When a relationship hinges on sexual attractiveness, it's doomed to fail. Yet despite all the scientific evidence about attractiveness fading over time, the first step most men take when their relationship falters is improving their attractiveness. 

They think that if only they had a 6-pack or more designer brand clothes that this will magically make their partner fall back in love with them. But nothing is further from the truth. 

Do you think that an elderly couple still obviously in love with each other is fueled by attraction? Of course not. But still, many men miss this point and it sabotages their relationships. 

The solution? 

Well, there's a few things you can do to build a lasting and thriving relationship that aren't based on your attraction to your partner or vice versa. And in this episode, you'll discover what personal and relationship characteristics help your relationship grow stronger over time instead of withering away into nothingness. 

Listen now. 

Show Highlights Include:

• Why beefing up your attractiveness backfires and can make your partner resent you (0:53) 
• Can a relationship thrive on sexual attraction alone? No, and here's what happens when the "spark" begins to wither… (2:43) 
• Why thinking of your relationship as a giant and gorgeous oak tree can prevent heartbreak, divorce, or worse (4:10) 
• The "EM" anchor that keeps your relationship steady, growing, and always moving towards deepening your love (11:13) 
• How clinging to being "right" can cost you your marriage and happiness (12:00) 
• Why relying on your partner for your happiness poisons your relationship from the inside out (and how to take control of your own happiness) (19:06) 

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