The Open Bedroom Podcast

Kate Shelor's Background (00:02:27)
Introduction of Kate as a hypnotherapist and her expertise in subconscious influences on relationships.

Exploring OnlyFans (00:03:41)
Jennifer shares her experience signing up for OnlyFans to understand its content better.

Safety in Content Creation (00:06:04)
Discussion on how OnlyFans provides a safer environment for content creators.

Connection Over Content (00:10:37)
Emphasis on the importance of personal connection in the success of OnlyFans creators.

Navigating Personal Insecurities (00:11:07)
Kate shares her feelings of insecurity about how followers perceive her.

Balancing Professional and Personal Life (00:12:24)
Jennifer highlights Kate's multifaceted identity beyond her OnlyFans presence.

Journey to Hypnotherapy (00:14:30)
Kate shares her personal journey with hypnotherapy and overcoming orgasm challenges.

The Importance of Sexual Education (00:15:39)
Kate emphasizes the need for open conversations about sexuality and sexual health.

Building a Community (00:17:59)
Kate describes her motivation to create a supportive community around sexuality.

Challenges in Content Creation (00:20:05)
Discussion on the difficulties of sharing educational content on social media platforms.

Financial Success and Family Support (00:22:10)
Kate discusses the financial benefits of her work and her family's acceptance.

Censorship Challenges (00:23:55)
Discussion on censorship issues faced when discussing sex education on platforms like OnlyFans and Patreon.

OnlyFans Exploration (00:24:28)
Exploration of OnlyFans as a platform for educational content and personal experiences in creating such content.

Business Mindset in Adult Content (00:30:03)
Emphasis on treating adult content creation as a business rather than a casual hobby for financial success.

Understanding Sexual Dynamics (00:39:00)
Discussion on sexual dynamics in relationships and how different drives affect intimacy and connection.

Addressing Sexless Marriages (00:40:07)
Insight into underlying issues in sexless marriages and the importance of communication and connection.

Effective Communication Strategies (00:43:23)
Tips on how to approach difficult conversations about intimacy in a constructive and non-pressuring manner.

Using 'I Feel' Statements (00:46:36)
Explains how to express feelings without accusations to reduce defensiveness in conversations.

Seeking Professional Help (00:48:10)
Suggests involving a therapist if communication struggles persist, highlighting the importance of tools for conversation.

Coaching Through OnlyFans (00:48:13)
Kate shares her approach to coaching on OnlyFans and the limitations of her current practice.

Men's Experiences on OnlyFans (00:49:06)
Explores why men seek advice on OnlyFans, including comfort in discussing personal issues.

Shame Around Sexuality (00:50:53)
Addresses men's feelings of shame regarding sexuality and perceived porn addiction.

Understanding Compulsive Behaviors (00:52:18)
Explains how feelings of loneliness and anxiety often lead to compulsive behaviors like porn use.

Focusing on Enrichment (00:54:21)
Encourages adding positive activities to life rather than fixating on what to avoid.

Addressing Shame Cycles (00:55:13)
Explores how negative feelings about porn can create a cycle of shame and compulsive behavior.

Aligning Values with Actions (00:56:21)
Highlights the need to understand personal values in relation to behaviors like porn consumption.

Breaking Down the Cycle of Shame (00:58:29)
Discusses the harmful impacts of shame-based approaches to porn addiction and the need for understanding.

Creating Safe Spaces for Conversations (00:59:08)
Acknowledges the importance of having safe environments for discussing sensitive topics like sexuality.

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Jealousy and Compassion (00:00:03) Jennifer discusses experiencing compersion and joy on the other side of jealousy and encourages allowing oneself to feel jealousy.

Online Coaching Services (00:01:13) Jennifer mentions her online coaching services in the sex and relationships space, focusing on topics such as open relationships, polyamory, swinging, the lifestyle, online dating, and conscious uncoupling.

Starting with Friendships (00:02:28) Jennifer advises starting friendships with mixed sexes to overcome jealousy and encourages allowing and encouraging partners to have friends of the opposite sex.

Breakfast or Lunch Dates (00:04:46) Jennifer suggests trying breakfast or lunch dates as a non-threatening way to overcome jealousy in open relationships.

Dinner/Playdate Scenarios (00:05:51) Jennifer discusses moving into dinner/playdate scenarios and the evolving dynamics of open relationships, including setting boundaries and flexibility.

Tips to Move Through Jealousy (00:09:46) Jennifer provides three tips to help move through jealousy, including scheduling a massage, journaling, seeking coaching or counseling, and going out with friends.

Compassion and Joy (00:11:56) Jennifer discusses the concept of compersion and joy on the other side of jealousy, emphasizing the importance of allowing oneself to feel jealousy and processing through it.

