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Would you want to live with you? This powerful question lies at the heart of Ken and Tabatha's wisdom-packed conversation about marriage and relationships. Drawing from over 24 years of marriage experience, they tackle the essential principle that life is simply too short to sweat the small stuff.

The couple explores how our memories work – we remember wedding days and children's births, not dirty dishes or minor frustrations. Yet many marriages crumble over "irreconcilable differences" that partners can't even specifically recall years later. Through personal stories and biblical principles, Ken and Tabatha outline practical ways to focus on what truly matters.

One fascinating distinction they unpack is the difference between mothering and wifely support. A mother hovers and dictates, while a wife comes alongside to support and uplift. They introduce the concept of "incubation" – how a wife can nurture her husband's vision like a seed, helping it grow through encouragement rather than criticism. This partnership approach allows both spouses to rise together, creating a marriage where both partners feel valued and respected.

Kindness emerges as a central theme throughout their conversation. Ken and Tabitha challenge the notion that kindness equals weakness, pointing to scripture that shows how love "is not easily angered" and "keeps no record of wrongs." They suggest becoming a "CEO" – Chief Encouragement Officer – in your home, creating an atmosphere of celebration rather than criticism. The episode culminates with a beautiful exploration of 1 Corinthians 13, revealing how these ancient principles of love provide practical solutions for modern relationship challenges.

Whether you're newlyweds or celebrating decades together, this episode offers transformative perspectives on creating a marriage filled with patience, kindness and mutual support. Subscribe now and join us next Thursday for another powerful conversation about doing life together with purpose and love!

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Facing the death of a loved one can shatter our world and challenge our deepest beliefs. When Ken's mother passed away after a four-year battle with cancer, he found himself wrestling with profound theological questions. Despite believing in divine healing and standing on promises from Scripture, his mom transitioned to heaven at age 69, leaving him to navigate complex emotions of grief, faith, and acceptance.

This raw, heartfelt conversation explores the mystery of death from a biblical perspective, reframing it not as a fearful end but as a transition between realms. "I didn't lose her," Ken shares, "I know exactly where she is. She's with Jesus." For believers, death becomes less a tragedy and more a graduation—painful for those left behind but joyful for those who've entered eternity free from suffering.

Tabatha vulnerably shares her own journey through the fear of death during her cancer battle, describing how studying near-death experiences and Scripture transformed her perspective. "I am not afraid to die," she testifies. "This is a promotion. This is someplace that we are all going." Their discussion demystifies what happens when we die, offering comfort through biblical truths that affirm continued existence, reunion with loved ones, and the promise of new bodies.

The most powerful moment comes when Ken discusses Hebrews 11:13, which speaks of those who "died in faith, not having received the promise." His mother exemplified this—maintaining unwavering faith despite not seeing her healing manifested on earth. "I can't make a healing come," Ken reflects. "I'm the mailman; I deliver the package, but I can't make the package. God is the one who heals."

Whether you're actively grieving or seeking to understand death from a faith perspective, this conversation offers both compassion and clarity. The hosts remind us that while grief is natural, we don't grieve like those without hope. Your tears are valid, but they need not be permanent. Connect with us at Alive Church or grab our devotional "Living at a Nine" to continue your journey toward healing and hope.

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Ready to build a stronger, healthier marriage? Order our new book, Better Marriage: Perfect Love for Imperfect Couples, by Ken & Tabatha Claytor. ❤️
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📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville.

🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life!

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A focus on becoming a Chief Encouragement Officer can need positive transformations in household dynamics. Understanding the CEO role expands beyond business concepts into personal relationships. 

• Discussing the significance of encouragement in building strong marriages 
• Highlighting the need for positivity over authority in families 
• Understanding encouragement as an integral part of personal and spiritual growth 
• Offering practical steps to implement encouragement in daily life 
• Recognizing the importance of self-encouragement before uplifting others 
• Addressing the challenges and negativity that can permeate home life 

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GET BUILD TO LAST PREMARITAL COURSE HERE:
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Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional:
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📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville.

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Embark on a journey toward better health in this enlightening episode! We dive deep into the struggles and triumphs of achieving a healthy lifestyle, emphasizing the need for realistic goal setting and self-compassion along the way. Through engaging anecdotes and practical insights, we encourage listeners to embrace the discomfort that comes with change and to view it as a stepping stone toward growth.

Central to this episode is the notion that establishing small, attainable goals can make the journey to fitness less overwhelming. We also discuss the crucial role nutrition plays in both physical and mental well-being, advocating for natural foods that nourish both body and mind. Additionally, listeners are reassured of the power of community in achieving fitness aspirations and personal growth.

