If you haven’t come across RaQuel yet—aka The Capacity Expert—that’s about to change. With bold, truth-telling videos that are equal parts empowering and uncomfortable, RaQuel is shaking up the mental health conversation in all the best ways. 

Instead of prescribing prevalent self care solutions like bubble baths and spa days, RaQuel invites us into deeper work—work that involves honesty, self-responsibility, and a better understanding of what we’re actually capable of.

I brought questions straight from our MomForce community to this conversation, and RaQuel delivered. You're going to be challenged, in the best way, and inspired to think differently about your own capacity.

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5:00 Why RaQuel is disrupting the mental health space. 

6:05 Capacity is strength 

7:15 Why don't the self care practices society prescribes work?

9:43 The power of choice and how to avoid playing a victim 

11:00 Does a diagnosis limit your capacity? 

14:51 What to do about volatile emotions during pregnancy

17:49 When do you know it's time to get professional help? 

21:45 How to explore your relationship with responsibility 

22:30 How to find low cost therapy 

27:50 Feeling discomfort is an opportunity to grow 

34:40 Why we pathologized struggle