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On this episode of en(gender)ed, our guest is Jess Hill, an investigative journalist who has been researching and writing about domestic abuse since 2014. Jess was listed in Foreign Policy's top 100 women to follow on Twitter and one of the 30 most influential people under 30 by Cosmopolitan magazine. We speak with Jess today about her book, "See What You Made Me Do: Power, Control and Domestic Abuse" and the issues it addresses with regard to how patriarchy constructs masculinity and its intersection with how society defines abuse, enables it, minimizes it, and misconstrues it. In our conversation, Jess and I also delve into the ways her book and research offers examples of success and disruption that are worth exploring.

During our conversation, Jess and I referenced the following resources and topics:

• The case of Luke Batty in 2014 that started Jess to report on domestic abuse
• Jess' approach as a journalist on how she investigated and told these stories
• Lundy Bancroft's Why Does He Do That?
• Domestic abuse as "coercive control" and Evan Stark's book by the same name
• Diana Russell's Rape in Marriage
• Albert Biderman's "Chart of Coercion"
• Different types of perpetrators and common behaviors or behavioral drivers
• The impact of attachment theory in family court outcomes and, subsequently, abusers' use of disinformation tactics like Richard Gardner's "Parental Alienation Syndrome" theory to bias family courts against victims of abuse across the globe
• Ferraro and Johnson's list of six ways in which women rationalize their abuse to stay in their relationships
• Women's police stations in the global south, including Brazil, Argentina, India, that offer female police officers that help other women leave abusive relationships and pursue accountability through the courts
• The Northpoint, NC, "focused deterrence" or "transformative justice" approach to increasing abuser accountability

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On this episode of en(gender)ed, our guest is Jonathan Custodio, a recent Lehman college graduate, a New Yorker, and a journalist focused on bringing awareness to community issues around racial and cultural identify and disenfranchisement. Jonathan joins us today to talk about the ways in which masculinity in culture and the media have shaped him--his ideas, his behaviors, and his relationships-- and how listening to the en(gender)ed podcast has informed his subsequent changes and thoughts about how gender and identity is constructed.

During our conversation, Jonathan and I referenced the following resources and topics:

• The TV show, The Wire
• Our interview with Richie Reseda and teaching feminism to reduce recidivism
• How the brain matures at age 25 and what happens then
• Masculinity and its men's attitudes towards seeking mental health help
• ACEs or Adverse Childhood Experiences
• The concept of "microaggressions"
• Our interview with author, Leta Hong Fincher, on Chinese feminists and her books, Leftover Women and Betraying Big Brother
• Our interview with Taté Walker on using storytelling and art to create social change around Indigenous rights (We apologize that our guest misgendered Taté by referring to them as a 'she' instead of 'they')
• Our interview with Indian feminist activist, Bimla Vishwapremi
• Teri's use of the #ConnectTheDots hashtag to bring awareness of the ways in which gender-based violence and/or oppression is rendered invisible in the media

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On this episode of en(gender)ed, our guest is Cleo Stiller, an Emmy and Peabody Award-nominated reporter who talks about her new book, Modern Manhood: Conversations About the Complicated World of Being a Good Man Today. In our conversation, Cleo and I will examine the ways in which men are navigating issues of dating, parenting, friendships, and money, to name a few. She hopes this book will be the catalyst for ongoing dialogue amongst all genders about issues regarding boundaries, consent, and healthy relationships.

During our conversation, Cleo and I referenced the following resources and topics:

• Cleo's former TV show called, Sex. Right. Now with Cleo Stiller
• Lux Alptraum, author of Faking It: The Lies Women Tell About Sex--and the Truths They Reveal
• Dan Doty of Evryman
• Tony Porter's "man box" concept
• CV Harquail's book and ideas on feminism and business
• Biological anthropologist Dr. Helen Fisher's explanation of the inception of "single-income" and its evolution to "dual-income" and return to our past agrarian provider roles
• Suze Orman's Women and Money book and it relevance to "financial feminism"

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Happy New Year and New Decade! In this en(gender)ed trailer, we speak about upcoming episodes and themes. Be sure to connect with us on social media so you won't miss any upcoming announcements for events, activities, or other news. If you're interested in volunteering as a social media moderator, please reach out to us at [email protected]. Until next time, stay safe and continue to speak truth to power!

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In this "Reflections" episode,Teri and Michael reflect back on episodes on culture and gender roles: Episode 78: Taté Walker on using storytelling and art to create social change around Indigenous rights, Episode 79: Bimla Vishwapremi, a feminist activist, on women's rights in India, and Episode 81: #SurvivorStories Series with Aneri Shah–on gender roles and how her Indian-American identity impacted her #MeToo experience.

During my conversation with Michael, Michael referred to Taté as "she" instead of "they" as is Taté's preferred pronoun. I didn't notice this until the editing process and apologize to Taté for not correcting Michael.

