The Open Bedroom Podcast

Meet Wendy Perkins, an orgasm and neuro pleasure coach, discussing open relationships, conscious uncoupling, and alternative family dynamics.

Wendy shares her journey of separating from her husband while continuing to co-parent their children in a supportive environment. She emphasizes the importance of open communication and prioritizing children's needs.

Wendy also reflects on her bisexuality and the challenges of navigating societal norms. Explore non-traditional relationship structures and maintain integrity and love in your breaking up and co-parenting interactions.

Intro (0:00:00)

Wendy's Relationship History (00:02:59)

Realization of Polyamory (00:03:46)

Challenges of Monogamy (00:05:52)

Understanding Bisexuality (00:07:06)

The Importance of Open Conversations (00:11:25)

Navigating Co-Parenting (00:12:28)

Wendy's Decision to Separate (00:15:37)

Creating a Supportive Family Dynamic (00:19:40)

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[object Object]Introduction to Flirting with Women (00:00:02)

Jennifer introduces the episode's focus on how women can flirt with women.

Personal Exploration of Sexuality (00:00:14)

She shares her journey of realizing her attraction to women and exploring it during her last marriage.

Societal Programming and Body Image (00:01:14)

Jennifer discusses societal norms that discourage women from exploring their bodies and sexuality.

Differences in Sexual Curiosity (00:02:23)

She contrasts bi-curious women with those who are truly bisexual, highlighting their different experiences.

Understanding Women's Bodies (00:04:38)

Jennifer emphasizes the need for women to learn about their bodies and how to engage with other women.

Types of Bi-Curious Women (00:05:44)

She categorizes bi-curious women into two types: bi-situational and truly bisexual.

Craving Connection with Women (00:07:07)

Jennifer expresses her desire for intimacy with women and the joy it brings her.

Learning Through Experience (00:09:14)

She reflects on how her experiences with different women have taught her about sexuality and pleasure.

Flirting as a Skill (00:10:31)

Jennifer discusses her journey in learning how to flirt with women and the importance of verbal communication.

Desire and Affirmation (00:11:43)

She emphasizes that women want to feel desired and beautiful, just like men do.

Direct Communication of Desires (00:12:50)

Jennifer encourages women to express their desires openly without excessive caution.

Using Flirting in Everyday Life (00:15:00)

She shares personal examples of how to flirt and express attraction in casual conversations.

Engaging in Flirty Conversations (00:18:05)

Jennifer highlights the importance of maintaining flirtatious communication throughout the day.

Flirting Ideas (00:20:02)

Jennifer shares tips on starting daily conversations with female partners to enhance flirting.

Navigating Bi-Curious Feelings (00:21:02)

Discussion on exploring bi-curiosity and using existing partners to ease into relationships with women.

Building Connection Through Dates (00:22:02)

The importance of one-on-one time and physical connection during dates to foster intimacy.

Fun Flirting Experiences (00:23:14)

A humorous personal story about a memorable kissing moment during a date with another woman.

Naked Exploration (00:24:14)

Encouragement to engage in naked play to understand sexual orientation and connect with each other.

Coaching Offer (00:25:27)

Jennifer offers one-on-one coaching for women seeking guidance in dating and flirting with other women.

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Today I have Cordelia Gaffar, known as the "ultimate joy goddess" on the podcast. Cordelia, a movement facilitator and bestselling author, discusses "multi-orgasmic living," a lifestyle emphasizing self-care, pleasure, and movement for women.

We explore the importance of nurturing oneself, maintaining vitality with age, and fostering emotional and physical connections, especially in ethically non-monogamous relationships.

Cordelia offers practical advice on incorporating movement into daily routines and highlights the significance of self-exploration and communication in enhancing intimacy and overall well-being.

Introduction to Multi-Orgasmic Living (00:00:00)

Cordelia explains her concept of multi-orgasmic living and its personal significance.

Nurturing Self (00:01:26)

Discussion on the importance of self-care and maintaining vitality, especially for mothers.

Staying Juicy (00:03:05)

Cordelia shares secrets to staying vibrant, emphasizing movement and physical activity.

Nutrition Tips (00:05:07)

Advice on nutrition, particularly for women approaching menopause, including the impact of alcohol and caffeine.

Choosing Pleasure (00:07:29)

The significance of being mindful about who and what brings pleasure into one’s life.

Self-Exploration (00:10:52)

Cordelia encourages self-touch and exploration to rediscover personal pleasure.

Connection with Partners (00:14:28)

Exploration of how to gauge emotional and physical connections with partners in non-monogamous relationships.

