in Michigan, Coyle unpacks the hidden machinery behind teams that truly thrive.Whether you're a sports coach, executive leader, or team builder, this episode delivers simple, actionable strategies you can use today.🔔 Subscribe so you don't miss Part 2 — where we unpack the difference between safe spaces and brave spaces, and why we're getting psychological safety wrong.📩 Get the show notes + free resources: https://tocculture.com🧠 Join TOC Coach: https://www.skool.com/toccoach/about📚 Daniel Coyle's new book Flourish: https://a.co/d/058n8AqK📚 The Culture Code (Ep 245 & 246): https://youtu.be/Zlero0ksd3g?si=6JvF9k6U387X7YNR🗓️ Leadership Retreat (April 2026): https://tocculture.com🏆 In This Episode You'll Learn:Why mattering is more powerful than belonging — and what most coaches get wrongThe Four H's Exercise used by the New England Patriots to build instant connectionHow the "emptiness epidemic" is quietly killing your team's performanceWhy answers divide teams and questions unite themThe simple leadership habit of creating meaningful moments (without a course or a program)How vulnerability builds trust — not the other way aroundWhat a $90 million deli can teach every coach about contribution and cultureWhy pausing is the most productive thing a high-performance team can doThe difference between flourishing and performance — and why top teams that skip this fall apart⏱️ CHAPTERS00:00 — Intro: Why The Culture Code and Flourish Changed Everything03:24 — Interview Begins: Why Flourish Is More Personal Than Coyle's Other Books04:17 — The "Emptiness Epidemic" — Success Without Fulfillment07:09 — Why This Book Is So Timely: We Only Become Our Best Through Others10:01 — How Flourish Builds on The Culture Code11:47 — Flourishing vs. Thriving: Is There a Difference?12:37 — The Core Question: What Is "Aliveness"?15:35 — Mattering vs. Belonging: The Crucial Distinction17:15 — What Coaches Miss: Creating Belonging Without Mattering19:46 — Steve Kerr, the Warriors & the Video Intern Who Changed a Game20:09 — Mattering Creates Contribution — Not Just Safety22:05 — Creating an Oasis: How to Build a Village, Not a Freeway23:20 — What Teams Actually Crave: Family, Brotherhood, Sisterhood26:50 — The Coach as Architect of Meaningful Moments27:22 — Why Every Coach Should Learn Facilitation (and Executive Coaching)28:55 — Vulnerability Builds Trust — Not the Other Way Around30:41 — Does Your Schedule Facilitate Meaningful Relationships?31:20 — Mattering Moments Can Be Created On the Fly31:42 — Good Leaders Ask Deep Questions They Don't Know the Answer To32:15 — The "Connective Energy Business": What Great Teams Are Really Doing32:57 — Answers Drive Us Apart. Questions Bring Us Together.34:01 — Coming in Part 2: Safe Spaces vs. Brave Spaces & Getting Psychological Safety Right🔑 Keywords / TopicsLeadership development | Team culture | High-performance teams | Daniel Coyle | The Culture Code | Flourish book | Psychological safety | Team building | Executive coaching | Sports coaching | Mattering vs belonging | Meaningful leadership | Team facilitation | Coaching culture | Community building | Employee engagement | Team cohesion | Leadership podcast | Vulnerability in leadership | Sports psychology

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Are you a coach running on empty? In this episode of The Coaching Culture Podcast, host JP Nerbun sits down with co-hosts Nate Sanderson and Betsy Butterick to tackle one of the most overlooked challenges in sports leadership: coach burnout.

Whether you're grinding through a losing season, leading disengaged athletes, or simply feeling depleted with nothing left to give — this conversation is for you. JP, Nate, and Betsy break down what burnout actually looks like, why it happens, and the practical leadership strategies that help coaches recover, rebuild, and lead sustainably for the long term.

🔑 IN THIS EPISODE

✔ How to recognize the signs of coach burnout before it's too late

✔ Why stress without recovery destroys leadership effectiveness

✔ How to coach through a losing season without losing your identity

✔ What to do when your athletes are disengaged and you care more than they do

✔ The counterintuitive truth: sometimes doing LESS makes you a better leader

✔ How joy and burnout can coexist — and why protecting joy matters

✔ Practical non-negotiables every leader needs to prevent burnout

✔ The "Last Time Meditation" — a Stoic tool for coaches under pressure

⏱ CHAPTERS

0:00 — Is burnout inevitable? JP introduces the question

2:41 — What does burnout actually feel like? Nate breaks it down

4:56 — Betsy's light bulb analogy: how burnt-out coaches stop shining

7:00 — Coaching through a losing season: where do you even start?

11:23 — Process vs. results: why coaches can't afford to pick just one

13:28 — Real coaching call: "Do I tell my team how much is on the line?"

14:57 — The Last Time Meditation: a Stoic tool for high-pressure moments

16:53 — Disengaged athletes: the frustration that drains coaches most

18:03 — John Wooden's advice to Sue Enquist — and what it means for you

22:18 — The three questions that build a roadmap for athlete engagement

22:49 — Joy and burnout: how they coexist and why it matters

27:13 — Doing less to get more — Betsy's coaching college basketball story

27:53 — The dance party principle: why play is a leadership recovery tool

29:48 — Your personal non-negotiables: what do YOU need to perform?

