When you're locked in a battle of tug-o-war it can be extremely exhausting to keep up the fight. But there is a solution: dropping the rope. It may seem counterintuitive, but when you're in the middle of a conflict you've had many times before– when you're fighting for something that seems very important, or at least obvious– and then suddenly drop the rope, you're allowing the space for something different to occur.

Here are the links to the resources we mentioned in the episode:

Jen Lumanlan for Your Parenting Mojo: "Want to stop playing Tug of War with your child?"

Our Fresh Take with Dr. Jill Stoddard on How to Manage Our Anxiety

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