In this episode of Cults and the Culting of America, hosts Daniela Mestyanek Young and Scot Loyd welcome musician and activist Candi Carpenter. The conversation dives into parallels between growing up in evangelical Christianity and high-control cult environments, with both Daniela and Candi sharing deeply personal stories.

Candi discusses their upbringing as a pastor’s kid in a gospel family band, the ways purity culture and religious control shaped their identity, and their long deconstruction journey. They reflect on how music, satire, and community have helped them reclaim their voice and selfhood after years of suppression.

The discussion touches on the loneliness of cult childhoods, the psychological effects of being taught constant fear of sin and hell, and how neurodivergence (autism, OCD) made them especially vulnerable to indoctrination. Humor and satire emerge as powerful tools of resistance—whether in music videos mocking political figures or in Daniela’s plans for a “cult baby musical.”

The episode closes with reflections on healing, therapy, medication, and the importance of building authentic community beyond transactional, conversion-driven relationships.

Candi's Links: 

Spotify 

Apple Music

Youtube 

Tiktok

Instagram

Daniella's Links:

You can read all about my story in my book, Uncultured-- buy signed copies here. https://bit.ly/SignedUncultured

 

For more info on me:

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Daniella’s Tiktok: Knitting Cult Lady

Instagram:  https://bit.ly/4ePAOFK / daniellamyoung_ 

Unamerican video book (on Patreon): https://bit.ly/YTVideoBook

Secret Practice video book (on Patreon): https://bit.ly/3ZswGY8

Other Podcasts

Daniella's other podcast: Hey White Women

Scot's Socials

TikTok:  @thescotloyd

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@thescotloyd

Haley's Tiktok

@nuancedmasculinities

Key Takeaways

• Parallel Journeys: Both Daniela and Candi grew up under strict religious control, with performance and purity culture shaping much of their childhood.

• Music as Survival: Candi uses songwriting to process trauma, reclaim identity, and connect with others who share similar experiences.

• Deconstruction & Identity: Their exit from evangelicalism was gradual, involving moments of perspective shift (like viewing church rituals through outsiders’ eyes) and self-discovery (embracing their non-binary identity).

• Neurodivergence & Cults: Autism and OCD traits made Candi especially susceptible to religious rules, scrupulosity, and fear-based control.

• Purity Culture & Harm: Conversations highlighted how purity teachings overlap with exploitation, creating damaging relationships with sex, self, and others.

• Satire as Activism: Through bold political satire (like their “American God” video), Candi critiques extremism and authoritarianism with humor.

• Community After Cults: Online spaces like Candi’s Discord “Candyland” provide connection and solidarity for those who once felt isolated.

• Healing Tools: Therapy, finding the right medication, and embracing joy (from late-night milkshakes to creative play) are key in recovery.

• Unmasking & Authenticity: A central theme is moving from masking and people-pleasing (ingrained by cult culture) toward living authentically without fear of rejection.

• Shared Mission: Both Daniela and Candi see their art—books, music, satire, musicals—as ways to expose control systems, build resilience, and help others heal.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Candi Carpenter and Cult Themes 02:51 Exploring the Impact of Cults on Identity 05:31 Deconstructing Religious Upbringing and Its Effects 08:38 The Role of Music in Healing and Community 11:19 Navigating Personal Trauma and Artistic Expression 14:07 The Intersection of Humor and Activism 17:23 Political Satire and the Role of Artists 20:03 Embracing Individuality and Non-Binary Identity 22:54 The Future of Music and Activism 25:44 Conclusion and Reflections on Fear and Anger 30:42 The Journey of Healing and Self-Discovery 34:23 Navigating Relationships Beyond Cults 37:16 The Struggle with People-Pleasing 40:21 Embracing Authenticity and Self-Acceptance 44:45 The Role of Therapy and Medication in Healing 49:37 Creating Art as a Means of Expression

Produced by Haley Phillips