It's more empowering to quietly live in alignment than to make proclamations for public consumption during our messy middle. Let your life be evidence enough—let your peace be the proof.

Today I want you to look for divinity in yourself—have you ever felt unlovable, even by God? Your worth is fixed through divine creation—you'll do good and bad things, but that doesn't change your value as God's child. Try on the belief that you're worthy of His love, serve someone else as a channel for God's love, and experiment with receiving it yourself.

Despite having more on my plate than ever, I'm not miserable! Looking back at my chaotic career path, every "terrible ending" was actually a necessary step to where I am now. When divinely guided choices end badly, it feels like betrayal, but one thing always leads to the next even when we can't see it. Maybe you don't know what's next in the best possible way.

When someone's life choices make you angry or judgmental, that's actually about YOU, not them! Our triggers reveal our insecurities and shifting values—recently someone close to me left religion and it tormented me because I was using them to validate my own path. When living differently than those around us, we need God-guided confidence in our values, not validation from others. Use your triggers as soul-searching invitations—they're teaching you something important!

There's a difference between being an actual victim and victim mentality. Real harm (abuse, loss, institutional failures) isn't your fault, but staying trapped in blame keeps you miserable. An atheist once told me to own my choices after leaving religion—life-changing! Jesus makes accountability less scary because His partnership heals us even when we're wrong. Ask God: "Where's my accountability?" Freedom comes through taking responsibility for what we can control while healing from what we couldn't.

My 3-year-old Sophie is snuggling with me today (perfect timing for this topic!). My friend shared something profound: relief often doesn't come in our darkest closet-floor moments—it comes after we somehow get back up and keep trying. When I look back at my lowest points, I couldn't feel God then, but now I see He was carrying me through pain so deep that even divine help felt absent. Gather evidence from your own life of when relief came—maybe not on your timeline, but it did come. Deep breath. Let's go.

With endless spiritual resources, I sometimes replace my own investment in God with other people's content! While podcasts are great, nothing replaces YOUR relationship with the divine. Living differently than those around you requires personal divine guidance. After a year in AA with people of all belief systems, the common thread was: personal relationship with a higher power matters most. Pick something simple and sustainable—one prayer, four minutes of reading—consistency builds connection better than grand gestures.

Let's talk about stopping the gatekeeping of God! We make up rules about where He can be found and what makes us "worthy," but I find God at Chili's over Diet Coke and chips—those booth conversations are sacred! The only requirement for finding Him is seeking Him. You might study your Bible and feel nothing, then feel divinity during an Eminem song (don't ask). Stop putting restrictions on access to God. Be surprised by where He shows up in your day.

You've been asking, so here's my honest answer: I choose organized religion right now because it helps me prioritize service and Christ in ways I otherwise wouldn't. I'm not saying it's essential for faith or being good—I've been both in and out of religion twice! But with full-time work and kids in high-demand stages, I don't have extra capacity. Religion gives me built-in community, service opportunities, and worship practices without me having to create it all myself. Desperation brought me back to God, but community brought me back to church. Whatever stage you're in—exploring, wandering, or fully committed—I respect it all.

Sometimes you don't know what you believe until you say it out loud! Sharing beliefs—even before we're sure—can confirm or shift what we think. Whether it's faith, money, or relationships, saying things out loud releases shame and clarifies truth. I know I just said you don't owe declarations, but safe conversations with trusted friends are the experimental lab for building beliefs. Call someone today and practice saying what you think you believe—you might surprise yourself!