June 11, 2025

Ep 35 – What It’s Really Like to Have a Spanking Fetish: Kai and Sarah’s Story of Suppression, Self-Acceptance, and Finding Each Other (Part 1)

44 minutes

What happens when two people spend years suppressing a core part of themselves only to realize that denying their identity comes at too high a cost? In this episode of The Kink Consultant, I sit down with Kai and Sarah for Part 1 of a powerful two-part series exploring how their shared spanking fetish shaped their personal growth, relationships, and ultimately, their path to each other.

We talk about what it was like to try to “make it work” in partnerships that didn’t share their kink, the emotional toll of trying to suppress a core need, and how meeting one another brought clarity, healing, and fulfillment. This conversation goes deep into identity, compatibility, and the courage it takes to choose alignment over obligation.

Whether you’re wrestling with your identity, navigating kink in a relationship, or searching for connection that truly sees you, this episode offers perspective, validation, and the reminder that you're not alone.

In Part 2, we’ll dive into how Kai and Sarah play within their domestic discipline dynamic, how they navigate playing with others, and the rules and structure they’ve built to make it work, so stay tuned for that!

Episode Highlights:

02:53 Challenges in Relationships and Spanking

04:43 Finding Fulfillment and Community

17:03 Discipline and Accountability in Spanking

20:07 Reflecting on First Spanking Experiences

22:12 The Challenges of Exploring Kinks in Marriage

25:39 Finding Compatibility and Connection

31:26 Practicing Domestic Discipline

37:10 Advice for Those Struggling with Kink Acceptance

Connect with Kai and Sarah

https://fetlife.com/KaiDiscipline
https://fetlife.com/Stormborn9

Connect with Me:

⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@thekinkconsultant⁠
⁠https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/⁠

Book Mentioned:

Sex with Shakespeare by Jillian Keenan

Podcast Mentioned:

Never Too Old for Agoodspankin https://open.spotify.com/show/2nmEpCSJn9UEigZp3Z1uKc?si=2e07e3435b174154

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