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Episode 197 -  Raising Confident Kids Without Hovering, with Kepler Knott 

“How do I help my child grow into a confident adult without controlling their every step?”

If you’ve ever asked yourself that question, you’re not alone.

Parenting today’s generation is a whole different ball game. With the rise of social media, constant comparison, digital overload, and the fear of letting our kids fail, it’s no wonder so many parents feel stuck between wanting to protect their children and wanting them to grow strong and resilient.

In this episode of the Coaching Your Family Relationships Podcast, I talk with Kepler Knott, author of Raising Tomorrow—a powerful new book that began as heartfelt letters to his daughters and grew into a guide for modern parenting. Together, we explore how to raise emotionally healthy kids in a world full of noise, pressure, and expectations.

You’ll hear us unpack:

• How to advise your kids without trying to control the outcome
• The emotional cost of constant comparison for both kids and parents
• Why technology can quietly erode confidence—and how to counter it
• The surprising way that service and giving build resilient, grounded kids
• Why modeling a growth mindset matters more than ever

This episode isn’t about perfect parenting. It’s about parenting with intention, humility, and heart.

Whether your child is pulling away emotionally, you feel like you’re walking on eggshells, or you simply want to build a more connected relationship, this conversation will give you fresh insight and practical tools to start showing up differently.

Learn more at https://www.raisingtomorrow.org/ 

Download the Free Guide:
 “The 3-Step Solution to Keeping Your Cool Around Family Holiday Drama”
 Holidays can stir up old patterns and emotions—this guide will help you stay grounded and respond with grace.

Grab your copy here: DOWNLOAD THE GUIDE

Ready to learn how to manage your emotional reactions? Calm Core is your guide:

Being able to manage your emotional reactions to others is a vital step in repairing family relationships

CLICK HERE TO SEE CALM CORE

Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs.
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Episode 196 - The Emotionally Immature Things We Say (And Why They Don’t Work)

Have you ever walked away from a conversation with your adult child and thought, “Why did I say that?” or “That did not go how I wanted”?

In this episode, Tina dives deep into the emotionally immature things we say—often without realizing it—and why those words don’t create the connection we long for. You’ll learn how your nervous system hijacks your responses, how to notice your patterns, and how to shift toward emotional maturity and real repair.

Whether you’ve said, “I’m not perfect, you know,” or “Just get over it and move on,” this episode will help you understand what’s underneath those words—and what to say instead.

What You'll Learn:

• Why emotional immaturity isn’t about being a “bad parent”—it’s about being in protection mode
• 7 common phrases that damage connection (and what they really mean)
• How your nervous system impacts your ability to stay calm and present
• Simple shifts to move from reactivity to responsibility in conversations

Why awareness—not perfection—is the first step to healing family relationships 

Download the Free Guide:
 “The 3-Step Solution to Keeping Your Cool Around Family Holiday Drama”
 Holidays can stir up old patterns and emotions—this guide will help you stay grounded and respond with grace.

Grab your copy here: DOWNLOAD THE GUIDE

Ready to learn how to manage your emotional reactions? Calm Core is your guide:

Being able to manage your emotional reactions to others is a vital step in repairing family relationships

CLICK HERE TO SEE CALM CORE

Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs.
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Episode 195 – 3 Shifts to Begin Solving Family Conflict – Even if You’re the Only One Trying
 
Is your relationship with your adult child strained, tense, or completely shut down? You’re not alone—and you’re not powerless. In this episode, I’m giving you the three foundational shifts that begin to heal family conflict, even when the other person isn’t willing to engage. If you’ve been trying to fix the relationship by focusing on them, this episode is your invitation to turn inward and start creating change that lasts.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• Why looking at your own role in the conflict is a powerful first step
• How to manage your emotional reactions in the heat of the moment
• The impact of unspoken expectations on family dynamics
• Why discomfort is a sign you’re on the right path—and how to handle it with strength
• The ONE shift that opens the door to real healing in your relationship

Download the Free Guide:
 “The 3-Step Solution to Keeping Your Cool Around Family Holiday Drama”
 Holidays can stir up old patterns and emotions—this guide will help you stay grounded and respond with grace.

Grab your copy here: DOWNLOAD THE GUIDE

 

Ready to learn how to manage your emotional reactions? Calm Core is your guide:

Being able to manage your emotional reactions to others is a vital step in repairing family relationships

CLICK HERE TO SEE CALM CORE

 

Download the Free Guide:
 “The 3-Step Solution to Keeping Your Cool Around Family Holiday Drama”
 Holidays can stir up old patterns and emotions—this guide will help you stay grounded and respond with grace.

