“ We don't choose what turns us on… but we get to play with it.”

Too often, women move into adulthood (and even marriage) without a real roadmap for understanding their own desires, let alone the conversations that bring intimacy to life. In this episode, we’re exploring how putting yourself at the center of your erotic life can transform not just your sex life, but your confidence, creativity, and sense of empowerment in every area.

Our guests, Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman, are co-founders of the Somatica Institute, known for their pioneering, hands-on approach to sex and relationship coaching. They don’t just teach theory—they teach the real-world skills we all wish we’d learned in school, like tolerating awkwardness, negotiating desires without guilt, and sitting with the sometimes-uncomfortable tension of wanting different things to create deeply fulfilling relationships.

In this candid, powerful episode, Erin, Danielle, and Celeste unpack:

• Why so many people enter adult relationships without the tools to express feelings, ask for what they need, support a partner, or handle emotional tension
• The importance of women learning to re-center themselves (over others!) in sex, relationships, and life
• How to sit with discomfort and why it’s essential for creating healthy, lasting relationships
• Why most of us are taught to downplay our own pleasure and how to finally unlearn it
• Creating a “pleasure menu”: how getting specific about your unique turn-ons and needs can transform sex and relationships
• Why a wide range of sexual fantasies can be a healthy part of your erotic life when explored consciously and consensually
• Why we don’t get to choose what turns us on, but we can choose how we play and interact with those feelings in the bedroom, with agency and empowerment
• How building a “village” of emotional support (friends, therapists, community) can take the pressure off your romantic relationships

OUR GUESTS: Danielle Harel, Ph.D., and Celeste Hirschman, M.A., are pioneers in intimacy, sexuality, and relationship coaching. Co-founders of the Somatica® Institute, they’ve transformed how love and connection are taught through their experiential, science-based Somatica Method. Together, they’ve trained over 1,000 coaches and helped countless individuals and couples embrace vulnerability, rediscover desire, and create deeply fulfilling relationships. Authors of three influential books—Making Love Real, Coming Together, and Confidence—Danielle and Celeste blend authenticity, humor, and bold honesty to inspire transformation. Their relatable insights into intimacy and connection make them captivating guests, offering audiences practical tools to enhance relationships and live passionately.

Want more Danielle and Celeste? Find them online at https://www.celesteanddanielle.com/ and https://www.somaticainstitute.com/ 

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