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Episode 200 - Why Gratitude Changes Everything: Abundance, Joy, and Healing in Family Life 

In today’s episode of the Finding Joy Series, Tina dives deep into one of the most powerful emotional tools available to us—gratitude. This isn’t the shallow “write three things” gratitude list you’ve heard a thousand times. Instead, Tina teaches you how gratitude helps regulate your nervous system, rewires your brain’s negativity bias, and creates real emotional safety in your body.

Drawing from the Eight Pillars of Joy (Dalai Lama & Desmond Tutu), Tina explains why gratitude is a pillar of the heart, how your body stores emotional memory, and why without body-based learning, real change doesn’t stick.

You’ll learn:

1. Why your brain automatically focuses on the negative
2. How body learning works
3. How scarcity and “never enough” thinking becomes an energy center
4. Why you struggle to receive compliments or gratitude
5. How gratitude helps you shift your focus from lack to abundance
6. How to heal scarcity and regulate your nervous system using gratitude

Episode Takeaways

• Gratitude helps you override the brain’s built-in negativity bias.
• Receiving gratitude is an essential relational skill—not a bonus.
• True change requires integrating mind + body, not relying on thought alone.
• Consistent practice shifts your identity, confidence, and capacity for connection.

This Week’s Challenge

Every day, write down three things you’re grateful for—and don’t repeat any items all week.
Then sit quietly for five minutes and feel gratitude in your body. Notice how it changes your emotional tone.

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 “The 3-Step Solution to Keeping Your Cool Around Family Holiday Drama”
 Holidays can stir up old patterns and emotions—this guide will help you stay grounded and respond with grace.

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Ready to learn how to manage your emotional reactions? Calm Core is your guide:

Being able to manage your emotional reactions to others is a vital step in repairing family relationships

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Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs.
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Episode 199: Two Communication Habits That Hurt Your Family Relationships 

Are your efforts to connect actually driving disconnection? 

In this episode of the Coaching Your Family Relationships Podcast, Tina Gosney, family conflict coach and family life educator, unpacks two common communication habits that silently sabotage family trust and closeness—Unbridled Self-Expression and Punishment and Retaliation. 

These habits often come from a place of deep hurt or high expectations, but they rarely get you the connection you want. Instead, they keep you stuck in frustration, resentment, and miscommunication. 

You’ll learn: 

• Why “speaking your truth” might be crossing a boundary
• The emotional cost of spilling your feelings without filter
• How our childhood home dynamics still shape how we show up in adult relationships
• What passive-aggressive behavior really communicates—and why it never works
• How to stop letting your feelings control your words and actions
• A better way to respond when you feel hurt or disappointed by a family member

This episode is especially helpful if you've ever thought:
 

• “I don’t know how to talk to them anymore”
• “Everything I say gets taken the wrong way”
• “Why do I always end up being the bad guy?”

You don’t need to yell, shut down, or “teach them a lesson” to be heard. There is another way—and it starts with understanding what’s not working.

Download the Free Guide:
 “The 3-Step Solution to Keeping Your Cool Around Family Holiday Drama”
 Holidays can stir up old patterns and emotions—this guide will help you stay grounded and respond with grace.

Grab your copy here: DOWNLOAD THE GUIDE

Ready to learn how to manage your emotional reactions? Calm Core is your guide:

Being able to manage your emotional reactions to others is a vital step in repairing family relationships

CLICK HERE TO SEE CALM CORE

Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs.
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Episode 198 - Why Needing to Be Right and Staying in Control Are Hurting Your Relationship with Your Adult Child

"Why won’t my adult child talk to me?"
If you’ve found yourself asking that question, you're not alone—and this episode is for you.

I’m Tina Gosney, family conflict coach and family life educator. In this special rebroadcast, I’m bringing back two powerful episodes because the messages inside them are so important. They highlight two common, but losing strategies in family relationships: the need to be right and the need to stay in control.

These patterns show up in nearly every strained parent-adult child relationship, especially in families experiencing emotional distance, conflict, or even estrangement. If you're searching for how to reconnect with an estranged adult child or wondering how to fix a broken relationship with your adult child, this is where you start.

Most parents don’t realize they’re relying on these strategies—but they often show up as walking on eggshells, trying to get your child to understand your point of view, or needing them to see you in a certain way. These are protective strategies, but they push your child further away.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• How the need to be right can damage trust and lead to long-term disconnection
• Why trying to control how your adult child behaves, thinks, or sees you often backfires
• What’s happening in your brain that keeps you repeating these ineffective patterns
• How to stop the cycle and start building a healthier, more respectful relationship

If you've been asking “why does my child hate me?” or feel like “my adult child is pulling away,” this episode will help you understand what’s really going on underneath those feelings—and what you can do about it.

