As a guest on Out late With David #18 - Brian Janes shares coming out after 26 years of marriage, now finding his place in his new community.

Summary:

Brian Janes, a successful real estate broker, came out as gay at age 50 after 26 years of marriage. He loved being married and had a strong connection with his wife, but deep down, he had a sexual desire that didn't match up with her. After years of therapy and self-help, his wife eventually told him she wanted a divorce. Brian knew he was gay from a young age but didn't know how to embrace it. He suppressed his true self and lived in fear of being found out. After his divorce, he made the decision to come out and started a podcast for men coming out later in life.

Keywords: comingout, marriage, divorce, self-discovery, suppression, fear, loneliness, podcast, outlate, gay, alwaysgay, depression.

Takeaways:

Suppressing your true self can lead to frustration and strain in relationships.

Coming out later in life can be a difficult and lonely process.

Embracing your true self can lead to personal growth and a more fulfilling life.

Sharing your story and being vulnerable can help others going through similar experiences.

Titles The Journey of Coming Out Later in Life Embracing Your True Self and Finding Personal Growth

Sound Bites "Don't Let Your Wonder Turn Into Closure" "Here I Am, a Proud Gay Man" "You're Not Alone, We're All Out Here" Chapters (video) 00:00 Introduction and Background 03:04 Suppressing True Self in a Marriage 07:50 The Decision to Come Out 10:43 The Power of Wonder and Curiosity 13:36 Coming Out to Ex-Wife and Children 17:23 Exploring the New World 19:17 Regrets and Self-Kindness 21:20 Loneliness and Self-Discovery 24:19 Starting the Podcast 27:37 Advice for Married Men Struggling with Acceptance 29:54 Summary and Closing Song Lyric Reflection: Ben Platt's "Older." Older lyrics: https://www.google.com/search?q=ben+platt+older+lyrics&oq=ben+platt+older+lyrics&gs_lcrp=EgZjaHJvbWUyBggAEEUYOTIKCAEQABiABBiiBDIKCAIQABiABBiiBNIBCDQ2NzdqMGo3qAIIsAIB&sourceid=chrome&ie=UTF-8 Older on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y_sADbvPmzE Podcast website and resources: https://www.OutLateWithDavid.com YouTube Edition: https://youtu.be/n3Iuqhu2K5M YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvsthP9yClKI4o5LxbuQnOg Certified Professional Life Coach, David Cotton: https://www.DavidCottonCoaching.com Contact David: mailto:[email protected]