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The spectrum of open relationships (00:00:03) Jennifer, Chad, and Scott discuss the diverse experiences within open relationships, from swinging to polyamory.

Introduction to the Open Bedroom podcast (00:01:02) Jennifer introduces the Open Bedroom podcast and her coaching services in the sex and relationships space.

Special episode: The husbands of podcasters (00:02:33) Jennifer interviews Chad and Scott, the husbands of podcasters, in a special episode called "Husbands of Podcasters"

Boxers or briefs? (00:03:27) The conversation shifts to a lighthearted discussion about men's underwear preferences.

Public perception and personal impact (00:11:27) Chad and Scott share their feelings about their partners' public podcasts and the impact on their personal lives.

Handling difficult conversations on the podcast (00:18:15) Chad and Scott discuss how they approach sharing personal and sensitive topics on the podcast.

Public assumptions and misconceptions (00:24:45) Chad and Scott reflect on the assumptions and misconceptions that arise from their partners' public podcasts.

The Reviews (00:26:27) Discussion about the podcast reviews and individual preferences for hearing feedback.

Diverse Experiences in Open Relationships (00:27:31) Comparison of experiences as swingers and semi-open polyamorous individuals in open relationships.

Negative Experiences from Airing Personal Life (00:29:05) Instances of negative reactions to podcast content and its impact on personal relationships.

Supporting Partners' Podcasts (00:35:05) Ways in which the husbands support their partners' podcasts, including promotion and behind-the-scenes help.

Coaching Couples Together (00:40:25) Exploring the possibility of coaching couples together and the differing perspectives on it.

Individual Podcast Interests (00:42:34) Husbands' personal interests for potential podcast topics, including sports, fishing, behavioral science, and engineering.

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Tala and Jackie Christensen share their journey of trust-building and experimentation, including the use of psychedelics like MDMA and magic mushrooms, and exploring BDSM.

They emphasize the importance of communication and patience in their relationship. The episode also highlights their clothing line, Nerdy and Dirty, which features BDSM-inspired apparel.

The conversation provides insights into unconventional sexual practices and their impact on intimacy and connection.

Introduction (00:00:00)

Exploring non-conventional sexual activities (00:02:14)

Guests Tala and Jackie share their experiences with exploring non-conventional sexual activities, including psychedelics, BDSM, and trust-building in their relationship.

Background and cultural influences (00:03:25)

Tala discusses her conservative upbringing in Jerusalem and the societal taboos surrounding sex, while Jackie shares his motivations for wanting more out of his sex life.

The journey of trust-building and experimentation (00:07:14)

Jackie and Tala discuss their journey of trust-building, experimentation, and healing in their relationship, including the use of psychedelics and unconventional sexual activities.

Introducing unconventional sexual activities (00:08:29)

The guests discuss the introduction of BDSM and other unconventional sexual activities in their relationship, including the exploration of new experiences and trust-building.

Exploring unconventional sexual activities (00:11:33)

The guests delve into the process of introducing unconventional sexual activities and the impact on their relationship, including the challenges and growth experienced.

Enhancing intimacy and communication (00:19:56)

Jackie discusses how engaging in intimate activities, such as shaving each other's nether regions, has enhanced trust and communication in their relationship.

Bonding through trust and comfort (00:20:38)

Discussion on building trust and comfort in sexual relationships, including the importance of accepting imperfections.

Frequency of drug use and preparation (00:21:14)

Exploration of the frequency of drug use in the context of relationship activities and the preparation involved.

Extended sexual activities (00:23:05)

Description of engaging in sexual activities for extended periods, including the use of MDMA and the effects of different routes of administration.

MDMA experience and effects (00:28:34)

Guest's experience with MDMA, including heightened sensations, increased openness, and the impact on personal reflection.

Psychedelic experiences and reflection (00:34:49)

Discussion of the use of magic mushrooms for personal reflection, addressing relationship challenges, and the melting of the ego.

The Weeping and Touching (00:40:56)

Discussion about the emotional and physical connection during a psychedelic experience.

Stem Cells and ED (00:42:08)

Conversation about a medical procedure for erectile dysfunction and its success.

BDSM Clothing Line (00:43:47)

Description of a clothing line inspired by BDSM and its unique features.

Closing Thoughts (00:47:13)

Encouragement to have an open mind, trusty partner, and try unconventional activities in relationships.

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Understanding the Needs (00:00:01) Exploring how unmet needs can impact behavior and relationships.

Coaching and Topics of Interest (00:01:17) Jennifer Kaylo's coaching topics and interests including open relationships, online dating, and conscious uncoupling.

Creating a Lasting Throuple Dynamic (00:02:42) Addressing the lack of resources for creating a lasting throuple dynamic and introducing the aim of the episode.

