EP 188 — Christopher Ryan: Sex and Relationships

 Paul has talked about Sex at Dawn: How We Mate, Why We Stray and What It Means For Modern Relationships so much since starting his Living 4D podcast series more than three years ago, it was long overdue to check in with the book’s influential author, Christopher Ryan. Chris shares the journey to led him to write Sex at Dawn and describes our very human and complicated relationship with sex in this career-spanning Living 4D conversation. Learn more about Chris' work on his website and social media via Twitter and Instagram. Listen to his Tangentially Speaking podcast on Substack.

Show NotesHow Chris’ assumptions about the sexes and sex fell apart. (9:05)Changing the cultural narrative about sex and coupling by examining hunter-gatherer societies. (17:29)Emotional obesity. (38:08)Are women now more interested in relationships with other women than men? (44:29)Comparing emotional and sexual monogamy. (1:02:33)Monogamy versus polygamy versus polyamory. (1:10:02)Ethical non-monogamy. (1:16:41)How can we use sex to cement interconnected relationships within a community? (1:27:21)When Chris realized he was non-monogamous. (1:36:01)Being sexual, an adult and a good example to your kids. (1:40:18)Libido: The essential energy for life. (1:51:15)Chris says Dan Savage is responsible the success of Sex at Dawn. (2:11:57)Pleasure cannot be monetized. (2:14:54)“When you’re lived a false life, either you’re wanting someone to tell you the truth or you’re desperate for them not to…” (2:27:07)ResourcesCivilized to Death: The Price of Progress by Christopher RyanJoseph Campbell and The Power of Myth series with Bill Moyers audiobook series The Moral Animal: Why We Are The Way We Are by Robert WrightMama’s Last Hug: Animal Emotions and What They tell us About Ourselves by Frans de WaalRobert Wright on evolutionary psychologyVoices of the First Day by Robert LawlorThe work of Dr. John Sarno and Dr. Clare GravesThanks to our awesome sponsors: CHEK Institute/IMS 1 Online, Cymbiotika (save 15 percent on your purchase by using the code CHEK15 at checkout), Organifi (save 20 percent on your purchase by using the code CHEK20 at checkout), Paleovalley (save 15 percent on your purchase by using the code chek15 at checkout), BiOptimizers (save an extra 10 percent on your purchase by using the code PAUL10 at checkout) and Airestech (save 15 percent on any purchase you make by using the code CHEK15 at checkout). We may earn commissions from qualifying purchases using affiliate links.