As you listen, you’ll not only find motivation but also practical tips to integrate into your daily routine. Whether you're embarking on a fitness journey or looking to refine your current habits, this episode equips you with essential tools to foster a healthy lifestyle. Join us as we break down barriers, challenge misconceptions, and find joy in the process of self-improvement. 

If you found this discussion helpful, we urge you to subscribe, share, and engage with us. Your journey to wellness matters!

📖 ORDER BETTER MARRIAGE!
Ready to build a stronger, healthier marriage? Order our new book, Better Marriage: Perfect Love for Imperfect Couples, by Ken & Tabatha Claytor. ❤️
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https://www.amazon.com/Better-Marriage-Perfect-Imperfect-Couples/dp/B0GNDV9MTW

GET BUILD TO LAST PREMARITAL COURSE HERE:
Your wedding lasts one day. Your marriage lasts a lifetime.
Build to Last Premarital Course: https://kenandtabatha.com/built-to-last


GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE:

Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com)

Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional:
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DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️
https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888

📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville.

🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life!

https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/5326

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Every marriage experiences annoyance, but understanding and communication are key to overcoming these challenges. This episode addresses the importance of perspective, encourages treating your spouse with grace, and emphasizes the necessity of friendship in strengthening the marital bond. 

• Discussing normalcy of marital conflicts 
• Exploring why spouses irritate each other 
• Importance of open communication 
• Power of choice in reactions 
• Strategies for self-care and personal reflection 
• Encouragement to treat spouse as best friend 
• Practical tips for maintaining harmony 
• Significance of grace and understanding in marriage 

📖 ORDER BETTER MARRIAGE!
Ready to build a stronger, healthier marriage? Order our new book, Better Marriage: Perfect Love for Imperfect Couples, by Ken & Tabatha Claytor. ❤️
👉 Order your copy here:
https://www.amazon.com/Better-Marriage-Perfect-Imperfect-Couples/dp/B0GNDV9MTW

GET BUILD TO LAST PREMARITAL COURSE HERE:
Your wedding lasts one day. Your marriage lasts a lifetime.
Build to Last Premarital Course: https://kenandtabatha.com/built-to-last


GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE:

Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com)

Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional:
90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site)

DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️
https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888

📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville.

🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life!

https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/5326

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This podcast episode encourages married couples to embrace the beauty of sexual intimacy while confronting cultural taboos surrounding the topic. Ken and Tabitha share personal insights and experiences, introduce the concept of a Seven-Day Sex Challenge, and provide actionable steps to increase communication and pleasure in marriage.

• Importance of normalizing discussions about sex and intimacy 
• Godly purposes of sex: procreation, intimacy, and enjoyment 
• Overview of the Seven-Day Sex Challenge for couples 
• Addressing sexual health issues and personal insecurities 
• Encouragement to create regular space for open communication 
• Tips for sustaining intimacy beyond the challenge 
• Call to action for listeners to share their experiences and feedback

📖 ORDER BETTER MARRIAGE!
Ready to build a stronger, healthier marriage? Order our new book, Better Marriage: Perfect Love for Imperfect Couples, by Ken & Tabatha Claytor. ❤️
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https://www.amazon.com/Better-Marriage-Perfect-Imperfect-Couples/dp/B0GNDV9MTW

GET BUILD TO LAST PREMARITAL COURSE HERE:
Your wedding lasts one day. Your marriage lasts a lifetime.
Build to Last Premarital Course: https://kenandtabatha.com/built-to-last


GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE:

Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com)

Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional:
90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site)

DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️
https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888

📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville.

🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life!

https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/5326

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In this episode, we dive deep into the concept of Grace to Self—a powerful mindset shift that encourages us to show ourselves the same love, kindness, and forgiveness we extend to others. 💛

So many of us struggle with self-criticism, negative self-talk, and the pressure to be perfect. But what if we learned to give ourselves grace instead? In this conversation, we share personal experiences, explore the connection between thoughts and physical health, and offer practical steps to help you break free from self-condemnation.

✨ What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
✔️ What Grace to Self really means
✔️ How self-talk impacts your health and well-being
✔️ The difference between self-condemnation and self-grace
✔️ Steps to extend grace and forgiveness to yourself
✔️ Why embracing joy and delight is essential
✔️ How to let go of perfectionism while still growing

If you’ve ever felt like you’re your own worst critic, this episode is for you! It’s time to treat yourself as a friend and embrace the healing power of grace. ❤️

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📖 ORDER BETTER MARRIAGE!
Ready to build a stronger, healthier marriage? Order our new book, Better Marriage: Perfect Love for Imperfect Couples, by Ken & Tabatha Claytor. ❤️
👉 Order your copy here:
https://www.amazon.com/Better-Marriage-Perfect-Imperfect-Couples/dp/B0GNDV9MTW

GET BUILD TO LAST PREMARITAL COURSE HERE:
Your wedding lasts one day. Your marriage lasts a lifetime.
Build to Last Premarital Course: https://kenandtabatha.com/built-to-last


GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE:

Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com)

Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional:
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DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️
https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888

📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville.

🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life!

https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/5326

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The episode focuses on mastering your morning to unlock a fruitful and spiritually empowered day. With practical insights and biblical wisdom, we discuss five keys: planning for the next day, obtaining quality sleep, prioritizing God, engaging in exercise, and meal prepping, all aimed at eliminating excuses and setting a purposeful tone for daily life. 
• Preparing the night before for a smoother morning 
• Understanding the importance of quality sleep 
• Prioritizing God through dedicated morning time 
• Incorporating exercise into your morning routine 
• Meal prepping to fuel your body for the day ahead

📖 ORDER BETTER MARRIAGE!
Ready to build a stronger, healthier marriage? Order our new book, Better Marriage: Perfect Love for Imperfect Couples, by Ken & Tabatha Claytor. ❤️
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https://www.amazon.com/Better-Marriage-Perfect-Imperfect-Couples/dp/B0GNDV9MTW

GET BUILD TO LAST PREMARITAL COURSE HERE:
Your wedding lasts one day. Your marriage lasts a lifetime.
Build to Last Premarital Course: https://kenandtabatha.com/built-to-last


GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE:

Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com)

Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional:
90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site)

DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️
https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888

📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville.

🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life!

https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/5326

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The episode explores the profound effects of relationships on spiritual growth, emphasizing the need for discernment in choosing one's company. We discuss boundary-setting, the challenges posed by misunderstandings, and the call to prioritize spiritual families over blood ties. 
• The impact of friends on decisions and behavior 
• The duality of positive and negative influences 
• Discernment in new relationships after conversion 
• Misunderstandings from friends and family 
• Emphasis on spiritual families 
• The importance of setting healthy boundaries 
• Prioritizing God’s approval over others’ opinions

📖 ORDER BETTER MARRIAGE!
Ready to build a stronger, healthier marriage? Order our new book, Better Marriage: Perfect Love for Imperfect Couples, by Ken & Tabatha Claytor. ❤️
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https://www.amazon.com/Better-Marriage-Perfect-Imperfect-Couples/dp/B0GNDV9MTW

GET BUILD TO LAST PREMARITAL COURSE HERE:
Your wedding lasts one day. Your marriage lasts a lifetime.
Build to Last Premarital Course: https://kenandtabatha.com/built-to-last


GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE:

Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com)

Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional:
90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site)

DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️
https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888

📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville.

🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life!

https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/5326

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What if your relationship with God could transform not just your spiritual life, but every aspect of your existence? We're Ken and Tabitha, and today we're offering you an insightful journey into deepening that divine connection. Just like sporadic workouts can't give you a six-pack, attending church occasionally won't build a robust spiritual foundation. Tune in as we promise to equip you with tools for daily spiritual engagement, using our 60-day devotional, "Living at a Nine," as your guide to grow closer to Jesus. Our 25-year marriage is a testament to how a strong bond with God enhances every relationship, and we're here to share those insights with you.

Reviving intimacy with God is not just a resolution for the new year; it’s a profound transformation waiting to happen. Inspired by Matthew 6:33, we discuss the critical importance of prioritizing God's kingdom and how this focus can elevate every other aspect of your life. Whether you're facing depression, illness, or life's inevitable challenges, these moments can be fertile ground for spiritual renewal. By engaging with a supportive church community and maintaining a personal connection with God, you'll discover the strength to navigate life's toughest trials. Let our personal stories be a beacon of hope that even when God feels distant, those challenging times can be when He is closest.

📖 ORDER BETTER MARRIAGE!
Ready to build a stronger, healthier marriage? Order our new book, Better Marriage: Perfect Love for Imperfect Couples, by Ken & Tabatha Claytor. ❤️
👉 Order your copy here:
https://www.amazon.com/Better-Marriage-Perfect-Imperfect-Couples/dp/B0GNDV9MTW

GET BUILD TO LAST PREMARITAL COURSE HERE:
Your wedding lasts one day. Your marriage lasts a lifetime.
Build to Last Premarital Course: https://kenandtabatha.com/built-to-last


GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE:

Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com)

Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional:
90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site)

DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️
https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888

📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville.

🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life!

https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/5326

Support Our Ministry: 
https://myalivechurch.org/give


Connect with us:

- Website:

https://www.kenclaytor.com
https://www.tabathaclaytor.co...