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In this "Reflections" episode Part 2, Teri and Michael reflect back on episodes in the "Mirrors and Windows" theme: Episode 141: Sonya Renee Taylor on "The Body Is Not an Apology: The Power of Radical Self-Love," Episode 142: #SurvivorStories Series with Karen Gosbee on her memoir, "A Perfect Nightmare: My Glittering Marriage and How It Almost Cost Me My Life," and Episode 144: Hillary Levey Friedman on her book, "Here She Is: The Complicated Reign of The Beauty Pageant in America."

During our conversation, Michael and I touched upon the following resources in our conversation:

• Steven Hassan's book, The Cult of Trump: A Leading Cult Expert Explains How the President Uses Mind Control
• The documentary, Seduced: Inside the NXIVM Cult
• Doormen fired for not helping Asian woman
• John Oliver's episode on beauty pageant claims

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On this episode of the en(gender)ed podcast, our guest is Hilary Levey Friedman, a Brown University Sociology professor, a leading researcher on pageantry, and President of the Rhode Island Chapter of the National Organization for Women. We speak with Hilary today about her book, Here She Is: The Complicated Reign of The Beauty Pageant in America which is inspired by her childhood growing up the daughter of Miss America 1970, her interests in examining the culture of beauty, and her role as a former mentor to Miss America 2018, Cara Mund. Our conversation explores themes of pageantry and its historical role in shaping definitions of femininity, beauty, and its connection and/or opposition to feminist liberation.

During our conversation, Hilary and I referenced the following resources:

• The history of pageants and its evolution
• How pageants shaped conventional standards of beauty
• Hilary's comparison of parents of child beauty pageant contestants with parents of Kumon kids

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In this "Reflections" episode Part 1, Teri and Michael reflect back on episodes in the "Mirrors and Windows" theme: Episode 138: Caitlin Garvey on navigating grief through "The Mourning Report," Episode 139: Kenya Hunt on her book, "Girl Gurl Grrrl: On Womanhood and Belonging in the Age of Black Girl Magic," and Episode 140: Shu Matsuo Post on his memoir, "I Took Her Name: Lessons From My Journey Into Vulnerability, Authenticity, and Feminism."

During our conversation, Michael and I touched upon the following resources in our conversation:

• The current status of the Equal Rights Amendment
• The Storycorps podcast
• The spread of media supporting the "male supremacist" movement, also known as the "MRA" or "Men's Rights Activists"
• The Meghan and Harry Interview with Oprah

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On this #SurvivorStories series episode, our guest is Karen Gosbee, domestic abuse, coercive control survivor, advocate for policy and system reform, and author of her memoir, A Perfect Nightmare: My Glittering Marriage and How It Almost Cost Me My Life. The book chronicles Karen's journey to consciousness about her abuse, the roles her family and friends played in her life, and the ways in which society and culture shaped her views and definitions of herself, her worth, and relationships. Throughout our conversation, we ask Karen to share #abusertactics, #signsofabuse, and #upstandertips.

During our conversation, Karen and I referenced the following resources and topics:

• How masculinity impacts college cultures and male-dominated sectors like finance and brokerages
• Jess Hill's book, See What You Made Me Do: The Dangers of Domestic Abuse That We Ignore, Explain Away, or Refuse to See
• Karen's suggestions on how gaps in law enforcement response to domestic abuse can be reformed and other policy reform ideas

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On this episode of the en(gender)ed podcast, our guest is Sonya Renee Taylor, activist, poet, and author of the NYT bestselling book, The Body is Not an Apology: The Power of Radical Self-Love. We speak with Sonya today about her book, her philosophy of radical self-love, and she shares specific tools, actions, and resources for confronting some of our most challenging systems of oppression.

During our conversation, Sonya and I referenced the following resources:

• Sonya's Your Body Is Not an Apology Workbook: Tools for Living Radical
• How we use this concept of "radical self-love" to transform how we feel in our own bodies, how we feel about ourselves, based on the messages we receive from the world
• bell hooks' work on self-love such as Communion: The Female Search for Love

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On this episode of en(gender)ed our guest is Shu Matsuo Post, feminist advocate and author of his memoir, "I Took Her Name: Lessons From My Journey Into Vulnerability, Authenticity, and Feminism," which chronicles his journey as a Japanese man who took white American wife's surname when they got married. Our conversation explores how this experience informed Shu's journey to becomes a feminist, the perspective his dual identity played in both revealing and shaping his views on gender and women in society, and how and why others, especially men, can benefit from and embrace feminism as a path towards authentic liberation from gender norms and gender equality.

