In this episode of the Open Bedroom podcast, I interview psychologist Don Edmundson about his journey into polyamory. Don opens up about his personal experiences navigating jealousy, attachment, and the societal expectations of masculinity while building a polyamorous family with two partners and children. We discuss how he overcame ingrained beliefs about control, the importance of open communication, and how polyamory can foster trust and personal growth. Our conversation also explores research on relationship satisfaction and the evolving acceptance of ethical non-monogamy, offering practical insights for anyone interested in non-traditional relationships.

Don Edmondson is a tenured professor, and the Director of the Center for Behavioral Cardiovascular Health at Columbia University Medical Center. He is also a polyamorous man living with his 2 partners and their 2 kids. He launched PolyamPsychologist in 2025, to communicate the revolutionary potential of polyamory for society.

Don’s Polyamory Origin Story (00:02:16)

Don shares his background, upbringing, and initial exposure to non-monogamy, including his Southern Baptist roots and early relationships.

Transition to Polyamory & Jealousy (00:05:20)

Don explains the shift from hierarchical non-monogamy to polyamory, struggles with jealousy, and the journey toward compassion.

Building a Polyamorous Family (00:07:48)

Don shares how his family expanded to include Saga and their children, forming a supportive household and evolving family dynamics.

Therapy, Exposure, and Healing (00:14:14)

Don discusses using therapy and exposure techniques to overcome jealousy, build trust, and experience compersion.

Gendered Advice for Polyamory (00:18:24)

Don explains how advice for polyamory differs for men due to patriarchal conditioning, and discusses attachment theory and secure relationships.

Deconstructing Patriarchy for Men (00:24:54)

Jen asks how men can question and unlearn patriarchal beliefs about control in relationships; Don shares his personal growth through feminist friendship and recommended resources.

Men, Polyamory, and Social Media (00:30:39)

Jen asks about Don’s TikTok series on men and polyamory; Don explains his motivation, themes, and addresses issues like vulnerability and manipulation.

Research on Polyamory vs. Monogamy (00:37:14)

Jen asks about scientific research comparing monogamy and polyamory; Don summarizes findings on satisfaction, trust, sexual fulfillment, and the growth of ethical non-monogamy.

Podcast Wrap-Up and Resources (00:45:17)

Jen and Don share where to find more resources, social media links, and thank listeners.

Connect with Don:

Instagram

TikTok

Other resources mentioned:

alexalberto.com and quiltedpress.com 

In this episode of the Open Bedroom Podcast, I explore the importance of nurturing one-on-one time—what I call “dyad dates”—with each partner in a polyamorous relationship. I share personal stories about my connections with Scott, Jess, and Steph, highlighting how each relationship is unique and requires individual attention. I discuss the different needs and dynamics within each partnership, offering my insights and advice on fostering intimacy, communication, and deeper connections in polyamorous arrangements. I encourage listeners to prioritize individual relationships for stronger, more fulfilling connections.

Defining Dyad Dates & Relationship Dynamics (00:01:16) Explains "dyad" meaning, outlines her relationships with Scott, Jess, and Steph, and the importance of one-on-one time.

Challenges of Scheduling Dyad Dates (00:02:26) Discusses logistical difficulties in arranging alone time for Scott and Jess, and creative solutions.

Erotic Blueprints & Partner Needs (00:03:35) Explains erotic blueprints, how each partner experiences love and connection differently, and how this affects intimacy.

Planning Dyad Dates & Overcoming Assumptions (00:05:56) Jen shares her assumptions about Steph’s preferences and how she initiated a sleepover to support Scott and Jess’s alone time.

Jess and Scott’s Sensual Night (00:08:06) Details Jess and Scott’s date, including the sundress fantasy, horror movie, and their intimate connection.

Steph and Jen’s Primal Night (00:10:02) Describes the sensual and primal dynamic between Jen and Steph, including their exploration of fantasies and fishnet outfits.

The Importance of Individual Dyad Experiences (00:14:53) Highlights how each dyad’s intimacy is unique and why one-on-one time matters in polyamorous relationships.Non-Sexual Dyad Time:

David Sedaris Outing (00:15:52) Shares a non-sexual example: Jen and Steph attending a David Sedaris show together.

Food Play and Sensuality with Jess (00:16:56) Describes a sensual night with Jess involving food play, snacks, and tailored experiences based on Jess’s preferences.

