What actually happens when you walk away from a BDSM dynamic that no longer works, and end up with someone who still can’t meet your needs, even after you’ve communicated them clearly, more than once? In this episode of The Kink Consultant, I sit down with Brenda (aka my BizDom) to share an honest and frustrating update on my dating life.

I talk about why I chose to leave a partner who understood my kinks but lacked consistency, and how I entered a new connection with someone who seemed open to kink but has shown little interest in learning more. To make things harder, consistent communication has become its own challenge, despite multiple conversations about what I need.

Whether you’ve been here yourself or are trying to avoid this cycle altogether, this episode offers a real look at the emotional toll of unmet needs, the importance of follow-through, and what it takes to stop settling for almost. Tune in for a candid conversation, some hard truths, and the kind of perspective that might just help you reset your own standards.

Episode Highlights: 

01:48 BDSM Contract and Breakup

03:30 Dating and Political Differences

20:44 Navigating New Relationships

22:36 Recognizing Dominant Traits

23:14 Spanking Fetish and Boundaries

26:46 Communication Struggles

28:43 Feeling Unseen and Unheard

31:20 Reflecting on Compatibility

36:26 Bridget Jones Comparison

44:07 Setting Boundaries and Moving Forward

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