Your Favorite You

What have you written off as something you hate or just can’t do, even though you only try it in your most depleted window?

Maybe it’s the difficult conversation you keep putting off until the end of a draining day or the exercise you attempt after work when you're exhausted. In this episode, we’re talking about how sometimes it’s not the task itself, but the timing, that keeps you stuck in the same pattern.

When you approach something with more energy, at a time that actually works for you, you may find you start to succeed at it. With enough repetitions, your relationship to the task can change—not through willpower, but through repeated experiences under conditions where it feels genuinely doable.

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How bad does something have to get before the pain of dealing with it finally outweighs the pain of just living with it?

I had to think about this question recently after spending hours taking care of a fruit fly infestation, to the point of doing full-on science experiments in my kitchen. In hindsight, it would have been easier to take care of the first two flies I saw days before it became a bigger problem.

A small issue can be surprisingly easy to ignore when addressing it feels more inconvenient than tolerating it. But even if nothing seems to be changing, it can quietly grow until fixing it takes much more time and effort. In this episode, we’re talking about that invisible threshold and how it shows up in our relationships, careers, and everyday lives because it’s about much more than fruit flies in a kitchen.

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Not every good decision can guarantee a good outcome, and the idea that it can is quietly torturing you over decisions using a measuring stick that was never fair to begin with.

In this episode, we’re talking about a trap that’s easy to fall into: judging a decision by how it turns out in the future instead of judging it by what you actually knew and had available when you made it.

An outcome is not evidence about the quality of the decision you made. An outcome is just what happened. Those two things are completely different, but we constantly conflate them. You’ll hear why that distinction matters so much, how to make thoughtful decisions in the face of uncertainty, and why all you can do is make the best decision you can with the information and tools you have.

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You don’t need to spend hours sitting in silence to experience the benefits of mindfulness. In this episode, I’m joined by Dr. Nirali Dubal, who shares how meditation helped her cultivate a deeper sense of peace in her life and how she now helps others do the same.

You’ll hear how small moments of intentional attention can become part of your everyday life, from taking a breath before you enter a room to pausing to notice how you feel in the middle of a busy day. Nirali also guides you through a meditation you can return to anytime you need a moment to slow down and reconnect with your favorite version of yourself.

Dr. Nirali Dubal is a board-certified pediatrician, ICF-credentialed life coach, and MMTCP-certified meditation teacher. After 25 years in primary care, she stepped beyond clinical practice to pursue her passion for helping people slow down, reconnect with themselves, and live with greater intention. Through mindfulness, meditation, and coaching, Dr. Nirali helps people find greater clarity, inner peace, and purpose, so they can create lives that feel more aligned with who they truly are.

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What if you could find the places where your personal energy is quietly leaking away? Just like a drafty window can go unnoticed because you’ve lived with it for years, emotional and energetic drains can become so familiar that they fade into the background.

In this episode, we explore how doing an energy audit can help you identify the leaks in your own life. We’ll walk through five common energy leaks that may be costing you more than you realize, from reluctant yeses and unmade decisions to relationships that leave you depleted.

You don’t have to wait until you’re completely depleted to ask what’s costing you your energy. When you start addressing even one small leak at a time, you may be surprised by how much lighter you feel and the energy you have for the life you actually want to live.

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It can be exhausting to try to make a decision about your own life when everyone around you has an opinion about what you should do instead. How do you trust yourself in the middle of all that noise?

The opinions aren’t going to stop. Your family will keep having them, strangers will keep sharing them, and the internet will keep contradicting itself about the “right” answer. You can’t always turn off the noise, but you can build a relationship with your own knowing that’s sturdy enough to hold steady in the middle of it.

When you finally start giving your own voice the same weight as everyone else’s, you can stop changing your decisions to fit someone else’s idea of your life and start choosing your path based on the version of you that you want to become.

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Resentment. It’s a feeling that can be hard to admit to, especially when you’ve been taught to be ashamed of it, talk yourself out of it, or convince yourself that you shouldn’t feel it in the first place.

But resentment is not a character flaw. It is not proof that you’re petty, ungrateful, or a bad friend, partner, or mom. Resentment is a messenger. It can show up uninvited to tell you something you haven’t yet let yourself hear. The problem is, it tends to get shot down before you read the message.

In this episode, we’re taking a closer look at what resentment might actually be trying to tell you. We talk about resentment toward the people in your life and toward yourself, why so many of us were taught to swallow it instead of speak it, and what can happen when you stop treating resentment as something to be ashamed of and start getting curious about the message it’s carrying.

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What can remodeling your home teach you about remodeling your life? More than you might think. As I’ve been remodeling my home, I’ve noticed all the ways the process mirrors the transformation of becoming your favorite version of yourself. 

When you remodel your home—or your life—you get to choose the scope. You can make a small change or take it all the way back to the studs. You can uncover things you didn’t know were there, get help from someone who knows what to look for, and make choices simply because you like them.

A remodel can be messy, uncertain, and full of surprises, and the same is true when you’re changing your relationship with yourself. At the end of the day, you’re the one who has to live there. And just like your home, you get to decide what you want your life to look and feel like.

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Have you ever thought of yourself as “the strong one” in your life? The one who is always available, always fine, and who always holds it together so nobody else has to. 

It’s a job that no one applies for, but that most of you are working anyway with no pay, benefits, sick days, or end date on the contract. In this episode, we’re talking about what it looks like to retire from that role when it stops being something you do and becomes who you are.

When you stop being the strong one, it doesn't mean you collapse or can’t be counted on. The shift is about moving from surviving to something much bigger: agency, intention, thriving. Retiring from being the strong one doesn't mean you can never be strong again. It means strength becomes a tool you choose, not a role you have to live in.

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I'm really fucking good at my job. And before you decide I’m an egomaniac, I want you to notice how uncomfortable that sentence may have just made you. I felt it too, that urge to soften it, qualify it, or follow it up with a joke so that nobody would think that I am getting too big for my britches.

But here’s the thing: the work we do is not an accident. I spent more than two decades in medicine and now nearly a decade in coaching, building my skills one session at a time. My guess is that you’ve put just as much time and effort into getting to where you are today, so why is it so common to deflect any acknowledgment of the impact we have?

In this episode, I’m not softening anything. I'm tooting my own goddamn horn on purpose, no matter how uncomfortable it is. I hope that by the end, you are going to want to toot your own goddamn horn, too.

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