Exploring New Toys with Jess (00:18:54) Talks about introducing new toys into her relationship with Jess and their shared experiences.

Normalizing Open Relationships & Coaching Offer (00:20:01) Jen normalizes open relationships, shares her coaching services, and encourages listeners to reach out for support.

Coaching With Jen

Jen's Website

Jen, Scott and Jess, share candid insights into their lives as a throuple after nine months together. They discuss the evolution of their relationship, navigating distance and family disapproval, and the importance of communication and inclusivity. The trio also reflects on their adventurous intimacy, balancing different dynamics, and upcoming plans to deepen their connection. Their honest conversation highlights the joys and challenges of non-traditional relationships, emphasizing authenticity, mutual support, and the value of embracing love in all its forms.

Throuple Dynamics After Nine Months (00:01:12)

The group discusses what it’s like being in a throuple for nine months, including comfort, expectations, and initial challenges.

Family Friction and Drama (00:02:26)

Scott brings up family disapproval and drama, especially from traditional backgrounds, and how it affects their relationship.

Impact of Distance on the Relationship (00:03:23)

They talk about the challenges and benefits of living far apart, and how it shapes their connection and routines.

Balancing Time and Schedules (00:05:18)

Discussion about how limited free time and distance affect how often they see each other and the quality of their time together.

Evolving Feelings About Distance (00:07:24)

Jen shares how distance has become harder as their love deepens, and the group reflects on how their needs have changed.

Meeting in the Middle and Relationship Evolution (00:09:10)

They discuss meeting halfway, how their relationship has become more sophisticated, and the desire for more shared activities.

Family Disapproval and Navigating Relationships (00:11:06)

Each person shares their experience with family disapproval, how it impacts them, and their approach to handling it.

Relational Wiring and Sharing with Family (00:15:34)

Jen and Jess discuss being more relationally wired, how they communicate about partners with family, and the impact of distance.

Upcoming Trips and Family Events (00:18:11)

Excitement about an upcoming cruise, family events, and navigating family dynamics during group trips.

Humor, Compatibility, and Relationship Balance (00:22:15)

They reflect on humor, differences, and how each partner brings out different facets in the others.

Playful Dynamics and Partner Differences (00:23:30)

Discussion about playful teasing, differences in affection, and how each partner’s style complements the others.

Exploring Sex Life and New Experiences (00:27:58)

The group dives into how their sex life has changed, new experiences, and the evolution of intimacy over nine months.

Sexual Exploration, Toys, and Sensual Play (00:29:00)

Details about experimenting with toys, food play, and how learning from other partners has enriched their experiences.

Inclusivity and Avoiding Exclusion in Intimacy (00:34:38)

Scott emphasizes the importance of making everyone feel included during intimacy and avoiding the “accessory” feeling.

Closing Thoughts and Podcast Wrap-Up (00:36:58)

Final reflections, gratitude for the conversation, and Jen wraps up the episode with closing remarks and listener engagement.

Today I'm talking about my emotional reaction to the series "Dying for Sex," featuring Michelle Williams.

This show's beautiful themes of life, desire, and the importance of using one's voice showcases 5 key takeaways:

1. Pursuing desires

2. Using one's voice

3. Nurturing friendships

4. Recognizing life's brevity

5. Embracing the natural process of dying.

I encourage you to reflect on your own lives and relationships, and to engage with the podcast by sharing their thoughts and experiences.

Emotional Impact of the Show (00:01:28)

Jen shares her emotional reactions and warns that the show is not as funny as some may think.

Michelle Williams' Performance (00:02:41)

Jen praises Michelle Williams for her powerful and graceful portrayal of a character facing terminal illness.

Stop Denying Yourself (00:02:41)

Jen encourages listeners to pursue their desires and not silence their needs in relationships.

Using Your Voice (00:06:38)

Listeners are urged to express themselves and advocate for their wants and needs in life.

Importance of Friendships (00:07:50)

Jen emphasizes nurturing friendships, especially during times of illness or need.

Life is Short (00:10:14)

A reminder of the brevity of life and the importance of being present and making memories.

Natural Process of Dying (00:14:39)

Discussion of death as a natural part of life, encouraging acceptance and understanding.

Encouragement to Watch the Show (00:17:36)

Jen urges listeners to watch "Dying for Sex" for its impactful messages about life, desires, and friendship.

