If you’re considering divorce, it’s useful to do a cost-benefit analysis before you initiate the process. And think beyond the legal fees and division of property.

How much time will it take to work through the process? What's the emotional cost to you, your spouse and your children? How might it impact your career?

Raiford is CEO and Managing Partner of STG Divorce Law in Chicago and Fellow at the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers.

Raiford is also the author of the award-winning divorce book, I Just Want This Done: How Smart, Successful People Get Divorced Without Losing Their Kids, Money, and Minds.

On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Raiford joins Katherine to explain why you should get educated before you jump into a divorce.

Raiford describes how to reframe the experience of divorce as an opportunity for growth and discusses how his own divorce changed the way he approaches his work as a divorce lawyer.

Listen in for Raiford’s insight on trying alternative dispute resolution in high-conflict cases and learn how to conduct a cost-benefit analysis before you move forward with a divorce.

Topics Covered

Raiford’s advice on getting educated before you jump into divorce

Why Raiford suggests looking inward before you divorce and/or remarry

How to leverage divorce as a personal growth experience

What motivated Raiford to write the divorce book I Just Want This Done

Raiford’s personal experience with feeling lost in the process of divorce

How Raiford’s own divorce changed the way he approaches his work

Why you should still try alternative dispute resolution if your partner is uncooperative

How mediation can work better than litigation in high-conflict cases

Conducting a cost-benefit analysis before you move forward with a divorce

The first steps you should take to initiate the divorce process

Connect with Raiford Palmer

I Just Want This Done: https://www.ijustwantthisdone.com/

Raiford on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raifordpalmer/

Raiford on X: https://x.com/raifordpalmer

Raiford on TikTok: raifordpalmer

STG Divorce Law: https://www.stglawfirm.com/

Connect with Katherine Miller

The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/

Miller Law Group: https://miller-law.com/

Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1

The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246

Email: [email protected] 

Call (914) 738-7765

Resources

I Just Want This Done: How Smart, Successful People Get Divorced Without Losing Their Kids, Money, and Minds by Raiford Palmer: https://www.amazon.com/Just-Want-This-Done-Successful/dp/1737208903

Unbreakable Husband Program: https://richinrelationship.com/

Dr. John Duffy: https://drjohnduffy.com/