Recognizing Individual Differences (00:03:50) Emphasizing the importance of acknowledging and understanding the individual needs and patterns of each partner.

Love Languages and Erotic Blueprints (00:05:04) Exploring the use of love language and erotic blueprint quizzes to understand and fulfill partners' needs.

Dealing with Triggers (00:09:42) Discussing the importance of listening and softening when triggered in a throuple or quad relationship.

Finding Common Ground (00:12:04) Encouraging the identification and focus on shared interests and common ground in the relationship.

Managing Jealousy (00:13:20) Addressing the inevitability of jealousy and providing guidance on dealing with it in throuple dynamics.

Individuality and Responsibility (00:16:40) Emphasizing the concept of individuation and taking responsibility for one's own feelings and actions.

Establishing Patterns for Safety (00:17:45) Discussing the importance of creating patterns for safety and building trust in the relationship.

Seeking Professional Support (00:20:59) Highlighting the benefits of hiring a coach for guidance and support in maintaining a lasting throuple dynamic.

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Sensual Awakening (00:00:02) Susan Bratton tantalizes us with her journey to sensual awakening, sharing her intimate experiences with trauma, abuse, and sexual health challenges.

Product Tease (00:01:03) Jennifer Kaylo spills the tea on her steamy encounters with Susan Bratton's line of sexual wellness products, diving into their delicious uses and benefits.

Sultry Introduction (00:05:46) Susan Bratton makes her grand entrance, as Jennifer Kaylo can barely contain her excitement to dive into a juicy discussion about orgasms and sensual awakening.

Susan's Sensual Journey (00:06:29) Susan Bratton bares her soul, revealing her personal journey through traumatic experiences, sexual struggles, and the sizzling transformation of her sex life.

Transformation and Titillation (00:10:23) Bratton gets candid about how therapy, personal growth, and erotic education workshops ignited the transformation of her sexuality.

The Sexy Side of Education (00:11:35) Bratton underscores the importance of erotic education, workshops, and techniques in elevating satisfaction, intimacy, and pleasure to new heights.

Bratton's Passionate Mission (00:13:46) Bratton shares her fervent mission to spread sexual education and pleasure techniques worldwide through her company, Personal Life Media.

Jennifer's Awakening (00:16:20) Jennifer Kaylo opens up about her own sensual awakening journey and the electrifying impact it had on her relationships and pleasure perception.

Diving into Sexual Biohacking (00:18:57) Bratton introduces the tantalizing concept of sexual biohacking, exploring its role in optimizing sexual health and vitality through various steamy techniques and treatments.

Blood Flow and Erect Fun (00:25:09) A steamy discussion on the importance of blood flow for achieving full erectile function, and how foreplay and pleasuring can enhance that delicious flow.

Orgasmic Activation and Biohacking Toys (00:26:31) An exploration of orgasmic activation, the use of sexual biohacking toys, and the concept of a pleasure protocol to elevate sexual experiences to new peaks.

Enhancing the Experience (00:30:20) A deep dive into the regenerative and enhancement aspects of sexual biohacking, including vulva and penis pumping to reverse atrophy and amplify sexual pleasure.

Biohacking Challenges and Triumphs (00:32:18) Personal tales of the challenges and triumphs in the world of sexual biohacking, including maintaining that sizzling sexual vitality as the years go by.

Orgasmic Cross Training (00:35:26) An introduction to the concept of orgasmic cross training and the diverse array of orgasmic experiences, activating different pleasure zones for ultimate ecstasy.

Starting Your Biohacking Journey (00:40:05) A discussion on when people typically start their sexual biohacking journey, the lack of awareness among doctors, and how to access tantalizing information on the topic.

Intimate Connection and Longevity (00:44:18) An explanation of how intimate connection can boost longevity, including the release of feel-good hormones, benefits for cognitive function, and overall health.

More Sensual Resources (00:47:36) Details on where to find more steamy content and resources related to sexual biohacking, including websites, social media, and newsletters.

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Realization of being Semi-Open (00:01:25) Jennifer reflects on realizing her relationship with Scott is semi-open, leading to a shift in perspective.

Understanding Semi-Open Relationships (00:03:52) Jennifer discusses the concept of being semi-open and the distinctions between fully open, semi-open, and monogamous relationships.

Fully Open Relationships (00:05:05) Jennifer explains the dynamics of fully open relationships, including hierarchical and non-hierarchical arrangements, and examples from the swinger community.

Semi-Open Relationships (00:08:30) Jennifer explores the dynamics of semi-open relationships, including soft and hard swapping, occasional dating outside the primary relationship, and ethical non-monogamy.

Engaging with Listeners (00:12:00) Jennifer invites listeners to share their relationship dynamics and engage with the podcast, encouraging likes, follows, and reviews.