Closing Remarks (00:18:29)

The episode concludes with a call to action for listeners to engage with the podcast and share it with others.

What if pleasure was the productivity hack you've been missing? Midlife reinvention coach Natty Frasca from The Feminine Rebellion joins us to talk about the power of pleasure—daily orgasms included—and how high-functioning women can unhook from burnout and step into embodied, turned-on living.

Natty's Journey (00:01:18)  

Natty shares her personal experiences with burnout and high-functioning depression.

Realization of Pleasure's Importance (00:04:49)  

Natty discusses discovering the significance of pleasure in her life and its impact on well-being.

Defining Pleasure (00:06:33)  

Natty begins to define what pleasure means and its role in a fulfilling life.

The Spectrum of Pleasure (00:12:24)  

Natty explains that pleasure varies from simple comforts to intense experiences.

Pleasure as Fuel (00:11:06)  

Natty emphasizes that pleasure fuels productivity and well-being for high-achieving women.

Practicing Pleasure (00:14:12)  

Natty introduces "pleasure pumps" and strategies to incorporate pleasure into daily routines.

The Three Asks (00:19:58)  

Natty shares a technique for women to practice asking for help and receiving support.

Receiving Compliments (00:21:34)  

Natty discusses the importance of receiving compliments and affirming self-worth.

Calendaring Pleasure (00:24:01)  

Natty talks about scheduling time for pleasure and the practices she incorporates into her daily life.

Shower Practices for Pleasure (00:25:15)  

Natty shares her sensual shower routine to enhance body awareness and pleasure.

Pleasure Research Assignment (00:26:30)  

Women are encouraged to identify and list activities that bring them joy and pleasure.

Mapping Pleasure into Daily Life (00:27:34)  

Natty explains how to schedule smaller pleasures into calendars for consistent enjoyment.

Resources Mentioned:

• Book: Pussy by Regena Thomashauer (Mama Gena)

• The Feminine Rebellion Podcast

• Natti’s Website & Email List

In this episode of the Open Bedroom Podcast, Jen explores the complexities of introducing a new partner into an existing polyamorous relationship. Drawing from personal experiences with primary partner Scott and current partner Jess, the speaker emphasizes the importance of communication, honesty, and emotional support. They discuss the process of bringing in a new partner, and how to address the feelings and concerns of existing partners. The episode provides valuable insights into navigating open relationships, highlighting the need for transparency, emotional reassurance, and fostering connections among all partners involved.

Types of Dynamics in Open Relationships (00:01:18)  

Explains various relationship structures, including swinging and polyamory.

The Speaker's Relationship Structure (00:03:35)  

Describes the speaker's open relationship with Scott and their one penis policy.

Desire for Local Partners (00:04:40)  

Highlights the need for local partners for convenience and emotional connection.

Interview Insights on Relationship Preferences (00:06:34)  

Shares perspectives from a throuple on their preference for closed relationships.

The Speaker's Relationship Capacity (00:07:41)  

Expresses the desire for multiple partners and the joy of shared experiences.

Communicating About New Partners (00:10:02)  

Outlines the importance of discussing new relationships with existing partners.

Being Honest with Current Partners (00:12:04)  

Emphasizes the need for honesty about relationship levels and STI safety.

Honoring Partner's Feelings (00:15:17)  

Discusses the importance of addressing and reassuring partners' concerns.

Introducing New Partners (00:18:37)  

Explains the process of introducing new partners within the existing relationship.

Facilitating Connections Among Partners (00:20:22)  

Describes efforts to connect all partners for a harmonious relationship dynamic.

Allowing Relationships to Evolve (00:23:39)  

Encourages openness to the natural evolution of relationships and connections.

Honesty in Relationships (00:24:47)  

Emphasizes the importance of being honest about feelings and needs in polyamorous dynamics.

Feedback and Support (00:24:47)  

Encourages listeners to share their anxieties about introducing new partners and offers coaching assistance.

BDSM scene negotiation isn’t just about setting boundaries—it can be an incredibly sexy, intimate, and arousing part of the experience. In this episode, we’re exploring how to make consent conversations feel exciting instead of clinical. Whether you're new to kink or a seasoned player, learning to communicate your desires and limits with confidence and playfulness can deepen connection and anticipation.