31:13 — Who are you okay letting down? The hardest leadership question

31:38 — Delegation as a burnout prevention strategy

35:13 — Final message from Betsy: start with self, start small

36:05 — Final message from Nate: know thyself and protect your energy

38:41 — JP's practical tip: the journal + phone-free routine that recharges you

41:00 — Book recommendation: "Kids These Days" by Betsy Butterick: https://a.co/d/0graCkQr

🔗 RESOURCES & LINKS

📧 Join the TOC Coach Community: https://www.skool.com/toccoach/about

📘 Connect with JP Nerbun: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jpnerbun

📚 Books & Resources Mentioned:

→ "Peak Performance" by Brad Stulberg & Steve Magness: https://www.amazon.com/Peak-Performance-Elevate-Burnout-Science/dp/162336793X

→ "The Obstacle Is the Way" (Stoicism / Last Time Meditation): https://www.amazon.com/Obstacle-Way-Timeless-Turning-Triumph/dp/1591846358

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🤝 Join TOC Coach for FREE — Better Coaches, Better Leaders, Better Culture: https://www.skool.com/toccoachWhat does it really mean to lead with purpose? In Part 2 of our conversation with Justin Simpkins — founder of Prairie Hockey Academy (PHA), host of the Grit and Growth Podcast, and author of Significance Over Success — we go deep on transformational leadership, building character through sport, and what it takes to grow as a leader, parent, and human being. Whether you're a coach, parent, athlete, executive, or anyone pursuing meaningful growth, this episode is packed with practical wisdom and honest conversation.📚 RESOURCES MENTIONED 📗 Significance Over Success by Justin Simpkins & Shane Sowden→ https://www.amazon.com/Significance-Over-Success-Redefining-Obsessed/dp/B0G3KBGBSK 🎙️ Grit and Growth Podcast (hosted by Justin Simpkins & Shane Sowden)→ https://www.youtube.com/@UCZbN7FpyDHLRQomRWst0Y0A 📬 GET THE FREE EPISODE NOTES:Subscribe to the Team Culture Toolbox at 👉 https://tocculture.com/culture-toolboxGet weekly thoughts on leadership, culture, and coaching delivered to your inbox. 🏫 READY TO GO DEEPER?Join the TOC Coach Community (free) or unlock Premium Access — https://www.skool.com/toccoach/about→ 12 full coaching courses→ Live trainings & office hours with JP→ The Playing Time System Course (eliminate playing time drama for good)🔑 KEY TOPICS & LEADERSHIP CONCEPTS COVERED ✅ Transformational Leadership in Sports✅ Character Development Through Athletics✅ Level 5 Leadership (Jim Collins / Good to Great)✅ Self-Awareness & Personal Growth✅ Purpose-Driven Coaching✅ Building a Winning Culture✅ Grit, Resilience & Mental Toughness✅ Significance Over Success Mindset✅ Youth Sports Leadership Development✅ Habits, Burnout & Leading Yourself First✅ Team Manifesto & Co-Creating Core Values✅ Coaching Youth Athletes with Integrity#leadershipdevelopment #transformationalleadership #sportsleadership #coachingleadership #YouthSportsCoach #gritandgrowth #SignificanceOverSuccess #purposedrivenleadership #characterdevelopment #Level5Leadership #mentaltoughness #goodtogreat #hockeyleadership #athleteleadership #personalgrowthpodcast #coachingculture #BuildingCulture #leadershippodcast #sportsmotivation #growthmindset

How do you build a championship culture that goes beyond the scoreboard? Justin Simpkins, founder of Prairie Hockey Academy, shares how he turned a small-town Saskatchewan hockey program into one of Canada's premier character development academies — and why the secret to elite athletic leadership has nothing to do with winning.In this episode, we dive deep into transformational leadership in sports, character-based coaching, and what it actually takes to build a culture where athletes don't just become better players — they become better people.Whether you're a coach, athletic director, parent, or leader, this conversation will challenge the way you think about leadership development, team culture, and the true purpose of sport.🏒 WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE:Why "hockey is just a vehicle" is the philosophy changing youth sportsThe concept of meekness as power under control — and why it's the foundation of servant leadershipThe difference between demanding and demeaning in coachingWhy hiring for character beats hiring for credentials every timeHow player development plans keep coaches focused on what mattersWhat the Ritz-Carlton principle has to do with building elite team cultureWhy love is the real "secret sauce" in transformational coaching⏱️ CHAPTERS:0:00 – Introduction to Prairie Hockey Academy & Justin Simpkins4:42 – Power Under Control: Meekness, Servant Leadership & Intentional Coaching7:25 – Selling a Character-First Vision in a Competitive Hockey World8:11 – The Turning Point: When Athletes Wanted to Come Back9:16 – Building Culture from the Inside Out: Staffing & Coaching Philosophy12:26 – Don't Chase Credentials — Hire for Heart & Growth Mindset14:10 – Operationalizing Values: Player Development Plans & Character Sessions23:45 – Being Recognized as Canada's Premier Character Development Academy24:55 – Advice for Athletic Directors & Club Leaders: Know Your Why28:34 – First Things First: Why Sport Doesn't Automatically Build Character33:12 – Key Takeaways from JP & Nate🔗 RESOURCES & LINKS MENTIONED:🌐 TOC Culture (Thrive On Challenge): https://tocculture.com📧 Subscribe to the Team Culture Toolbox Newsletter: https://tocculture.com/culture-toolbox🏒 Prairie Hockey Academy: https://www.prairiehockey.ca/📚 Significance Over Success: https://www.amazon.com/Significance-Over-Success-Redefining-Obsessed/dp/B0G3KBGBSK🎙️ ABOUT THE COACHING CULTURE PODCAST:The Coaching Culture Podcast is built to help coaches, leaders, and culture builders become better at what they do — on and off the field. Hosted by JP and Nate, each episode features honest conversations with coaches and leaders who are doing the hard work of building transformational teams and cultures.👉 Subscribe so you never miss an episode.⭐ Leave us a 5-star review if this episode added value.📲 Share this episode with a coach or leader in your life.