Whether you’re receiving hard professional feedback or facing a challenging discussion in your relationship – nobody enjoys those cringy feelings of being told something you don’t know or agree with about yourself.  Often these moments trigger an automatic neurobiological protection response in the cells dedicated to protecting us from threat.  No human doesn’t have this problem at the most fundamental level – so this series will break it down for exploration.

This is the first episode in a five-part series where Ann and Sue take a deep dive into various kinds of frequently used defenses. They discuss how to become more conscious of which state of mind you may be in – protective circuits or connection circuits and how to sort out what to do if in the armored range.

The 3 R spiral of change is a process that can help you reconnect and reground yourself in moments of stress. Identifying the ways you display this discomfort is a great first step in creating that shift from our automatic default responses to a more connected state where we can be present within ourselves and our relationships.

2:52 – Three R spiral of change  – recognition, reflection, rewiring

9:46 – The last R: “Rewiring”

18:42 – The first stage of self-awareness, waking up and stopping our projections

26:54 – One of the key ingredients to self-awareness

28:53 – The difference between self-care and stubbornness

30:54 – Different types of self-awareness

36:00 – “Don’t do this” when receiving feedback

40:08 – Tips and recommendations for mindfulness

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