Negotiation in Relationships (00:15:52)

The importance of taking time to negotiate and explore boundaries with new partners.

Reconnecting with the Body (00:22:50)

Cordelia discusses helping individuals reconnect with their bodies through movement, meditation, and somatic awareness.

Juiciness and Orgasmic Living (00:33:18)

Exploration of how Cordelia defines and experiences 'juiciness' and orgasmic living post-divorce.

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One of the key takeaways from our recent podcast episode is the importance of emotional safety in sexual experiences. Sierra Bucher and I chat about how feeling completely safe and secure can make a huge difference in achieving squirting. It’s not just about the physical act but also the psychological release. How do you ensure emotional safety with your partner? Let’s discuss!

Introduction to the Episode (00:00:00)

Jennifer welcomes listeners and introduces the topic of squirting and sexual pleasure.

Sierra's Experience with Squirting (00:00:22)

Sierra' shares her journey to understanding squirting and feeling safe with partners.

Squirting as a Popular Fantasy (00:00:47)

Jennifer prompts Sierra' to discuss the appeal and misconceptions surrounding squirting.

Research and Personal Insights (00:01:09)

Sierra' talks about her extensive research on squirting and surprising revelations from friends.

Hydration and Squirting Mechanics (00:03:19)

Sierra' explains the importance of hydration for squirting and its physiological aspects.

Understanding Squirting Fluid (00:05:28)

Discussion on the origin of squirting fluid and common misconceptions about it being urine.

Psychological Aspect of Squirting (00:07:24)

Sierra' highlights the psychological factors that influence the ability to squirt.

Personal Experiences with Squirting (00:08:41)

Sierra' shares her first squirting experience and the emotional release it brought.

Techniques for Achieving Squirting (00:10:42)

Sierra' explains various techniques and tools that can help stimulate squirting.

Jennifer's Personal Squirting Story (00:12:09)

Jennifer recounts her experiences with a partner known for helping women squirt.

Exploring Different Partner Experiences (00:15:27)

Jennifer discusses the variations in sexual experiences with different partners.

Future Topics on Male Pleasure (00:16:50)

Sierra' suggests discussing differences in male pleasure between circumcised and uncircumcised men.

Variation in Vaginal Sensations (00:17:25)

Jennifer shares insights into the diverse sensations experienced with different partners.

Preparation for Future Experiences (00:18:01)

Jennifer talks about acquiring a king-size splash blanket for future intimate encounters.

Podcast Episode Timestamps

Struggles of Squirting (00:18:19)

Discussion on challenges faced by squirters, including difficulties with spontaneous sexual activities.

Understanding G-Spot Stimulation (00:19:25)

Sierra' explains the mechanics of squirting and its relation to G-spot stimulation.

Intentional Exploration (00:20:11)

Jennifer shares her plans to experiment with toys for personal exploration of squirting.

Curiosity about Partner Experiences (00:20:42)

Sierra' wonders about the experiences of Jennifer's girlfriend regarding masturbation as a squirter.

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Welcome to the Open Bedroom (00:00:49)Jennifer welcomes listeners and introduces Layla and Brian.

Layla's Journey into Non-Monogamy (00:01:35)Layla shares her three-year experience in the lifestyle, starting from fantasies with her husband.

Brian's Perspective on Non-Monogamy (00:04:08)Brian discusses his intentional approach to non-monogamous relationships and setting expectations early on.

Differences in Relationship Dynamics (00:05:43)The group debates the nuances of polyamory and swinging, highlighting their varying relationship styles.

Spontaneity vs. Planning in Relationships (00:10:14)Jennifer and Brian explore the challenges of balancing spontaneity and planning in their relationships.

The Complexity of Relationship Boundaries (00:16:18)Brian discusses shifting boundaries in relationships and the difficulties of navigating friendships and intimacy.

Finding a Middle Ground (00:17:10)Jennifer suggests a hybrid approach to spontaneity and planning, aiming for a balance in desires.

Exploring Connections with Familiar Partners (00:18:21)The group agrees that sexual experiences are often better with familiar partners, discussing trust and comfort.

Ideal Relationship Arrangements (00:19:10)Brian expresses his desire for a whitelist of trusted partners to facilitate spontaneity without complications.

Exploring Emotional Connections in Non-Monogamy (00:19:15)Discussion on whether sex is better with emotionally connected partners versus casual encounters.

Performance Anxiety and Intimacy (00:20:50)Brian shares insights on male performance anxiety and the importance of intimacy in sexual experiences.

Kim Minami's Three-Hour Sex Dates (00:21:26)Introduction to Kim Minami's concept of extended sexual encounters for deeper intimacy and satisfaction.

The Shift in Sexual Experiences (00:22:15)Brian reflects on his journey from quick, unsatisfying sex to longer, more fulfilling sexual experiences.

Finding Safety in Sexual Relationships (00:23:35)Layla discusses the significance of feeling safe with partners for enhanced sexual pleasure.

Validation Through Performance (00:25:12)Layla shares her experience of seeking validation through sexual performance at parties.

The Challenge of Completing the Scene (00:28:09)Brian expresses his internal struggle with the pressure to climax during public sexual encounters.

Communication About Sexual Goals (00:33:00)Jennifer emphasizes the need for clear communication about sexual expectations and desires with partners.

The Importance of Aftercare (00:35:01)Discussion on aftercare practices and their significance in enhancing intimacy post-sexual encounters.

Aftercare Preferences (00:36:40)Discussion on personal aftercare preferences post-scene, emphasizing communication over physical touch.

Aftercare at Play Parties (00:38:04)Exploring the lack of aftercare at play parties and the need for more communication about it.

Spontaneity vs. Aftercare (00:39:05)Balancing the desire for aftercare with the spontaneity of play parties and not wanting to be clingy.

Playful Intimacy During Scenes (00:40:22)Sharing experiences of playful interactions and laughter during sexual encounters, enhancing the overall experience.

Concept of "Between Care" (00:41:20)Introducing the idea of care during sexual activities, especially in longer sessions.

Quick Aftercare Technique (00:42:07)A nurturing aftercare technique involving cleaning up with warm washcloths after play, enhancing intimacy.

Challenging Norms in Non-Monogamy (00:46:30)The hosts share their mission to challenge societal norms surrounding non-monogamous relationships.

Authenticity in Storytelling (00:48:01)Emphasizing the need for real stories and authenticity in discussing non-monogamous lifestyles.

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Introduction to Conflict Management (00:00:03)
Jennifer emphasizes the importance of communication to prevent conflict in throuple relationships.

Defining a Throuple (00:01:17)
Explains what a throuple is and how it differs from a couple.

Types of Relationships (00:02:30)
Discussion of closed and open relationships, illustrating with personal examples.

Understanding Compulsions (00:03:53)
Jennifer shares her experience with jealousy and the concept of feeling happy for partners.

Ethical Non-Monogamy (00:03:53)
Defines ethical non-monogamy and its conscious communication aspect.

Swinging vs. Polyamory (00:05:06)
Differentiates between swinging (sexual experiences) and polyamory (emotional relationships).

Threesomes and Triads (00:05:06)
Clarifies the terms threesomes and triads within the context of throuples.

The Concept of a Unicorn (00:06:19)
Describes a unicorn as a third person in a preexisting couple's relationship.

Misconceptions about Throuples (00:07:35)
Addresses common misconceptions, such as throuples being just swingers.

Is Non-Monogamy Cheating? (00:08:56)
Clarifies that non-monogamous relationships are not cheating if all parties are informed.

Sexual Gratification Misconception (00:10:11)
Explains that sex is a small part of throuple dynamics, emphasizing emotional connections.

Jealousy in Relationships (00:11:24)
Discusses how jealousy can arise and how trust can mitigate it in throuples.

Feeling Left Out (00:12:23)
Jennifer shares how communication can prevent feelings of being left out in throuples.

Benefits of a Throuple (00:14:51)
Highlights the support and resources available in a throuple relationship.

Fulfillment of Sexual Experiences (00:16:10)
Describes how new partners can enhance sexual experiences and exploration.

Challenges of Being in a Throuple (00:17:50)
Discusses the potential challenges, including jealousy and societal pressures.

Communication and Boundaries (00:21:01)
Stresses the importance of communication and boundary-setting in throuple dynamics.

Conflict Management Strategies (00:22:16)
Provides tips on addressing conflicts and ensuring inclusivity in decision-making.

Seeking Professional Help (00:24:33)
Encourages seeking therapy or coaching for navigating complex relationship dynamics.

Conclusion and Coaching Offer (00:26:48)
Wraps up the episode and invites listeners to consider coaching on related topics.

Podcast Closing Remarks (00:27:34)
Jennifer thanks listeners and encourages them to like, subscribe, and suggest topics for future episodes.

Sharing the Podcast (00:27:52)
Listeners are invited to share the podcast with friends and partners to spark meaningful conversations.

Kate Shelor's Background (00:02:27)
Introduction of Kate as a hypnotherapist and her expertise in subconscious influences on relationships.

Exploring OnlyFans (00:03:41)
Jennifer shares her experience signing up for OnlyFans to understand its content better.

Safety in Content Creation (00:06:04)
Discussion on how OnlyFans provides a safer environment for content creators.

Connection Over Content (00:10:37)
Emphasis on the importance of personal connection in the success of OnlyFans creators.

Navigating Personal Insecurities (00:11:07)
Kate shares her feelings of insecurity about how followers perceive her.

Balancing Professional and Personal Life (00:12:24)
Jennifer highlights Kate's multifaceted identity beyond her OnlyFans presence.

Journey to Hypnotherapy (00:14:30)
Kate shares her personal journey with hypnotherapy and overcoming orgasm challenges.

The Importance of Sexual Education (00:15:39)
Kate emphasizes the need for open conversations about sexuality and sexual health.

Building a Community (00:17:59)
Kate describes her motivation to create a supportive community around sexuality.

Challenges in Content Creation (00:20:05)
Discussion on the difficulties of sharing educational content on social media platforms.

Financial Success and Family Support (00:22:10)
Kate discusses the financial benefits of her work and her family's acceptance.

Censorship Challenges (00:23:55)
Discussion on censorship issues faced when discussing sex education on platforms like OnlyFans and Patreon.

OnlyFans Exploration (00:24:28)
Exploration of OnlyFans as a platform for educational content and personal experiences in creating such content.

Business Mindset in Adult Content (00:30:03)
Emphasis on treating adult content creation as a business rather than a casual hobby for financial success.

Understanding Sexual Dynamics (00:39:00)
Discussion on sexual dynamics in relationships and how different drives affect intimacy and connection.

Addressing Sexless Marriages (00:40:07)
Insight into underlying issues in sexless marriages and the importance of communication and connection.

Effective Communication Strategies (00:43:23)
Tips on how to approach difficult conversations about intimacy in a constructive and non-pressuring manner.

Using 'I Feel' Statements (00:46:36)
Explains how to express feelings without accusations to reduce defensiveness in conversations.

Seeking Professional Help (00:48:10)
Suggests involving a therapist if communication struggles persist, highlighting the importance of tools for conversation.

Coaching Through OnlyFans (00:48:13)
Kate shares her approach to coaching on OnlyFans and the limitations of her current practice.

Men's Experiences on OnlyFans (00:49:06)
Explores why men seek advice on OnlyFans, including comfort in discussing personal issues.

Shame Around Sexuality (00:50:53)
Addresses men's feelings of shame regarding sexuality and perceived porn addiction.

Understanding Compulsive Behaviors (00:52:18)
Explains how feelings of loneliness and anxiety often lead to compulsive behaviors like porn use.

Focusing on Enrichment (00:54:21)
Encourages adding positive activities to life rather than fixating on what to avoid.

Addressing Shame Cycles (00:55:13)
Explores how negative feelings about porn can create a cycle of shame and compulsive behavior.

Aligning Values with Actions (00:56:21)
Highlights the need to understand personal values in relation to behaviors like porn consumption.

Breaking Down the Cycle of Shame (00:58:29)
Discusses the harmful impacts of shame-based approaches to porn addiction and the need for understanding.

Creating Safe Spaces for Conversations (00:59:08)
Acknowledges the importance of having safe environments for discussing sensitive topics like sexuality.

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Jealousy and Compassion (00:00:03) Jennifer discusses experiencing compersion and joy on the other side of jealousy and encourages allowing oneself to feel jealousy.

Online Coaching Services (00:01:13) Jennifer mentions her online coaching services in the sex and relationships space, focusing on topics such as open relationships, polyamory, swinging, the lifestyle, online dating, and conscious uncoupling.

Starting with Friendships (00:02:28) Jennifer advises starting friendships with mixed sexes to overcome jealousy and encourages allowing and encouraging partners to have friends of the opposite sex.

Breakfast or Lunch Dates (00:04:46) Jennifer suggests trying breakfast or lunch dates as a non-threatening way to overcome jealousy in open relationships.

Dinner/Playdate Scenarios (00:05:51) Jennifer discusses moving into dinner/playdate scenarios and the evolving dynamics of open relationships, including setting boundaries and flexibility.

Tips to Move Through Jealousy (00:09:46) Jennifer provides three tips to help move through jealousy, including scheduling a massage, journaling, seeking coaching or counseling, and going out with friends.

Compassion and Joy (00:11:56) Jennifer discusses the concept of compersion and joy on the other side of jealousy, emphasizing the importance of allowing oneself to feel jealousy and processing through it.

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The spectrum of open relationships (00:00:03) Jennifer, Chad, and Scott discuss the diverse experiences within open relationships, from swinging to polyamory.

Introduction to the Open Bedroom podcast (00:01:02) Jennifer introduces the Open Bedroom podcast and her coaching services in the sex and relationships space.

Special episode: The husbands of podcasters (00:02:33) Jennifer interviews Chad and Scott, the husbands of podcasters, in a special episode called "Husbands of Podcasters"

Boxers or briefs? (00:03:27) The conversation shifts to a lighthearted discussion about men's underwear preferences.

Public perception and personal impact (00:11:27) Chad and Scott share their feelings about their partners' public podcasts and the impact on their personal lives.

Handling difficult conversations on the podcast (00:18:15) Chad and Scott discuss how they approach sharing personal and sensitive topics on the podcast.

Public assumptions and misconceptions (00:24:45) Chad and Scott reflect on the assumptions and misconceptions that arise from their partners' public podcasts.

The Reviews (00:26:27) Discussion about the podcast reviews and individual preferences for hearing feedback.

Diverse Experiences in Open Relationships (00:27:31) Comparison of experiences as swingers and semi-open polyamorous individuals in open relationships.

Negative Experiences from Airing Personal Life (00:29:05) Instances of negative reactions to podcast content and its impact on personal relationships.

Supporting Partners' Podcasts (00:35:05) Ways in which the husbands support their partners' podcasts, including promotion and behind-the-scenes help.

Coaching Couples Together (00:40:25) Exploring the possibility of coaching couples together and the differing perspectives on it.

Individual Podcast Interests (00:42:34) Husbands' personal interests for potential podcast topics, including sports, fishing, behavioral science, and engineering.

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Tala and Jackie Christensen share their journey of trust-building and experimentation, including the use of psychedelics like MDMA and magic mushrooms, and exploring BDSM.

They emphasize the importance of communication and patience in their relationship. The episode also highlights their clothing line, Nerdy and Dirty, which features BDSM-inspired apparel.

The conversation provides insights into unconventional sexual practices and their impact on intimacy and connection.

Introduction (00:00:00)

Exploring non-conventional sexual activities (00:02:14)

Guests Tala and Jackie share their experiences with exploring non-conventional sexual activities, including psychedelics, BDSM, and trust-building in their relationship.

Background and cultural influences (00:03:25)

Tala discusses her conservative upbringing in Jerusalem and the societal taboos surrounding sex, while Jackie shares his motivations for wanting more out of his sex life.

The journey of trust-building and experimentation (00:07:14)

Jackie and Tala discuss their journey of trust-building, experimentation, and healing in their relationship, including the use of psychedelics and unconventional sexual activities.

Introducing unconventional sexual activities (00:08:29)

The guests discuss the introduction of BDSM and other unconventional sexual activities in their relationship, including the exploration of new experiences and trust-building.

Exploring unconventional sexual activities (00:11:33)

The guests delve into the process of introducing unconventional sexual activities and the impact on their relationship, including the challenges and growth experienced.

Enhancing intimacy and communication (00:19:56)

Jackie discusses how engaging in intimate activities, such as shaving each other's nether regions, has enhanced trust and communication in their relationship.

Bonding through trust and comfort (00:20:38)

Discussion on building trust and comfort in sexual relationships, including the importance of accepting imperfections.

Frequency of drug use and preparation (00:21:14)

Exploration of the frequency of drug use in the context of relationship activities and the preparation involved.

Extended sexual activities (00:23:05)

Description of engaging in sexual activities for extended periods, including the use of MDMA and the effects of different routes of administration.

MDMA experience and effects (00:28:34)

Guest's experience with MDMA, including heightened sensations, increased openness, and the impact on personal reflection.

Psychedelic experiences and reflection (00:34:49)

Discussion of the use of magic mushrooms for personal reflection, addressing relationship challenges, and the melting of the ego.

The Weeping and Touching (00:40:56)

Discussion about the emotional and physical connection during a psychedelic experience.

Stem Cells and ED (00:42:08)

Conversation about a medical procedure for erectile dysfunction and its success.

BDSM Clothing Line (00:43:47)

Description of a clothing line inspired by BDSM and its unique features.

Closing Thoughts (00:47:13)

Encouragement to have an open mind, trusty partner, and try unconventional activities in relationships.

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