During our conversation, Shu and I referenced the following resources:

• His journey from not understanding "feminism" to embracing his new identity as a "feminist"
• The "Baader-Meinhof" phenomenon
• Shiori Ito's rape case and how it contributed to ushering a #MeToo moment in Japan
• How patriarchy is built into the Japanese language

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On this episode of the en(gender)ed podcast, our guest is Kenya Hunt, award-winning writer, and author of her new book, an essay collection, entitled Girl, Gurl, Grrrl: On Womanhood and Belonging in the Age of Black Girl Magic. Our conversation explores the lives of Black women and cultural differences within the Black community, the trials and tribulations of being a mother, especially a mother to Black children, and the meaning of #BlackGirlMagic and what it really stands for. In short, we examine themes of belonging, connection, resilience, and identity.

During our conversation, Kenya and I referenced the following resources:

• Joan Morgan's book, When Chickenheads Come Home to Roost: A Hip-Hop Feminist Breaks It Down
• CaShawn Thompson's coining of the term, "Black Girl Magic"
• The importance of "mirrors and windows" and diversity and inclusion in children's texts

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On this episode of the en(gender)ed podcast, our guest is Caitlin Garvey, author of The Mourning Report, a memoir of her "grief journey" interviewing six people involved in her mother's dying process. Following her mother's death from breast cancer at the age twenty, Caitlin suffered major depression and anxiety. Through these conversations, Caitlin learns about memory, reflections, and the ways in which our experiences are interpreted and filtered through others' eyes. We also explore the themes of freedom, agency, and authenticity.

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We are back from our hiatus and hope your year is off to a good start. During our break, we've been thinking, resting, recuperating, and taking a much needed time off from the non-stop chaos of the past four and a half years. To kick off our podcast in 2021, we are excited to bring you a series of episodes focused on the theme "mirrors and windows." Throughout the year, we will be exploring timely topics around the intersection of sex, gender, race, and its cultural, social, and political implications. If you'd like an opportunity to engage in deeper conversations and strengthen your feminist practice, please join us in the Engendered Collective, our community of survivors, advocates and pro-feminist allies. If you would like to volunteer to help us manage our social media engagement, our podcast, and/or our advocacy work, please reach out and email us at [email protected]. As always, we appreciate listener feedback and welcome your suggestions for ideas, guests, and events or celebrations for us to share. With that, let's get to the first episode in our series.

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In this "Reflections" episode Part 2, Teri and Michael reflect back on episodes on our series of community conversations for Domestic Violence Awareness Month: Episode 130: Domestic Violence Awareness Month Community Conversation on Systems Change, Episode 131: Domestic Violence Awareness Month Community Conversation on Police Violence, Episode 132: Domestic Violence Awareness Month Community Conversation on Domestic Abuse and Communities of Color, Episode 133: Domestic Violence Awareness Month Community Conversation on Domestic Abuse and Child Abuse, and Episode 134: Domestic Violence Awareness Month Community Conversation on Domestic Abuse and the Church.

During our conversation, Michael and I touched upon the following resources in our conversation:

• Primary, Secondary, Tertiary prevention--holistic
• Our interview with Angie Rivers about police violence
• Jess Hill's coverage of "women's police stations" and gender parity in policing as a possible response to sexism in police culture
• "Defund the Police" or "Justice Reinvestment" as it's called in Australia
• The use of "restorative justice" approaches to address accountability in domestic violence cases
• Teri's post on the cultural history of "PAS" or "Parental Alienation Syndrome" as an abuser disinformation tactic to discredit victims' legitimate claims of abuse
• Examples of coercive control of children and how that shows up in abuser behaviors and #abusertactics
• The documentary, What Doesn't Kill Me, which addresses systemic gender bias against protective moms in family court

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