The Psychedelic Integration Podcast

EP 042 | How to Stop Being a Control Freak

Listen Later

Raise your hand if you need things to be a certain way. If it would just be better if you did everything yourself. If you micromanage yourself and everyone around you. If you don't really trust other people to meet your expectations. If you feel resentful and angry that no one does anything quite up to your standards. Including you. Today on The Psychedelic Integration Podcast I am diving into how to stop being a control freak so that you can be present and enjoy your life. No judgment. No shame. Only gentle, compassionate understanding of all the ways you try to create safety and protection through attachment and control. And how psychedelics help you unwind this habit energy and shift it into something more chill and beneficial.

In this episode, Sinclair talks about:

  • Control freakiness and attachment to specific outcomes
  • Identifying your less ideal habit energies with compassion
  • Creating safety and protection for yourself to survive
  • The origins of micromanaging and the need to control
  • What taking control and attachment to outcomes can look like
  • Mind-reading and anticipation of someone's needs keeping you from really listening
  • Not trusting yourself and not trusting others
  • Teaching people in your life that you don't want help
  • Hyper-independence is highly valued
  • No one does it alone
  • Recognizing your privilege
  • The glorification of the individual and the ego
  • How is this good for me? vs. how is this good for the collective?
  • We don't have control over anything anyway
  • Freaking out when you have to compromise
  • Being unable to feel joy, gratitude, being present
  • Care less, lower your expectations, doing the bare minimum, and giving less fucks
  • The illusion of control is a distraction, a way we keep ourselves busy
  • Having unreasonable expectations gives you a carrot to chase that you will never catch
  • Letting go of everything that I think I need to do to "be healthy"
  • Listening to your body, asking it what it needs
  • "If I don't have it like this, then...."
  • A control freak is actually a leader in training
  • Doing deep work in yourself and spreading that out in the world as a spiritual leader
  • Leaning into gratitude, appreciation, and joy
  • Stop trying to fix everything, because nothing needs to be fixed
  • Witnessing yourself without judgment, accepting yourself
  • The magic of deep rest
  • Shame is the joy killer
  • Remedies to help you let go and trust yourself

    • RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

    Join Sacred Psychedelics Preparation Intensive - we start February 27th
    Get a FREE coaching session and learn more about Rise and Align

    ...more
    View all episodesView all episodes
    Download on the App Store
    The Psychedelic Integration PodcastBy Sinclair Fleetwood | Spiritual Psychedelic Integration Coach
    • 4.9
    • 4.9
    • 4.9
    • 4.9
    • 4.9

    4.9

    23 ratings

    More shows like The Psychedelic Integration Podcast

    View all
    Tara Brach by Tara Brach

    Tara Brach

    10,457 Listeners

    Well Beyond 40 by JJ Virgin

    Well Beyond 40

    1,071 Listeners

    Marriage Kids and Money: Personal Finance for Families by Andy Hill

    Marriage Kids and Money: Personal Finance for Families

    590 Listeners

    The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett by DOAC

    The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett

    6,407 Listeners

    The Healing Trauma Podcast by Monique Koven

    The Healing Trauma Podcast

    424 Listeners

    Eckhart Tolle: Essential Teachings by Oprah and Eckhart Tolle

    Eckhart Tolle: Essential Teachings

    3,781 Listeners

    Huberman Lab by Scicomm Media

    Huberman Lab

    28,161 Listeners

    We Can Do Hard Things by Glennon Doyle and Audacy

    We Can Do Hard Things

    41,049 Listeners

    The Mel Robbins Podcast by Mel Robbins

    The Mel Robbins Podcast

    20,619 Listeners

    The Psychedelic Mom by Michaela Carlin

    The Psychedelic Mom

    46 Listeners

    Microdosing For Healing by Kayse Gehret

    Microdosing For Healing

    26 Listeners