This is about more than just improving communication. It’s about emotional maturity in parent-adult child dynamics, and learning to respond with grace and strength—so you can create connection without control.

Let’s Connect:
If you’re tired

Download the Free Guide:
 “The 3-Step Solution to Keeping Your Cool Around Family Holiday Drama”
 Holidays can stir up old patterns and emotions—this guide will help you stay grounded and respond with grace.

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Ready to learn how to manage your emotional reactions? Calm Core is your guide:

Being able to manage your emotional reactions to others is a vital step in repairing family relationships

CLICK HERE TO SEE CALM CORE

Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs.
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Episode 197 -  Raising Confident Kids Without Hovering, with Kepler Knott 

“How do I help my child grow into a confident adult without controlling their every step?”

If you’ve ever asked yourself that question, you’re not alone.

Parenting today’s generation is a whole different ball game. With the rise of social media, constant comparison, digital overload, and the fear of letting our kids fail, it’s no wonder so many parents feel stuck between wanting to protect their children and wanting them to grow strong and resilient.

In this episode of the Coaching Your Family Relationships Podcast, I talk with Kepler Knott, author of Raising Tomorrow—a powerful new book that began as heartfelt letters to his daughters and grew into a guide for modern parenting. Together, we explore how to raise emotionally healthy kids in a world full of noise, pressure, and expectations.

You’ll hear us unpack:

• How to advise your kids without trying to control the outcome
• The emotional cost of constant comparison for both kids and parents
• Why technology can quietly erode confidence—and how to counter it
• The surprising way that service and giving build resilient, grounded kids
• Why modeling a growth mindset matters more than ever

This episode isn’t about perfect parenting. It’s about parenting with intention, humility, and heart.

Whether your child is pulling away emotionally, you feel like you’re walking on eggshells, or you simply want to build a more connected relationship, this conversation will give you fresh insight and practical tools to start showing up differently.

Learn more at https://www.raisingtomorrow.org/ 

Download the Free Guide:
 “The 3-Step Solution to Keeping Your Cool Around Family Holiday Drama”
 Holidays can stir up old patterns and emotions—this guide will help you stay grounded and respond with grace.

Grab your copy here: DOWNLOAD THE GUIDE

Ready to learn how to manage your emotional reactions? Calm Core is your guide:

Being able to manage your emotional reactions to others is a vital step in repairing family relationships

CLICK HERE TO SEE CALM CORE

Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs.
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Episode 196 - The Emotionally Immature Things We Say (And Why They Don’t Work)

Have you ever walked away from a conversation with your adult child and thought, “Why did I say that?” or “That did not go how I wanted”?

In this episode, Tina dives deep into the emotionally immature things we say—often without realizing it—and why those words don’t create the connection we long for. You’ll learn how your nervous system hijacks your responses, how to notice your patterns, and how to shift toward emotional maturity and real repair.

Whether you’ve said, “I’m not perfect, you know,” or “Just get over it and move on,” this episode will help you understand what’s underneath those words—and what to say instead.

What You'll Learn:

• Why emotional immaturity isn’t about being a “bad parent”—it’s about being in protection mode
• 7 common phrases that damage connection (and what they really mean)
• How your nervous system impacts your ability to stay calm and present
• Simple shifts to move from reactivity to responsibility in conversations

Why awareness—not perfection—is the first step to healing family relationships 

Download the Free Guide:
 “The 3-Step Solution to Keeping Your Cool Around Family Holiday Drama”
 Holidays can stir up old patterns and emotions—this guide will help you stay grounded and respond with grace.

