On this episode, I am joined by Béa Victoria Albina, a trained nurse practitioner, master certified life coach, somatic experiencing practitioner and author of “End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, People-Pleasing Habits.” Béa coined the term ‘Emotional Outsourcing’, which describes our co-dependent, people pleasing and perfectionistic habits and how these behaviors cost us our joy, authenticity and true connection to self and others. In this episode, we talk about the cost of chronically and habitually outsourcing our sense of safety, belonging and worth. We dive into the root of these behaviours from a cultural and historical perspective and Bea shines a light on how we were trained up to be disconnected from the earth, magic and our own inner wisdom. 

Tune in to hear more from us on:

• How emotional outsourcing can influence all aspects of our lives and sense of self
• The true cost of people pleasing, perfectionism and codependency, and its root causes
• How shifting to a place of trust is a liberating experience, and how to do this
• Trad-wife culture and how to explore femininity as a gateway to empowerment
• Emotional outsourcing in a facilitator role and finding acceptance and surrender in the process of facilitation
• How to learn the body’s language through somatic experience and understanding where survival patterns come from
• Managing text message overwhelm as a recovering people pleaser

Resources + Links

• Béa Victoria Albina’s book ‘End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, People-Pleasing Habits’
• Béa’s website beatrizalbina.com and Instagram @beatrizvictoriaalbinanp
• Béa’s podcast ‘The Feminist Wellness podcast’
• My book, Root and Ritual: Timeless Ways to Connect to Land, Lineage, Community, and the Self
• Connect with me on Instagram @beccapiastrelli

Timestamps

[0:00] What is Emotional Outsourcing 

[10:55] The Origin of Codependency and Emotional Outsourcing 

[14:39] Weaponized Femininity and Glorified Codependency 

[22:04] Facilitating without Emotional Outsourcing 

[29:28] Practicing and Embodying Self Trust 

[39:38] Navigating Boundaries and Intimacy 

[49:00] Managing Text Message Overwhelm as a Recovering People Pleaser 

[45:20] Bea’s Book ‘End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, People-Pleasing Habits’