My nice little life—morning walks, easy Saturdays, and time with the people I love—would not be possible if I were still seeking validation and gratification from things outside of myself.

Today I’m talking about a book that helped me put that into perspective. In We Are the Luckiest, Laura McKowen writes about getting sober, but the book is not really about alcohol. It's about the ways we leave ourselves and all the things we reach for—food, wine, our phones, approval, people pleasing, pretending—when what we actually need is to come home to who we are.

The reality of being an actual person with needs and limits can feel uncomfortable and uncertain. But in the ashes of the things that don’t serve you, you find the version of yourself that you’re meant to be.

Mentioned episodes:

• Ep 3: Tell People Pleasing to Suck It
• Ep 32: My Relationship with Alcohol
• Ep 43: Freedom
• Ep 54: Accept Yourself
• Ep 61: We Are ALL Fucked Up
• Ep 70: You Can't Hide From Yourself
• Ep 97: Meeting Yourself
• Ep 123: Becoming Your Own Best Friend
• Ep 133: Stop Rejecting Yourself for Acceptance
• Ep 138: Radical Honesty
• Ep 145: Living in Integrity
• Ep 149: 7 Years Without Alcohol — A Celebration

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