March 27, 2025

DIY Sex Education for Gay Men

47 minutes

They didn’t teach us about gay sex in school… so we had to teach ourselves. From porn to awkward trial-and-error hookups, most of us pieced together our own “education”—for better or worse.

In this episode, Michael is joined by porn star turned sex educator, Patrick Marano, to talk about the sex ed we should have had, how we’ve had to create it for ourselves, and why stigma and censorship still keep gay men in the dark. Some of the topics covered in this episode:

How conventional sex education fails gay men

How porn, hookups, and our peers became our teachers (for better or worse)

How silence and secrecy fuel sexual shame

What we’re still learning today

How censorship and misinformation prevent us from getting the info we need

How to take control of your own sex education

Plus: Our favourite resources, communities, and channels for the sex education we actually deserve.

Join Michael’s Sexual Empowerment Men’s Group

Use code GMGD to get 25% off!

Today's Guest: Patrick Marano

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March 27, 2025

DIY Sex Education for Gay Men

47 minutes

They didn’t teach us about gay sex in school… so we had to teach ourselves. From porn to awkward trial-and-error hookups, most of us pieced together our own “education”—for better or worse.

How conventional sex education fails gay men

How porn, hookups, and our peers became our teachers (for better or worse)

How silence and secrecy fuel sexual shame

What we’re still learning today

How censorship and misinformation prevent us from getting the info we need

How to take control of your own sex education

Plus: Our favourite resources, communities, and channels for the sex education we actually deserve.

Join Michael’s Sexual Empowerment Men’s Group

Use code GMGD to get 25% off!

Today's Guest: Patrick Marano

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Today's Host: Michael DiIorio

Instagram

TikTok

Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes

- CONNECT WITH US -

Watch podcast episodes on YouTube

Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community

Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls

Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com

- LEARN WITH US -

Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others.

Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame.

Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series.

Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.

...more