We also touched upon the following resources in our conversation:

• The high rates of domestic abuse within the law enforcement profession
• India's recently introduced "Citizenship Amendment Act (CAA)" and its connection to the National Registry of Citizens (NRC), and what it means for Muslims
• The Dirty John Netflix show
• Our reference to how society, culture, and family create status or "shame" in survivors, as evidenced in Episode 20: #SurvivorStories Series with Rosaura Torres Thomas, on abuse when your partner is a cop
• Rachel Louise Snyder's book, No Visible Bruises, makes the top 10 NYT list of best books of 2019

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On this #SurvivorStories series episode, our guest is Aneri Shah, founder of the Matriarchy,an organization that envisions that all genders can come together to discuss gender-based violence, its causes and its impact, in order to effect positive policy change. Aneri speaks with us today about growing up first generation American, gender roles, and how her identity as an Indian-American informed how she and her family and community responded to her own #MeToo moment.

During our conversation, Aneri and I referenced the following resources and topics:

• The Indian-Canadian comedian, Russell Peters
• The concept of "filial piety" in Asian families
• The Netflix show, "Dating Around"
• The effects of Rohypnol or the "roofie" drug
• The Grey's Anatomy episode on the process of collecting a rape kit
• How Simone Biles responded to her trauma through sleep
• Rebecca Traister's book: "Good and Mad: The Revolutionary Power of Women's Anger"

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On this episode, I wanted to share with you my participation in the upcoming Podcast Movement Evolutions Conference in February 2020 as a speaker. I will be presenting on the topic: "Art and Activism: The evolution of my podcast listener from passivity to engagement." Please feel free to stop by and join the conversation on the expo stage.

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On this episode of en(gender)ed, our guest is Bimla Vishwapremi, a feminist activist in India fighting for Dalit and women's rights around issues of ending violence, promoting education and investment in women's businesses through microfinancing, and Dalit forest rights.

We speak to Bimla today about her work in all of these areas and its intersection of class, caste, and gender. Our conversation will be conducted in English and Hindi with a translation by an Indian activist.

During our conversation, Bimla and I referenced the following resources and topics:

• The International Dalit Solidarity Network and the issues faced by Dalit women
• Dalit feminism
• Rural Technology Development Centre RTDC

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On today's episode, our guest is Taté Walker, a Lakota citizen of the Cheyenne River Sioux Tribe of South Dakota. They are a banner-waving Two Spirit feminist, Indigenous rights activist, and a published and award-winning storyteller for outlets like Everyday Feminism, Feminist Humanist Alliance, Native Peoples magazine, and Indian Country Today. Taté uses their 15 years of experience working for daily newspapers, social justice organizations, and tribal education systems to organize students and professionals around issues of critical cultural competency, anti-racism/anti-bias, and inclusive community building. We speak with Taté today about their work in using storytelling and art to create social change.

During our conversation, Taté and I referenced the following resources and topics:

• The book, "Fierce: Essays by and about Dauntless Women" by Karyn Kloumann, in which Taté's essay "Origins" appears
• The concept of "two-spirit"
• The gender unicorn
• Rates of violence against American Indian and Alaska Native women
• The movement and the organization helping to bring awareness to "Missing and Murdered Indigenous Women and Girls"
• Native Americans have the highest rates of enlistment than any other ethnic group in the United States
• The movement to end Native mascots in professional sports
• Netflix's American Son and the Opportunity Agenda's Discussion Guide on the film
• Taté's book coming out in 2020: "Thunder Thighs and Trickster Vibes: Essays on Immigration, Gender, and Equality"
• The Lakota concept of "Mitakuye Oyasin" which reflects the interconnectedness of life
• The Native concept of "seventh generation sustainability"

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In this "Reflections" episode,Teri and Michael reflect back on episodes on feminist practices in business: Episodes 72 & 73: CV Harquail on her book "Feminism–A Key Idea for Business and Society," Episode 74: Vanessa Dawson of the Vinetta Project on investing in female tech founders, Episodes 75 & 76: Susan Basterfield and Gina Stevens-Rembe on Enspiral and its feminist business ecosystem.

Teri and Michael co-host the en(gender)ed reflections episodes which serve to help curate a series of past episodes, usually around a specific theme. We hope these episodes help listeners coming in at that point of the podcast identify particular episodes and themes that they may want to explore. During our reflection, we talked about these additional resources:

• An article on "How the US employee benefits compares to Europe's"
• "What caused the decline of unions in America?"
• The practice of "land acknowledgement" shared in Episode 72.
• Radiolab's "Dolly Parton's America" series
• Rush Limbaugh's coining of the term "feminazi" to silence women and contribute to a decades long assault on discrediting women's efforts for equality and women's rights
• The Netflix documentary on the history of women's reproductive rights called "Reversing Roe"
• Senator Elizabeth Warren's proposed wealth tax plan and calculator
• The video Michael referenced with the wealthy man balking at the idea of a wealth tax
• The high rates of domestic abuse within the law enforcement profession

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