Grab your copy here: DOWNLOAD THE GUIDE

Ready to learn how to manage your emotional reactions? Calm Core is your guide:

Being able to manage your emotional reactions to others is a vital step in repairing family relationships

CLICK HERE TO SEE CALM CORE

Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs.
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Tina is certified in family relationships and a trauma informed coach.
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Episode 194 - Do I Have to Choose Between Peace and Honest in My Family?

Have you ever felt stuck between keeping the peace in your family and being honest about how you really feel?

In this episode, Tina Gosney, Family Conflict Coach and Family Life Educator, explains why that “peace vs. honesty” tug-of-war is actually a false choice—and how you can show up with both calm and clarity in even the hardest conversations.

You’ll learn:

• Why fixing, pleasing, avoiding, or overreacting leaves you more disconnected
• The truth about the peace vs. honesty dilemma in family conflict
• A simple 3-step practice to ground yourself, calm your emotions, and respond with confidence
• A reflection prompt to help you notice your family role and begin shifting it

This conversation will help you stop walking on eggshells and start building stronger, healthier family relationships—without giving yourself away.

If this episode resonates with you, join Tina’s free live event happening this week: The Ultimate Virtual Event to End Family Disconnection and Rebuild Relationships That Last. You’ll go deeper into nervous system tools, clear communication practices, and strategies to rebuild connection with your loved ones.

Register here to save your spot

Download the Free Guide:
 “The 3-Step Solution to Keeping Your Cool Around Family Holiday Drama”
 Holidays can stir up old patterns and emotions—this guide will help you stay grounded and respond with grace.

Grab your copy here: DOWNLOAD THE GUIDE

Ready to learn how to manage your emotional reactions? Calm Core is your guide:

Being able to manage your emotional reactions to others is a vital step in repairing family relationships

CLICK HERE TO SEE CALM CORE

Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs.
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Tina is certified in family relationships and a trauma informed coach.
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Episode 193: From Victim to Empowered — How to Reclaim Agency and Accountability in Family Relationships

In this second part of my conversation with Emily Layton, we explore what happens after awareness and acceptance — the critical next steps of agency, accountability, and action. If you’ve ever felt stuck in a victim mindset or found yourself waiting for others to change before you feel better, this episode will challenge your thinking and inspire powerful change.

We talk about the difference between blame and responsibility, how generational patterns keep us stuck, and what it really takes to step into your personal power — especially when relationships feel strained or disconnected.

Emily shares stories, metaphors, and practical wisdom that make this conversation rich and relatable. You’ll walk away with a deeper understanding of how to move forward without perfection, embrace mistakes as part of growth, and reclaim your voice in your most important relationships.

If you missed Part 1 of this interview, be sure to go back and listen to Episode 192 first.

Meet My Guest: Emily Layton

Emily Layton has a Master's degree in Marriage, Family, and Human Development from BYU. She is a certified life coach who focuses on identity integration and personal restoration, centered in the gospel of Jesus Christ and informed by interpersonal neurobiology.

Download Emily’s FREE graphic:
Steps Up to the High Brain

Learn more about Emily’s work at:
www.GrowintheLight.com

Schedule a free 30-minute discovery call:
Email Emily directly at [email protected]

Ready to stop the cycle of disconnection in your family?

Join me for my next free workshop:

End Family Disconnection and Rebuild Relationships that Last
Date: October 9, 2025
Sign up here:

Download the Free Guide:
 “The 3-Step Solution to Keeping Your Cool Around Family Holiday Drama”
 Holidays can stir up old patterns and emotions—this guide will help you stay grounded and respond with grace.

Grab your copy here: DOWNLOAD THE GUIDE

Ready to learn how to manage your emotional reactions? Calm Core is your guide:

Being able to manage your emotional reactions to others is a vital step in repairing family relationships

CLICK HERE TO SEE CALM CORE

Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs.
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Tina is certified in family relationships and a trauma informed coach.
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Episode 192 -  From Triggered to Centered: Tools to Rewire Your Reactions and Restore Family Peace

Are you constantly walking on eggshells with your adult child?
 Do you find yourself reacting instead of responding—and then beating yourself up later?

You’re not alone.

In this episode, I’m joined by growth coach Emily Layton, and we’re diving deep into how to move from survival mode to soulful connection. We explore what it means to operate from your “low brain” vs. your “high brain,” how fear hijacks your reactions, and the exact steps to regulate your nervous system so you can show up grounded, calm, and connected—even in the most emotionally charged moments.

If you’ve ever wondered:
 “Why do I keep reacting this way?” or
“How do I stop the spiral and show up better in my family?”
—this episode will give you the framework you’ve been searching for.

