What actually happens at sex-positive events? Cuddle parties? Consent circles? Erotic service? 👀 In this episode of Nope! We're Not Monogamous, I sit down with Jamie Love, Executive Director of Sex Positive World, to talk about the radical, healing, and totally human side of building sex-positive community.

We cover:

• How to start a sex-positive space or community near you
• What consent really looks like (hint: it’s not just “yes or no”)
• Erotic service, safer sex talks, and the power of devotional touch
• What to expect at events like cuddle parties, massage-a-trois, and self-pleasure circles
• Jamie’s relationship style: when your community is your primary partner
• The truth about creating spaces that are inclusive, beginner-friendly, and deeply transformative
• And what’s coming up at Polytopia 2025—Portland’s conference for polyamorous people, where I’ll be a featured speaker!

If you’re curious about non-monogamy, ethical sluthood, radical consent, or how to make friends (and maybe lovers) outside the mainstream—this episode is for you.

🔗 LEARN MORE
👉 Sex Positive World: https://www.sexpositiveworld.org
👉 Polytopia Conference: https://www.sexpositiveportland.org/polytopia-2025
👉 Jamie Love on Instagram: https://instagram.com/jamielove_pdx
👉 Support the show + get bonus content: https://patreon.com/notmonogamous
👉 Learn more about me: https://www.elleciapaine.com

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