Closing Remarks (00:12:48) An unnamed speaker encourages listeners to like, subscribe, and share the podcast, inviting topic suggestions and promoting open conversations.

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Introducing Lindsey Hall and Her Journey (00:00:02) Lindsey introduces herself as an intimacy and empowerment coach, discusses her decision to leave her corporate job, and shares her mission to help women deepen their intimacy and live joyfully.

Jennifer Kaylo's Introduction and Coaching Offer (00:00:22) Jennifer introduces herself and her coaching services, focusing on open relationships, online dating, and conscious uncoupling.

The Importance of Conscious Uncoupling (00:02:20) Jennifer and Lindsey discuss the significance of conscious uncoupling and the impact it has on co-parenting and maintaining a friendly relationship with an ex-partner.

Navigating Divorce and Co-Parenting (00:05:36) Lindsey shares her experience of navigating divorce with her ex-partner, discussing the challenges and emotional struggles they faced during the process.

Staying Friendly with the Ex-Partner (00:11:38) Lindsey explains how she maintained a friendly relationship with her ex-partner, emphasizing the mantra "we are friendly not friends" and setting boundaries.

Supporting Each Other and Creating Unique Structures (00:18:22) Jennifer discusses the importance of supporting each other post-divorce and shares her and her ex-husband's unique approach to visitation and legal arrangements, emphasizing the significance of envisioning the desired outcome for the family.

Conclusion (00:21:29) Lindsey reflects on the similarities in their approach to divorce and co-parenting, highlighting the importance of creating their own schedule and ignoring societal expectations.

Navigating Co-Parenting Schedules (00:21:59) Discussion about the 2-5-5 co-parenting schedule, finding balance, and creating a visitation structure that works for both parents.

Creating Own Visitation Schedule (00:22:56) The process of creating a visitation schedule without professional help, deciding on a fair arrangement, and navigating interactions with the ex-partner's new relationship.

Taking Steps for Future Relationship (00:24:04) Making efforts to build a friendly relationship with the ex-partner for the sake of shared events and future plans.

Staying True to Your Own Path (00:25:18) Emphasizing the importance of following one's heart, choosing a different path from societal norms, and prioritizing what feels best for the individual situation.

Coaching and Support for Divorce (00:26:11) Discussion about a coaching program for conscious uncoupling, the benefits of seeking support early in the divorce process, and finding a divorce coach.

Connecting with the Guest (00:27:04) Information about where to find the guest, her social media handles, website, and podcast on YouTube, as well as the opportunity to hire her for coaching.

Closing Remarks (00:27:51) Encouragement for audience engagement, sharing the podcast, and leaving comments for future episode topics.

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One day I decided to check out the local BDSM group, and attended a Munch (think... BDSM people out in the "Wild" having a Vanilla meetup).

One of the men at my table told us about his hot wax art, and showed me a beautiful picture he'd taken of a cherry blossom he made on a woman's back.

I immediately knew this was a type of sensual play that Scott and I would both like!

I asked if I could hire him for a night of learning how to do hot wax, so Steph joined us for a delicious night of sensation play.

Today, I'm teaching you how to choose the best wax for the temperature play that you'll like, how to make hot wax candles, and how to drizzle this yumminess all over your partner, then take it off (my favorite part! Feels so good).

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Setting the stage (00:01:21) Introduction to hot wax play, witnessing it at a party, and the sensual and meditative experience.

Types of wax (00:03:49) Different kinds of wax, their effects on the skin, and recommendations for purchasing wax and wicks.

Preparing the candles (00:05:58) Instructions for making hot wax portable candles, including the type of containers, wicks, and additional items like clothespins.

Artistic wax play (00:06:55) Using crayons and essential oils for artistic and sensual wax play, and the safety considerations for the wax and oils.

Melting the wax (00:08:46) Methods for melting the wax, including using a ceramic pot and mason jars, and the importance of safety precautions.

Preparation for wax play (00:12:00) Preparation for applying hot wax, including the use of massage oil, spatulas, and eye masks for protection.

Positioning and warming up (00:17:12) Preparing the person for wax play, including warming them up with a sensual massage and positioning on the massage table.

Testing the Wax Temperature (00:21:16) Discussion on testing the wax temperature and adjusting the height of candle drips for desired wax temperature.

Applying the Wax (00:22:20) Instructions on starting with less sensitive areas and gradually moving to more sensitive areas, as well as playing with colors.

Removing the Wax (00:23:18) Demonstration of removing the wax in a slow, sensual manner, and the aftercare process involving wiping off oil and wax residues.

Post-Play Activities (00:25:22) Exploration of post-play activities, including snuggling, watching a show, or moving into sexual intimacy.

Conclusion and Podcast Promotion (00:26:30) Final thoughts on hot wax play and a promotion for the Open Bedroom Podcast.

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