In this episode of The Open Bedroom Podcast, I share the story of how Scott and I decided to get married after four years together. I reflect on our initial hesitations, the practical reasons behind our choice—including financial planning and a prenup—and our intimate, DIY park ceremony officiated by a close friend. I discuss the meaning behind our vows, our open relationship, and the importance of creating a wedding that felt authentic to us. I also offer insights into our life together, our recent home remodel, and encourage you to embrace relationships on your own terms.

Introduction & Wrestling with Marriage (00:00:03) Jen introduces the podcast and discusses her and Scott’s initial hesitations and conversations about marriage.

Financial Commitments & Decision to Marry (00:01:09) They consider buying a home and business together, leading to discussions about legal and financial security.

Prenup & Ceremony Planning (00:03:37) Jen and Scott agree on a prenup and begin planning a small, private ceremony focused on themselves.

Choosing the Location & Officiant (00:05:47) They select a park for the ceremony and ask their friend Steph, a minister, to officiate.

Photographer & Ceremony Details (00:06:50) Jen arranges for Ashton, their photographer, to capture the ceremony and describes the intimate guest list.

Wedding Attire & Weather (00:07:49) Jen shares her process of finding a dress, dealing with unexpected cold weather, and last-minute outfit changes.

Comparing Past Weddings (00:10:39) Jen reflects on her previous two weddings, their costs, and how this third wedding is different.

Ring Story & Design (00:12:29) She tells the story of her engagement ring, its history, and how she redesigned it for each marriage.

Vows & Writing Process (00:17:11) Jen discusses writing personalized vows, the importance of privacy, and how their open relationship influenced their promises.

Deciding Not to Invite Kids (00:20:23) She explains why they chose not to include their children in the ceremony for privacy and honesty in their vows.

Handmade Bouquet & Wedding Accoutrements (00:22:35) Jen describes making her own bouquet and boutonniere, and the importance of small details for photos.

DIY Wedding & Costs (00:26:18) She encourages listeners to have simple, affordable weddings and details their total expenses.

Scott’s Wedding Outfit (00:27:14) Jen talks about shopping for Scott’s non-traditional wedding attire and how it fit their style.

Building a Life Together & New Home (00:28:05) Jen shares about buying a house, remodeling, and the practical aspects of merging lives and finances.

Open Relationship & Home Design (00:30:05) They design their home, including a shower for three, to fit their open relationship lifestyle.

Reflections on Relationship Changes (00:32:15) Jen recaps the year’s changes in their relationship dynamics, including breakups and new dating approaches.

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