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In this "Reflections" episode,Teri and Michael reflect back on episodes on the child sexual abuse - Episode 60: Gary Greenberg on the NYS "Child Victims Act"–activism and accountability in response to child sexual abuse, Episode 61: #SurvivorStories series with Kathy Picard, on her book, "Life with My Idiot Family: A True Story of Survival, Courage and Justice Over Childhood Sexual Abuse," Episode 62: #SurvivorStories series with Hunter Maxwell on witnessing domestic violence and surviving childhood sexual abuse, and Episode 63: James Powell on the power of social work therapy to heal trauma.

Teri and Michael co-host the en(gender)ed reflections episodes which serve to help curate a series of past episodes, usually around a specific theme. We hope these episodes help listeners coming in at that point of the podcast identify particular episodes and themes that they may want to explore. During our reflection, we talked about these additional resources:

• Governor Cuomo's signing of Erin's Law without a public ceremony with advocates
• How child sexual abuse survivors who don't have institutional perpetrators have "no path to justice"
• Gary's Fighting for Children PAC, also known as Protect NY Kids

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In this "Reflections" episode,Teri and Michael reflect back on episodes on the women and technology - Episode 57: Nicole Lazzaro on gender and women in technology, Episode 58: LeBaron Meyers on #NotMe as a mobile solution to workplace misconduct, and Episode 59: #SurvivorStories series with "Ashley" on the dangers of technology–cyberstalking and surveillance.

Teri and Michael co-host the en(gender)ed reflections episodes which serve to help curate a series of past episodes, usually around a specific theme. We hope these episodes help listeners coming in at that point of the podcast identify particular episodes and themes that they may want to explore. During our reflection, we talked about these additional resources:

• The connection between video games and gun violence
• "The men behind the US's deadliest mass shootings have domestic violence — not mental illness — in common"
• "A Common Trait Among Mass Killers: Hatred Toward Women"
• "Armed and Misogynist: How Toxic Masculinity Fuels Mass Shootings"
• Hasan Minhaj's episode on "The Dark Side of the Video Game Industry"
• Anita Sarkeesian and GamerGate
• The myth of false reporting and statistics behind it
• Teri's interview with the "I Can't Believe It's Not News" podcast on "PAS" or "Parental Alienation Syndrome" as an abuser tactic

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In this "Reflections" episode,Teri and Michael reflect back on episodes on the gender and international feminism - Episode 53: Seth Shelden on his work for Nobel Peace Prize winner ICAN and disarmament, Episode 54: Damien Mander on the Akashinga or "the Brave Ones"–an all female anti-poaching unit, and Episode 55: Leta Hong Fincher on Chinese feminists and their importance to #MeToo and international women's rights.

Teri and Michael co-host the en(gender)ed reflections episodes which serve to help curate a series of past episodes, usually around a specific theme. We hope these episodes help listeners coming in at that point of the podcast identify particular episodes and themes that they may want to explore. During our reflection, we talked about these additional resources:

• Mass shooting in Philadelphia with six officers shot
• Statistics behind gun deaths in the United States, 60% of which is accounted for by suicide in 2017
• The United Nations Study on Global Homicides: Gender-Related Killings of Women & Girls

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Our guest today is James Powell, a social worker and practicing therapist at Jason Walter and Associates. James believes that healing and self-actualization result from a life-long commitment to self-reflection—the constant pursuit of increasing congruency between one's values and behavior. Her psychotherapeutic practice is rooted in Buddhism, 12-step philosophy, shamanic spirituality, humanistic psychology, and psychodynamic theory. James works with clients who have experienced loss, interpersonal violence, and addiction.

James will speak with us today about her practice and how her identity and experience as a survivor of interpersonal violence informs her work as a practitioner helping others engaged in similar struggles and journeys.

During our conversation, James and I referenced the following resources:

• Judith Herman's Trauma and Recovery
• The Feminist Next Door's tweet about interpersonal violence and the en(gender)ed podcast tweet
• American Psychological Association's guidelines for practice with girls/women and boys/men
• Peggy Orenstein's article, "It's Not That Men Don't Know What Consent Is"
• Teri's post about a NYC pilot with survivors taking into account the trauma history of the abuser

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**Please note that this episode contains some explicit descriptions of child sexual abuse.**

On this episode of en(gender)ed #SurvivorStories series, our guest is Hunter Maxwell, a survivor of childhood domestic violence and child sexual assault. As a child, he witnessed his mother in several abusive relationships and he himself was sexually abused by an older child in the neighborhood. Hunter speaks with us today about how both of these experiences have shaped him, his relationships,his choices, and what tools he has adopted to build resilience and begin to heal. Throughout our conversation, we reference #signsofabuse, #abusertactics, and #upstandertips.

Learn about Hunter's non-profit work here.

