Some losses are losses of things we never had; a safe childhood where we were protected and treasured. Attention to our needs and protection from what hurts. For a person abused as a child, the grief is for what never was and for the impact of that on our lives as adults. But there is the inspiration that comes when we love ourselves through these most terrible losses and find that life can be beautiful, enriching and fulfilled. Susan Jacobi has made it her life's work to encourage people who suffered abuse and trauma as children to find their best lives and move forward into them.