Connected Divergents

In this episode, I chat through my thoughts on why I don’t use transactional rewards systems. This is more of an exploratory, verbally-processing kind of episode as I try to untangle my feelings about rewards, motivation, and what actually works for me (and maybe for you too!). It’s a casual, chatty deep dive into the nuance of motivation and why gold stars don’t always do it for me.

An introspective exploration after reading Four Thousand Weeks by Oliver Burkeman! Thoughts about what I enjoyed from this book, what didn't hit for me, and what still chewing on after reading in. SPOILERS AHEAD!

I've felt this way for a long time... Why do I feel such a strong dislike towards reading books about ADHD? I'm an ADHD coach! Should I enjoy them??? Diving in with you to explore why, and sharing some *book recs* for the books I absolutely freaking ADORED and what made them different!

**Thank you for being patient as I refigure my audio quality settings! This episode has a lot of pops in it, and I wish it didn't—I promise I'm trying really hard to work out new settings after having to move my setup into the hotel post-hurricane!**

I've had a REALIZATION hit me the last few days on why I'm no longer using apps/services like Flow Club (Ep 57) or even the Capacity Compass I talked about earlier this week (Ep 59)—they are too filled with *demands* to be sustainable for my brain wiring. Here's what happened for me to realize this, and the "strategy" I am replacing them with to reclaim my autonomy!

Episode 3: Intentional Novelty

Apps/Services Mentioned:
RescueTime
Boss As a Service
Flow Club

Look, some days you're ready to conquer the world and some days putting on matching socks feels like a win. In this episode, we're diving into a chill way to roll with whatever energy you've got: the high/medium/low capacity compass! It's like a choose-your-own-adventure for your tasks, but make it realistic. No more pretending you're a productivity robot - instead, pick from your personalized menu of options based on whether you're feeling like a sparkly unicorn or more like a sleepy sloth. Because hey, doing something small still counts as doing the thing!

The difference between setting "goals" and setting "intentions" and sharing my dreams for 2025! Do you have some for this year? Share with me @comfortandkindness on Instagram, or [email protected]. You can also find my latest essays & newsletter archive over on Substack! 

I love feeling shiny. But sometimes, I'm my sparkly, warm self and it ends up getting me hurt. Is this just masking? Is this a trauma response—fawning? Is it patriarchal expectations that have been brainwashed into me? Or is it my authentic nature? How do I untangle it all? And what's the reason why all of the help I've received in therapy ("just set boundaries!!) has never been enough? Find out why with me in this episode.

Have you ever tried the platform 'Flow Club' for body doubling?! I actually am so surprised, but I really have been enjoying it this week!! Breaking down why I prefer it over other platforms like FocusMate—this is coming as someone who historically has loathed and detested body doubling on principle (and I have a whole episode that explains why—Ep 41, When body doubling feels like Masking!). Take a peek!! Here's a link to try it out!

Just a quick little ep to break the seal for me when it comes to podcast recording again—Updating you on my life after Hurricane Helene, the challenges I am navigating, the priorities I have for taking care of myself, and the mindsets that are carrying me through. ❤️‍🩹

In this episode, I dive into the difference between intrinsic vs. extrinsic motivation, especially for those of us with ADHD. Learn how to build and nurture your own intrinsic motivation to get things done in a way that feels good and sustainable. Whether you're tired of relying on external rewards or struggling to tap into your inner drive, this one's for you!