We’ll cover: 🖤 How to frame negotiation as foreplay 🔥 The art of seductive communication in BDSM 📝 Essential questions to ask before a scene 💬 Flirty ways to express limits, desires, and fantasies

Negotiation isn’t just about safety—it’s about building trust, chemistry, and anticipation. Tune in and learn how to turn those pre-scene talks into an unforgettable part of the play!

👉 Listen now & spice up your scenes!

London Crave returns to discuss negotiating BDSM scenes and her background in the kink community.

London's Background (00:00:46)

London shares her journey into BDSM and her role as an education coordinator for a lifestyle group.

Setting the Stage for Negotiation (00:03:21)

The host emphasizes the need for a fun and sexy negotiation process in BDSM.

Importance of Individual Negotiation (00:05:10)

London explains that negotiation is personal and should cover basic information tailored to each individual.

Starting the Negotiation (00:05:11)

The host expresses interest in exploring degradation as a theme for their scene.

Exploring Degradation (00:05:46)

London asks about the host's experience and comfort level with degradation in BDSM.

Combining Elements of Degradation (00:06:15)

Discussion on whether the degradation should be punishment-focused or part of a larger scene.

Clarifying Pain Preferences (00:09:11)

The host discusses boundaries regarding pain, stating preferences for mental stimulation over physical pain.

Discussing Limits on Language (00:10:38)

London checks for any trigger words or phrases that might upset the host during degradation.

Physical Dynamics in the Scene (00:12:41)

The host expresses interest in physical domination and roughness as part of the degradation.

Sexual Restrictions and Safe Words (00:13:25)

Discussion on sexual boundaries with other partners and the establishment of safe words.

Importance of Aftercare (00:14:04)

London emphasizes the significance of aftercare following intense scenes, discussing preferences.

Medical Considerations (00:15:27)

The host shares medical concerns, particularly around hip discomfort, affecting scene dynamics.

Exploring Additional Play Types (00:16:44)

London introduces other potential elements like rope and primal play, gauging the host's interest.

Goals for the Scene (00:18:13)

The host shares her desire to explore new experiences and the potential for emotional breakthroughs.

Podcast Episode Timestamps

Degradation and Body Awareness (00:19:24)

Discussion on how degradation can enhance a BDSM scene while maintaining respect for the body.

Preparing for a Scene (00:20:29)

Advice on creating a safe environment and discussing outfits for a degradation scene.

Setting the Scene (00:21:15)

Exploration of different ways to start a scene, balancing dominance and comfort.

Pre-Scene Preparation (00:22:09)

Recommendations for personal hygiene and having a safety check-in post-scene.

Mental Health Considerations (00:25:14)

Addressing the importance of mental health and potential triggers during BDSM scenes.

Healing Through Degradation (00:27:59)

Exploring how degradation can be empowering and healing for individuals with past trauma.

Negotiation as Connection (00:30:30)

Encouragement to view negotiation as a connection exercise rather than just scene planning.

In this juicy solo episode, Jen returns with personal updates and powerful reflections on dating, relationships, and the evolution of her sex life. She opens up about her journey through open relationships, meaningful connections with partners like Jess and Scott, and how her sex life has reached new levels of fulfillment. From the role of communication and lubrication to overcoming sexual inhibitions and learning to be fully present during intimacy, Jen invites listeners—especially women—to prioritize their pleasure and explore what amazing sex looks like in midlife. Plus, a sneak peek at what’s coming up on the pod!

Life Updates and Podcast Hiatus (00:01:22)

Jen shares personal life changes, including selling her home and the impact on podcast production.

Maturation in Open Relationships (00:02:36)

Discussion on evolving experiences in long-term open relationships and the need for fresh content.

Upcoming Guests and Topics (00:03:59)

Jen mentions future episodes featuring Jess and Scott, teasing discussions on dating dynamics.

Dating Experiences with Jess (00:05:18)

Jen reflects on her journey with Jess, their initial connection, and their evolving relationship.

Learning from Recent Dates (00:06:31)

Insights on choosing aligned partners and the importance of attraction in ethical non-monogamy.

Navigating Dating Apps (00:07:49)

Jen discusses experiences with dating apps, including ghosting and societal perceptions of relationships.

Updates on Polyamorous Life (00:09:32)

Jen shares updates on her relationships with Scott and Jess, emphasizing the fun of polyamory.

