Couch Time with Amy Wine

When yelling and silence no longer work on your husband, is it time to give up? How can you establish a connection with someone who is emotionally unavailable?

In this episode of Couch Time with Amy Wine, I’m joined by my husband, Jon, because I think it's about time we hear his side of things. We talk about how our conflicting family backgrounds have ingrained certain habits and values in us that we have had to unlearn to save our marriage. 

One of these things, and the topic of this episode, is emotional unavailability, so if you want to learn why men are sometimes emotionally unavailable and how you can communicate in their language, this episode is really helpful.

Listen in as Jon and I reveal some secret thoughts for the first time, hear how reactions can mean so much in a conversation, how it can be OK not to be understood all the time, and how to put more emphasis on being accepted and loved. 

It's not about perfection but growth and celebrating your small victories together as husband and wife. Tune in to start tackling this in your own marriage!

Show notes available at http://amywine.com/episode35

Resources Mentioned:

Take the Thrive Life Inventory: https://thrivelifeinventory.com/

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Do conversations with your partner turn into arguments without you meaning them to? Do you find yourself criticizing or thinking the worst of them without even realizing it?

In this episode, we’re taking a look at an example of how negative feelings can escalate in a marriage. This is not an uncommon problem, so if you’re struggling with this in your marriage, know that you’re not alone. 

We’re talking about something called “negative sentiment override” and how it can cause things to go from good to bad to worse in a relationship. It’s when negative sentiment overrides positive interactions or memories and makes it hard to see the good in someone. 

I’m sharing some action items for you to implement to overcome the negative sentiment override and get closer to your partner. Never underestimate the power of gratitude, quality time, addressing the problem, forgiveness, vulnerability, and accountability. 

Tune in to take a deeper look at each of them. 

Show notes available at http://amywine.com/episode34

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Do you sometimes find yourself craving the company of other people? Small moments of connection with the people in your life have a big impact. 

Sometimes you might feel isolated and disconnected from others, even when you’re surrounded by people. This sense of separation has a destructive effect on your ability to rest. 

When you’re feeling this way, you’ll probably want to rely on others to make you feel supported and seen, but the secret to relational rest is learning to meet your own needs so that you aren’t dependent on others. That’s what we’re digging into this episode. 

If you feel alone, have a hard time making friends, or hide behind a mask because you fear rejection, this is for you. 

Show notes available at http://amywine.com/episode33

Resources Mentioned:

30-Day Guide to Implement the 7 Types of God-Given Rest Into Your Life: www.godcreatedrest.com/guide

Episode 23: How to Stop Defending and Start Listening: http://amywine.com/episode23 

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Have you ever heard of visionary rest? Probably not, and that’s okay! 

If you’re just joining us over here on the podcast, we’ve been talking about the 7 types of rest God designed you to have, and this episode is all about number 6: visionary rest. If you haven’t listened to the other 5 episodes in this series so far, you can go back and catch those any time you want! 

Visionary rest is the type of rest that gives you room in your mind and schedule to dream, create, and wonder. It allows for the white space in your life to broaden, and let’s face it, couldn’t we all use a little more of that white space?

This type of rest lets you focus on planting seeds and watching them bloom and allows you to be in the moment without the pressure to perform.

If that sounds like something you could use more of in your life, don’t miss this episode. 

Show notes available at http://amywine.com/episode32

Resources Mentioned:

Sign Up for Awaken Me: https://awakenmejourney.com

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What does spiritual rest mean to you? To me, spiritual rest is all about finding rest wherever you are. 

In this episode, I’m sharing a story about a physical place where I find spiritual rest, and how I bring that place with me wherever I go. After all, spiritual rest isn’t found in one specific place, it’s found within. 

This episode is all about the 5th of the 7 types of rest God designed us to have. If you’re just joining us in this series, don’t worry! You can listen to these 7 episodes in any order, so when you finish this one, go back and catch the last 4 covering physical, sensory, mental, and emotional rest. 

If you want to find out what spiritual rest is, how you can find rest wherever you are, and how this type of rest can heal you, then don’t miss this episode. 

Show notes available at http://amywine.com/episode31

Resources Mentioned:

Sign Up for Awaken Me: https://awakenmejourney.com

I would love to connect on Facebook: http://facebook.com/amywineco

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Have you been taught to shelf your emotions? 