Meet My Guest: Emily Layton

Emily Layton has a Master's degree in Marriage, Family, and Human Development from BYU. She is a certified life coach who focuses on identity integration and personal restoration, centered in the gospel of Jesus Christ and informed by interpersonal neurobiology.

Download Emily’s FREE graphic:
Steps Up to the High Brain

Learn more about Emily’s work at:
www.GrowintheLight.com

Schedule a free 30-minute discovery call:
Email Emily directly at [email protected]

Ready to stop the cycle of disconnection in your family?

Join me for my next free workshop:

End Family Disconnection and Rebuild Relationships that Last
Date: October 9, 2025
Sign up here: https://www.courageous-connections.com/end-family-disconnection-even

Download the Free Guide:
 “The 3-Step Solution to Keeping Your Cool Around Family Holiday Drama”
 Holidays can stir up old patterns and emotions—this guide will help you stay grounded and respond with grace.

Grab your copy here: DOWNLOAD THE GUIDE

Ready to learn how to manage your emotional reactions? Calm Core is your guide:

Being able to manage your emotional reactions to others is a vital step in repairing family relationships

CLICK HERE TO SEE CALM CORE

Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs.
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Connect with us:

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Tina is certified in family relationships and a trauma informed coach.
Visit tinagosney.com for more information on coaching services.

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Episode 191 - When Conflict or Silence Feels Like Love: What Fighting and Avoidance Say About Your Family

Is your family stuck in conflict—either yelling and arguing or avoiding everything in silence? In this episode, family relationship coach Tina Gosney explains how conflict styles shape marriage, parenting, and your relationship with adult children—and how to move from destructive patterns to constructive conflict and emotional safety.

 In this episode of Coaching Your Family Relationships, Tina Gosney, Family Life Educator and Family Relationship Coach, breaks down the hidden conflict styles that shape your marriage, your parenting, and your relationship with your family.

You’ll discover:

• Why yelling, arguing, or “unfiltered honesty” can feel like love and connection in some families
• Why silence, sweeping things under the rug, or avoiding tough conversations can feel like safety in others
• How destructive conflict, conflict avoidance, and constructive conflict each shape your family relationships
• What happens when highly religious families label conflict as “sinful” and shut it down
• How parents—whether raising kids or relating to adult children—set the emotional tone for the whole family
• Why fighting doesn’t always mean connection, and silence doesn’t always mean peace
• Practical steps to create emotional safety, better communication, and genuine connection at home

Whether your home has been marked by explosive arguments or cold silences, this episode will help you understand your conflict style and begin practicing constructive conflict that leads to healing, intimacy, and lasting connection.

Join Tina Gosney’s live workshop on October 9th: End Family Disconnection and Rebuild Relationships that Last. Learn how to change the emotional climate of your family—even if no one else changes first. CLICK HERE TO REGISTER

Download the Free Guide:
 “The 3-Step Solution to Keeping Your Cool Around Family Holiday Drama”
 Holidays can stir up old patterns and emotions—this guide will help you stay grounded and respond with grace.

Grab your copy here: DOWNLOAD THE GUIDE

Ready to learn how to manage your emotional reactions? Calm Core is your guide:

Being able to manage your emotional reactions to others is a vital step in repairing family relationships

CLICK HERE TO SEE CALM CORE

Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs.
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Connect with us:

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Tina is certified in family relationships and a trauma informed coach.
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Episode 190: Why Taking Care of Yourself Isn't Selfish: How Wise Selfishness Strengthens Family Relationships

Is taking care of yourself selfish—or is it the very thing your family needs most?

In this episode of Coaching Your Family Relationships, Family Conflict Coach, Tina Gosney, explores the belief so many women were raised with: that self-care is wrong, selfish, or indulgent. Using the story of “Sarah,” a mom running on empty from years of self-sacrifice, Tina unpacks how burnout, resentment, and guilt often come from ignoring our own needs.

You’ll discover the concept of wise selfishness—a perspective that transforms guilt into grounded self-care, boundaries into deeper love, and personal well-being into stronger family connection.

If you’ve ever felt invisible, resentful, or guilty for saying no, this episode will help you see self-care in a new way: not as selfishness, but as the foundation of real connection.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode

• Why the belief that “taking care of yourself is selfish” quietly sabotages family relationships
• How wise selfishness (a Buddhist teaching) reframes self-care as essential to love and connection
• The generational programming that teaches women to disappear in service of others
• What happens when you suppress your needs—and why they eventually leak out as resentment or burnout
• Practical ways to start honoring your needs without losing closeness with your family

Resources & Next Steps

Ready to go deeper? Join Tina for a 1-day training on October 9: End Family Disconnection and Create Relationships That Last.
This isn’t just another workshop—it’s a space to reconnect with yourself and your family in powerful, practical way

CLICK HERE TO REGISTER

Download the Free Guide:
 “The 3-Step Solution to Keeping Your Cool Around Family Holiday Drama”
 Holidays can stir up old patterns and emotions—this guide will help you stay grounded and respond with grace.