Improved Sexual Experiences (00:10:39)

Jen reflects on her evolving sexual life and the importance of regular sexual activity.

Communication with Partners (00:11:47)

Discussion on the significance of communication about sexual needs and experiences with Scott.

Use of Lubrication (00:13:04)

Jen shares her experiences with lubrication and its importance for enjoyable sexual experiences.

Addressing Sexual Inhibitions (00:14:10)

Exploration of overcoming worries about appearance and sounds during sexual intimacy.

Being Present During Sex (00:18:58)

Jen emphasizes the importance of being present in sexual experiences and enjoying the moment.

Challenge to Listeners (00:20:29)

Jen encourages listeners, especially women, to focus on their pleasure during sex.

Conclusion and Call to Action (00:21:46)

Jen wraps up the episode, inviting listeners to connect with her for coaching and further discussions.

It's the last episode (at least for now) of The Open Bedroom Podcast!

Michelle and I explore Cuddle and Surrogate Partner therapy in today's episode!

Timestamps by PodSqueezeIntroduction to Memory Reconsolidation (00:00:02)

Discussion on memory reconsolidation and questioning childhood beliefs about touch.

Welcome to the Podcast (00:00:29)

Jennifer introduces the episode's focus on surrogate partner therapy and professional cuddling with Michelle Renee.

Michelle's Background (00:01:09)

Michelle shares her role as a surrogate partner and professional cuddler, emphasizing her supportive approach.

Community Building in Intimacy (00:01:24)

Michelle discusses her involvement in community building within the intimacy sector and her initiative, Soft Cock Week.

Professional Cuddling Explained (00:01:45)

Jennifer inquires about professional cuddling, highlighting the need for more touch and connection in people's lives.

Cuddles Training Overview (00:02:23)

Michelle explains the training and code of conduct for professional cuddlers, emphasizing client-led sessions.

Client Autonomy in Cuddling (00:03:21)

Discussion about the importance of clients articulating their needs and maintaining boundaries during sessions.

Finding a Professional Cuddler (00:04:23)

Michelle advises on reputable organizations for finding professional cuddlers and the challenges of the industry.

Qualities of an Ideal Cuddler (00:05:54)

Michelle describes the ideal qualities for professional cuddlers, focusing on passion for helping others.

Cuddle Session Dynamics (00:09:25)

Overview of what a typical cuddle session looks like, emphasizing client comfort and choice.

Exploring Client Preferences (00:11:09)

Jennifer and Michelle discuss how clients express their needs and preferences during cuddle sessions.

Vetting Clients (00:12:03)

Michelle explains her process for vetting clients to ensure a comfortable and safe environment.

Addressing Client Concerns (00:13:59)

Discussion on handling natural physical responses during cuddle sessions and ensuring client comfort.

Navigating Client Needs (00:16:44)

Michelle shares insights on clients' struggles with touch and how she helps them explore their needs.

Stories from Cuddle Sessions (00:17:49)

Michelle recounts memorable cuddle sessions, illustrating the emotional and therapeutic aspects of her work.

Introduction to Surrogate Partner Therapy (00:19:19)

Michelle introduces the concept of surrogate partner therapy and its historical context in addressing intimacy issues.

Introduction to Surrogate Partner Therapy (00:20:08)

Discussion on the evolution of surrogate partner therapy and its portrayal in media.

Building Relational Skills (00:21:08)

Exploration of how surrogate partner therapy aids clients in developing relational skills.

Platonic Surrogate Partner Therapy (00:22:41)

Transition from erotic to platonic surrogate partner therapy for deeper emotional support.

Cuddle Sessions Explained (00:24:00)

Description of cuddle sessions and the balance between nurturing and challenging clients.

Client Experience and Healing (00:25:09)

Sharing a client's journey of healing through cuddling and emotional safety.

Collaborative Therapy Approach (00:27:56)

Insights on the collaborative relationship between the surrogate partner, client, and therapist.

Soft Cock Appreciation Week (00:35:41)

Introduction of a week dedicated to celebrating soft penises and normalizing discussions around erectile issues.

Anti-Oppression Rate System (00:41:40)

Michelle discusses her experiment with clients choosing their own rates based on a self-assessment of privileges.

Follow Michelle:

https://www.instagram.com/meetmichellerenee/

Follow Jen:

https://www.instagram.com/theopenbedroompodcast/