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**Please note that this episode contains some explicit descriptions of child sexual abuse.**

On this #SurvivorStories series episode, our guest is Kathy Picard, a childhood sexual abuse survivor, author of the book, "Life with My Idiot Family: A True Story of Survival, Courage and Justice Over Childhood Sexual Abuse" and advocate for Massachusetts' reform in extending their criminal and civil statute of limitations for childhood sexual abuse. Kathy is here with us today to speak about the ways in which her abuse affected her relationships, her choices, and her eventual advocacy to help other survivors. We will pay special attention to #AbuserTactics, #SignsofAbuse, and have Kathy share #UpstanderTips on how we can do more to prevent and respond to abuse.

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**Please note that this episode contains some explicit descriptions of child sexual abuse.**

On this episode of en(gender)ed, our guest is Gary Greenberg, childhood sexual abuse survivor, activist and founder of the Fighting for Children PAC, also known as Protect NY Kids, which was pivotal in helping NYS pass Child Victims Act legislation in 2019 that extended the Statute of Limitations for child sexual abuse, in both civil and criminal cases. Gary is here to speak with us about his experience as an activist and the long road he traveled to help pass this significant legislation, helping to provide some deterrence and accountability for the 150 kids that are sexually abused in NYS every day.

During our conversation, Gary and I referenced the following resources:

• Eleanor's Legacy
• New York Progressive Action Network
• Gary's role in defeating the IDC incumbents
• True Blue NY
• Erin's Law in NYS--child sexual abuse prevention classes in schools
• The status of Brittany's Law in NYS

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On this #SurvivorStories series episode, our guest is "Ashley" a survivor of intimate partner violence and coercive control and a protective mom. Ashley is here to speak with us today about the dangers of technology in domestic violence. In particular, Ashley believes that her husband, from whom she is currently separated, had been cyberstalking her through her computer, We address the impact the surveillance has had on her and review her Order of Protection court proceedings to examine the ways courts view abuse and cyberstalking, uncover myths, and explore ways that our systems and players need to be updated and trained to provide appropriate responses to keep survivors and children safe. Throughout our conversation, Ashley uses pseudonyms for both herself and the other members of her family. We also reference #signsofabuse, #abusertactics, and #upstandertips. To prepare for this interview, we read and reviewed thoroughly Ashley's transcripts from her family court Protection Order hearings.

During our conversation, Ashley and I referenced the following:

• Our interview with Rachel Louise Snyder on her book, No Visible Bruises, and the discussion on how leaving is a process
• How Apple and Google Lets Domestic Abusers Stalk Victims
• The inadequate use of the violence model as a basis for the definition of abuse and how coercive control is more appropriate

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Our guest today is LeBaron Meyers, President & Chief Business Officer of #NotMe, the first mobile solution to offer a transparent, safe, and simple way to report workplace misconduct. The company's mission is to bridge the gap between employer and employee by empowering everyone to report and address workplace misconduct they've experienced or witnessed,with the eventual goal of prevention. LeBaron speaks with us today about #NotMe, workplace harassment and discrimination, and how her company intends to create a culture of accountability in every workplace.

Please refer to our interview with Tammy Cho for resources on the laws and policies governing workplace harassment and discrimination. During out interview, we also referenced Joan Meier's research on how courts view claims of abuse and our interview with Joan.

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On this episode of en(gender)ed, our guest is Nicole Lazzaro, founder and President of XEODesign, Inc., As a veteran of the video gaming industry, Nicole leverages her twenty years expertise in Play Experience Design to help companies such as Disney, Lucas Arts, EA Electronic Arts, build memorable and entertaining experiences for their players/customers. Nicole is widely recognized as one of the top women working in video games and a leading figure in mobile and social games, considered one of the 100 most influential women in high tech and voted one of the top 20 women working in video games by Gamasutra. Nicole is also known for designing the first iPhone game called TiltWorld and the players have planted 16,000 trees in Madagascar through the points that they've earned in the game.. In our conversation today, Nicole and I will be addressing women in tech, and sexism, misogyny and harassment in tech, her advice to women and founders starting out and GamerGate.

During our conversation, Nicole and I referenced the following resources:

• Women and Minorities in Tech, by the Numbers
• Girls Who Code and Black Girls Code
• Ruth Bader Ginsberg's documentary, RBG, and the legal drama about her life, On the Basis of Sex
• DICE award winner, Christopher Judge of God of War and male allyship
• How "Funding For Female Founders Stalled at 2.2% of VC Dollars in 2018"
• XEODesign games: Follow the White Rabbit and Aladdin's Cave of Wonders
• WXR Fund for female entrepreneurs in computing
• XEODesign's Four Keys to Fun
• Brie Code's "tend and befriend" approach to game design for women
• The disconnect between Senator Klobuchar and her parental leave policy
• Nicole on Samantha Bee and "Gamify the Midterms"

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