Grab your copy here: DOWNLOAD THE GUIDE

Ready to learn how to manage your emotional reactions? Calm Core is your guide:

Being able to manage your emotional reactions to others is a vital step in repairing family relationships

CLICK HERE TO SEE CALM CORE

Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs.
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Episode 195 – 3 Shifts to Begin Solving Family Conflict – Even if You’re the Only One Trying
 
Is your relationship with your adult child strained, tense, or completely shut down? You’re not alone—and you’re not powerless. In this episode, I’m giving you the three foundational shifts that begin to heal family conflict, even when the other person isn’t willing to engage. If you’ve been trying to fix the relationship by focusing on them, this episode is your invitation to turn inward and start creating change that lasts.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• Why looking at your own role in the conflict is a powerful first step
• How to manage your emotional reactions in the heat of the moment
• The impact of unspoken expectations on family dynamics
• Why discomfort is a sign you’re on the right path—and how to handle it with strength
• The ONE shift that opens the door to real healing in your relationship

Download the Free Guide:
 “The 3-Step Solution to Keeping Your Cool Around Family Holiday Drama”
 Holidays can stir up old patterns and emotions—this guide will help you stay grounded and respond with grace.

Grab your copy here: DOWNLOAD THE GUIDE

 

Ready to learn how to manage your emotional reactions? Calm Core is your guide:

Being able to manage your emotional reactions to others is a vital step in repairing family relationships

CLICK HERE TO SEE CALM CORE

 

Download the Free Guide:
 “The 3-Step Solution to Keeping Your Cool Around Family Holiday Drama”
 Holidays can stir up old patterns and emotions—this guide will help you stay grounded and respond with grace.

Grab your copy here: DOWNLOAD THE GUIDE

Ready to learn how to manage your emotional reactions? Calm Core is your guide:

Being able to manage your emotional reactions to others is a vital step in repairing family relationships

CLICK HERE TO SEE CALM CORE

Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs.
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Episode 194 - Do I Have to Choose Between Peace and Honest in My Family?

Have you ever felt stuck between keeping the peace in your family and being honest about how you really feel?

In this episode, Tina Gosney, Family Conflict Coach and Family Life Educator, explains why that “peace vs. honesty” tug-of-war is actually a false choice—and how you can show up with both calm and clarity in even the hardest conversations.

You’ll learn:

• Why fixing, pleasing, avoiding, or overreacting leaves you more disconnected
• The truth about the peace vs. honesty dilemma in family conflict
• A simple 3-step practice to ground yourself, calm your emotions, and respond with confidence
• A reflection prompt to help you notice your family role and begin shifting it

This conversation will help you stop walking on eggshells and start building stronger, healthier family relationships—without giving yourself away.

If this episode resonates with you, join Tina’s free live event happening this week: The Ultimate Virtual Event to End Family Disconnection and Rebuild Relationships That Last. You’ll go deeper into nervous system tools, clear communication practices, and strategies to rebuild connection with your loved ones.

Register here to save your spot

Download the Free Guide:
 “The 3-Step Solution to Keeping Your Cool Around Family Holiday Drama”
 Holidays can stir up old patterns and emotions—this guide will help you stay grounded and respond with grace.

Grab your copy here: DOWNLOAD THE GUIDE

Ready to learn how to manage your emotional reactions? Calm Core is your guide:

Being able to manage your emotional reactions to others is a vital step in repairing family relationships

CLICK HERE TO SEE CALM CORE

Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs.
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Episode 193: From Victim to Empowered — How to Reclaim Agency and Accountability in Family Relationships

In this second part of my conversation with Emily Layton, we explore what happens after awareness and acceptance — the critical next steps of agency, accountability, and action. If you’ve ever felt stuck in a victim mindset or found yourself waiting for others to change before you feel better, this episode will challenge your thinking and inspire powerful change.

We talk about the difference between blame and responsibility, how generational patterns keep us stuck, and what it really takes to step into your personal power — especially when relationships feel strained or disconnected.

Emily shares stories, metaphors, and practical wisdom that make this conversation rich and relatable. You’ll walk away with a deeper understanding of how to move forward without perfection, embrace mistakes as part of growth, and reclaim your voice in your most important relationships.

If you missed Part 1 of this interview, be sure to go back and listen to Episode 192 first.

Meet My Guest: Emily Layton

Emily Layton has a Master's degree in Marriage, Family, and Human Development from BYU. She is a certified life coach who focuses on identity integration and personal restoration, centered in the gospel of Jesus Christ and informed by interpersonal neurobiology.

Download Emily’s FREE graphic:
Steps Up to the High Brain

Learn more about Emily’s work at:
www.GrowintheLight.com

Schedule a free 30-minute discovery call:
Email Emily directly at [email protected]

Ready to stop the cycle of disconnection in your family?

Join me for my next free workshop:

End Family Disconnection and Rebuild Relationships that Last
Date: October 9, 2025
Sign up here:

Download the Free Guide:
 “The 3-Step Solution to Keeping Your Cool Around Family Holiday Drama”
 Holidays can stir up old patterns and emotions—this guide will help you stay grounded and respond with grace.

