What does being a real and good man really mean? Your mileage will definitely vary significantly depending on who you’re listening to…

To answer this thorny question and many more, Paul explores manhood with former MMA fighter, father, adventurer and Savage Gentleman Josh Tyler.

Josh describes the wide gulf between men and boys and explains why leaning heavily on curiosity and learning from your mistakes matters in this gentlemanly Living 4D conversation.

Follow Josh on social media via Instagram on his MMA page or Savage Gentleman page. Check out his Savage Gentleman podcast on Apple Podcasts, Soundcloud or wherever you listen to them.

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Timestamps

• Is there a war against masculinity? (8:45)
• Find the edges, push the envelope and ask better questions. (14:19)
• From wrestling to MMA and the journey, not the destination. (16:45)
• What getting into a fistfight with another human can teach you. (20:17)
• “My true drive to compete and pursue all these things actually comes from just being curious.” (26:07)
• The origins of Savage Gentleman. (40:57)
• Men just need to do, then learn from their mistakes. (48:55)
• Josh doesn’t love the alpha male concept. (1:02:36)
• Do you recognize and appreciate being in the presence of someone better than you at a thing? (1:21:08)
• Taking the sacred and making it profane. (1:38:06)
• Differences between men and boys. (1:45:57)
• A society perpetuating an extended male childhood. (2:06:19)
• Weaving illusions attracts illusions. (2:21:42)
• The process of stripping down a man to his spirit to discover who he really is. (2:29:11)
• Who do men ask for help? (2:36:35)
• Being present and paying attention. (2:43:07)
• What is the compass in your life? (2:52:52)
• Make that choice and love your ability to poop. (3:07:12)
• Intelligently managing personal hurt/discomfort versus personal harm. (3:12:46)
• What is Savage Gentleman? (3:22:12)
• Josh’s two-word tip for navigating manhood: Gain experience. (3:31:06)

Resources

• Boys Adrift by Leonard Sax
• A simulacrum
• The work of Mahatma Gandhi

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