Grab your copy here: DOWNLOAD THE GUIDE

Ready to learn how to manage your emotional reactions? Calm Core is your guide:

Being able to manage your emotional reactions to others is a vital step in repairing family relationships

CLICK HERE TO SEE CALM CORE

Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs.
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Tina is certified in family relationships and a trauma informed coach.
Visit tinagosney.com for more information on coaching services.

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Episode 189: Why Strategies Aren’t Enough to Heal Family Disconnection (And What Actually Works)

Have you tried everything to fix your family—but nothing seems to work?

You’ve read the books.
 You’ve followed the scripts.
 You’ve apologized, stayed calm, set boundaries…
 And you’re still walking on eggshells.

In this episode, Tina Gosney, Family Relationship Coach and expert in Bowen Family Systems Theory, explains why strategies and tools—while helpful—are not enough to heal deep family disconnection. And more importantly, she reveals what actually creates lasting transformation.

You’ll learn:

• The emotional and cultural trends affecting today’s families (and why it’s not just you)
• The real reason communication tips and parenting tools fall short
• What inner transformation looks and feels like (and how others will experience it in you)
• Why differentiation of self is the missing key to restoring connection
• How to become the calm, grounded, emotionally mature leader your family needs

This is an eye-opening conversation for every mother who’s tried to “fix” things but feels stuck in guilt, grief, or confusion. If you’re ready to stop reacting and start leading—with compassion, confidence, and courage—this episode is your starting point.
 
 

Related Episodes:

179 - Break the Cycle and Lead Your Family with Calm, Loving Energy and Personal Integrity

187 – Stress – What Happens in Your Brain and Body and How to Stay Grounded

180 – How Your Nervous System Shapes Reactions, Relationships, and Resilience.

Download the Free Guide:
 “The 3-Step Solution to Keeping Your Cool Around Family Holiday Drama”
 Holidays can stir up old patterns and emotions—this guide will help you stay grounded and respond with grace.

Grab your copy here: DOWNLOAD THE GUIDE

Ready to learn how to manage your emotional reactions? Calm Core is your guide:

Being able to manage your emotional reactions to others is a vital step in repairing family relationships

CLICK HERE TO SEE CALM CORE

Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs.
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Tina is certified in family relationships and a trauma informed coach.
Visit tinagosney.com for more information on coaching services.

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Episode 188 - Creating Connection in Families Facing Suicide and Addiction

September is Suicide Awareness Month, and in this powerful episode, I’m joined by women I serve with on the board of Connection is the Cure, a nonprofit based in Boise, Idaho. Together, we share real, personal stories of what it’s like to love someone who is struggling—with addiction, with depression, and with thoughts of suicide.

This episode isn’t just about raising awareness—it’s about equipping you with compassion, perspective, and a deeper understanding of what connection really means, especially when it feels hard or uncomfortable.

Whether you’re a parent, sibling, or friend of someone who’s hurting—or you’re the one quietly suffering—this episode is for you.

What You’ll Learn:

• How suicide and addiction affect entire families, not just individuals
• Why connection—real, face-to-face, unconditional connection—is so vital
• What the acronym CARE means and how it helps build lasting, healing relationships
• How to be a safe place for someone who is struggling
• The truth about vulnerability, authenticity, and respecting people who are different from you

Resources Mentioned:

• Connection is the Cure – Our nonprofit dedicated to suicide and addiction awareness and prevention. Visit the website for upcoming events, donation info, and additional resources

If You’re Local to Boise:
We invite you to come to one of our community events. Bring a friend. Make a connection. Help us create a culture where no one has to suffer alone.

If You’re Struggling:
Please don’t do it alone. There are people who care. There are resources that can help. Start by reaching out—whether to a trusted friend, a support group, or a professional. Your life matters.

Download the Free Guide:
 “The 3-Step Solution to Keeping Your Cool Around Family Holiday Drama”
 Holidays can stir up old patterns and emotions—this guide will help you stay grounded and respond with grace.

Grab your copy here: DOWNLOAD THE GUIDE

Ready to learn how to manage your emotional reactions? Calm Core is your guide:

Being able to manage your emotional reactions to others is a vital step in repairing family relationships

CLICK HERE TO SEE CALM CORE

Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs.
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Connect with us:

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Tina is certified in family relationships and a trauma informed coach.
Visit tinagosney.com for more information on coaching services.