Grab your copy here: DOWNLOAD THE GUIDE

Ready to learn how to manage your emotional reactions? Calm Core is your guide:

Being able to manage your emotional reactions to others is a vital step in repairing family relationships

CLICK HERE TO SEE CALM CORE

Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs.
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Episode 192 -  From Triggered to Centered: Tools to Rewire Your Reactions and Restore Family Peace

Are you constantly walking on eggshells with your adult child?
 Do you find yourself reacting instead of responding—and then beating yourself up later?

You’re not alone.

In this episode, I’m joined by growth coach Emily Layton, and we’re diving deep into how to move from survival mode to soulful connection. We explore what it means to operate from your “low brain” vs. your “high brain,” how fear hijacks your reactions, and the exact steps to regulate your nervous system so you can show up grounded, calm, and connected—even in the most emotionally charged moments.

If you’ve ever wondered:
 “Why do I keep reacting this way?” or
“How do I stop the spiral and show up better in my family?”
—this episode will give you the framework you’ve been searching for.

Meet My Guest: Emily Layton

Emily Layton has a Master's degree in Marriage, Family, and Human Development from BYU. She is a certified life coach who focuses on identity integration and personal restoration, centered in the gospel of Jesus Christ and informed by interpersonal neurobiology.

Download Emily’s FREE graphic:
Steps Up to the High Brain

Learn more about Emily’s work at:
www.GrowintheLight.com

Schedule a free 30-minute discovery call:
Email Emily directly at [email protected]

Ready to stop the cycle of disconnection in your family?

Join me for my next free workshop:

End Family Disconnection and Rebuild Relationships that Last
Date: October 9, 2025
Sign up here: https://www.courageous-connections.com/end-family-disconnection-even

Download the Free Guide:
 “The 3-Step Solution to Keeping Your Cool Around Family Holiday Drama”
 Holidays can stir up old patterns and emotions—this guide will help you stay grounded and respond with grace.

Grab your copy here: DOWNLOAD THE GUIDE

Ready to learn how to manage your emotional reactions? Calm Core is your guide:

Being able to manage your emotional reactions to others is a vital step in repairing family relationships

CLICK HERE TO SEE CALM CORE

Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs.
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Tina is certified in family relationships and a trauma informed coach.
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Episode 191 - When Conflict or Silence Feels Like Love: What Fighting and Avoidance Say About Your Family

Is your family stuck in conflict—either yelling and arguing or avoiding everything in silence? In this episode, family relationship coach Tina Gosney explains how conflict styles shape marriage, parenting, and your relationship with adult children—and how to move from destructive patterns to constructive conflict and emotional safety.

 In this episode of Coaching Your Family Relationships, Tina Gosney, Family Life Educator and Family Relationship Coach, breaks down the hidden conflict styles that shape your marriage, your parenting, and your relationship with your family.

You’ll discover:

• Why yelling, arguing, or “unfiltered honesty” can feel like love and connection in some families
• Why silence, sweeping things under the rug, or avoiding tough conversations can feel like safety in others
• How destructive conflict, conflict avoidance, and constructive conflict each shape your family relationships
• What happens when highly religious families label conflict as “sinful” and shut it down
• How parents—whether raising kids or relating to adult children—set the emotional tone for the whole family
• Why fighting doesn’t always mean connection, and silence doesn’t always mean peace
• Practical steps to create emotional safety, better communication, and genuine connection at home

Whether your home has been marked by explosive arguments or cold silences, this episode will help you understand your conflict style and begin practicing constructive conflict that leads to healing, intimacy, and lasting connection.

Join Tina Gosney’s live workshop on October 9th: End Family Disconnection and Rebuild Relationships that Last. Learn how to change the emotional climate of your family—even if no one else changes first. CLICK HERE TO REGISTER

Download the Free Guide:
 “The 3-Step Solution to Keeping Your Cool Around Family Holiday Drama”
 Holidays can stir up old patterns and emotions—this guide will help you stay grounded and respond with grace.

Grab your copy here: DOWNLOAD THE GUIDE

Ready to learn how to manage your emotional reactions? Calm Core is your guide:

Being able to manage your emotional reactions to others is a vital step in repairing family relationships

CLICK HERE TO SEE CALM CORE

Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs.
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Tina is certified in family relationships and a trauma informed coach.
Visit tinagosney.com for more information on coaching services.