Many of us have learned to hide our emotions either as a skill in our professional lives or as a coping mechanism. Turns out, your emotions were never meant to be bottled up. If you bottle up your emotions and never let them out to see the light of day, you’re limiting your ability to heal. 

If this is something you know you do, you’re probably in need of emotional rest. Hiding your emotions or a part of yourself is draining! I’m here to help you get in tune with your emotions and get the emotional rest that you need. 

If talking about your emotions makes you want to break out in hives, this episode is important for you to hear. 

Show notes available at http://amywine.com/episode30

Resources Mentioned:

Sign Up for Awaken Me: https://awakenmejourney.com

I would love to connect on Facebook: http://facebook.com/amywineco

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Do you have a hard time shutting off your brain?

You’re not the only one. In this episode, we’re talking about why it’s so important to declutter your brain and how to do it. 

We are working our way through each of the 7 types of God-given rest across 7 episodes, and this episode is all about rest type number 3 which is mental rest. 

Much like my desk, our minds are full of clutter all day every day. When you learn how to tidy up your mind and release all the junk, it’s life-changing. 

This is one of the areas of rest that I struggle with the most, so trust me when I say I get it, but I hope that I can share what I’ve learned with you so that you can get the mental rest you need. 

If your mind is constantly racing and you can’t get a break from your thoughts, this is the episode you need. 

Show notes available at http://amywine.com/episode29

Resources Mentioned:

Episode 26: From Crowded To-Do Lists to Purposeful Weeks: http://amywine.com/episode26 

Sign Up for Awaken Me: https://awakenmejourney.com/

I would love to connect on Facebook: http://facebook.com/amywineco

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I want you to come to the beach with me. 

The beach is my favorite place, and we’re going to visualize it together at the beginning of this episode to get a little sensory rest. 

I'm back with another episode in our series on rest, and we’re moving on to the second type of rest: sensory. 

There was a time when life moved slower and we could enjoy the sights, sounds, and smells of living. Now, life moves so fast it’s a blur of those sights, sounds, and smells everywhere we turn. Excessive exposure to nonstop sensory information leaves us exhausted and leads to us taking our senses for granted. We tune out our senses in our overly-busy days. If you can learn to rest from a sensory perspective, you’ll be able to enjoy your senses again instead of being overwhelmed by them. 

If you’ve noticed you have an increased sensitivity to touch and sound, you crave more processed foods, your eyes feel strained, or you struggle to enjoy events like concerts or firework displays, this episode is for you. 

Show notes available at http://amywine.com/episode28

Resources Mentioned:

Sign Up for Awaken Me: https://awakenmejourney.com

Episode 26: From Crowded To-Do Lists to Purposeful Weeks: http://amywine.com/episode26 

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I would love to connect on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amywineco

Did you know that sleep is not considered rest?

I’m the queen of insomnia, so this is not my favorite topic, but we need to talk about sleep.

Over the next seven episodes, we’re going to talk about the seven types of rest that God designed for you. We’re doing one a week so that you have a whole week to think about and work on each one.  

We’re starting with this episode on physical rest. Physical rest is broken down even further into two different types, so I’m going to cover what the types of physical rest are, what they look like, and the roles they play in your life. 

If you have a hard time getting enough sleep at night, or you always feel tired during the day, this is for you. 

Show notes available at http://amywine.com/episode27

Resources Mentioned:

Sign Up for Awaken Me: https://awakenmejourney.com

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What would you do if you had more time in your week?

This episode is your guide to creating a purposeful week. I’m taking you step-by-step through the process of taking your chaotic schedule and turning it into your dream schedule. 

This is for you if you’re overwhelmed, overworked, and can’t fit one more thing on your schedule. I know how it feels when you start writing down everything you have to do and you realize you’re never going to fit it all in. Sometimes my to-do lists have to-do lists. 

The truth is, you can't always fit it all in. You have to decide what is truly important to you and what you can take out of your schedule because it’s just taking up time you wish you could be spending on something else. 

This process of creating a purposeful week is the number one thing that has changed my life, so if you need to get your schedule under control, tune in. 

Show notes available at http://amywine.com/episode26

Resources Mentioned:

7 Types of God-Given Rest 30-Day Plan: www.godcreatedrest.com

Thrive Life Assessment: https://thrivelifeinventory.com/takequiz

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