There is nothing more gut-wrenching than a divorce or the end of a long-term relationship. It makes you question everything. And nobody gives you a manual for how to rebuild your personal life after a messy breakup. 

The modern dating landscape makes this even more difficult. Dating apps can feel like a second job that doesn’t pay or even lead to dates. And the professional skills you’ve developed to become a high achiever don’t work for building relationships. 

And if you clicked on the title of this episode, there’s a good chance you’re feeling a deep sense of frustration, uncertainty, and fear. 

But here’s the good news: 

Not only is it possible to bounce back after a rough breakup, but it gives you an opportunity to build a deeper, more authentic connection that fulfills you in ways that weren’t possible in your last relationship. I’m living proof: Today I have a loving family (even after my first divorce about 20 years ago).  

And that’s what I reveal in today’s episode. You’ll discover how to rebuild your identity, how to make the modern dating landscape work for you, and how to develop emotional intelligence so you’re prepared for your next relationship. 

By the end of this episode, you'll have a clear road map to confidently re-enter the dating world, not with uncertainty or awkwardness, but with a sense of clarity, purpose and ease that matches the confidence you've built in your professional life.

Listen now. 

Show Highlights Include:

• How the wrong romantic partner bleeds into your work, your health, and your overall fulfillment in life (1:00) 
• Where to start after a crushing divorce or end to a long-term relationship to rebuild your personal life in a way where this doesn’t happen again (5:22) 
• The weird way your forgotten hobbies help you overcome the heartbreak of divorce (6:10) 
• Why unaddressed breakup wounds will sabotage your next relationship (and the “scars and all” mindset shift to heal from these wounds as soon as possible) (7:27) 
• How high achievers can attract worthy partners in the modern dating landscape (even if if your last serious relationship started before dating apps) (9:42) 
• The #1 most underrated (and most effective) way to meet potential partners who already share your values (11:51) 
• How the qualities that make you successful at work repel your dream partner in intimate relationships (16:40) 
• How to answer the question about past relationships on a date in a way that builds connection instead of protecting your ego (20:02) 

For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ 

Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery