The Open Bedroom Podcast

Chris is with Pineapple Play Date, a private web app that helps swinger party hosts everywhere plan key parties, play parties and swinger speed dating. Guests see who's coming ahead of time and quietly say yes to the people they're into. Only mutual interest is revealed, so nobody gets turned down face to face.

We discuss:

1. What a key party looks like today: choice, consent and mutual yeses instead of keys in a bowl.
2. Play parties that reveal every mutual match, so couples, including couples who only play together, can approach others knowing the interest is there.
3. Hosting private, discreet events: inviting the right people, privacy, and keeping the room comfortable for newcomers.

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My husband and I have been in a semi-open relationship for almost 5 years, but this past summer we decided to go completely monogamous again. Here's why, what we've learned, and why we chose each other.

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Foxy and I unpack 5 dating archetypes to avoid: the Mansplainer, the Needy Partner who turns you into their therapist, the Future-Planner who’s asking about laundry detergent before you’ve even met, the Silent Date, and the person who Ghosts you on the day you’re supposed to meet. Along the way, they share candid stories about ghosting, nervousness, and bringing up kink while dating on vanilla apps—and why a clear, kind goodbye is better than leaving someone wondering what happened.

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How does someone become a Happy Slut? And what happens when you stop following society's rules about sex, love, and relationships?

In this episode of The Open Bedroom, I'm joined by Samia Mounts, host of the Happy Slut podcast, for a candid, funny, and unapologetic conversation about her journey from sexual shame and disappointing sex to pleasure, polyamory, and freedom.

We dive into exploring desires, questioning monogamy, discovering kink, and learning to ask for what you actually want.

Because sometimes the most liberating thing you can do is stop worrying about what you're supposed to want—and start figuring out what makes you happy.

00:00 Meet Samia: The Woman Behind Happy Slut

01:00 Growing Up, Body Image & Discovering Sexuality

04:00 Losing Her Virginity & Beginning Her Sexual Journey

07:00 Bad Sex, Bisexuality & Dating Women

09:00 The Man Who Changed Everything About Sex

11:00 Why Monogamy Wasn't Working

14:00 Choosing Polyamory & Reconnecting With Daniel

18:00 Why Are Truly Sex-Positive Men So Rare?

23:00 Discovering New Sides of Your Sexuality

27:00 Tantra, Pleasure & Asking for What You Want

30:00 Are Your Desires Really Your Own?

34:00 Exploring Kink, Dungeons & Deification

36:00 Where to Start Exploring Your Sexual Fantasies

42:00 What Polyamory Actually Looks Like for Samia

47:00 Dating Red Flags & Enforcing Boundaries

50:00 Happy Slut, Sexual Freedom & Final Thoughts

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https://samiamounts.substack.com/p/i-love-intense-sex?r=3tr9j&utm_medium=ios

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What happens when the sex just… stops? Not because you stopped loving each other. Not necessarily because anyone cheated. But somewhere between work, kids, stress, resentment, hormones, routine—or just life—you look up and realize you’ve become roommates instead of lovers.

Today I’m talking with Karen Bigman about sexless marriages: how couples get there, what “sexless” actually means, whether a relationship can still be healthy without sex, and the much harder question—what do you do when one person is perfectly fine with it and the other one absolutely isn’t?

We’re getting into desire discrepancies, rejection, resentment, communication, and whether it’s actually possible to bring the sexual connection back.

Let’s talk about sexless marriages.

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What can men in monogamous relationships learn from guys who’ve successfully navigated open relationships?

Quite a bit, actually.

In this episode of The Open Bedroom Podcast, I’m sharing three skills I’ve seen men develop in ethical non-monogamy that can make any relationship better—including a completely monogamous one.

This isn’t an argument for opening your relationship. In fact, my husband and I have closed ours. But there are some things we learned from ENM that I absolutely do not want to leave behind.

🔥 1. Never Stop Leveling Up
Long-term relationships can get comfortable—and sometimes too comfortable. We talk about continuing to develop your sexual skills, communication, emotional intelligence, confidence, and yes, even the effort you put into how you show up for your partner.

I also break down the 5 Erotic Blueprints—Sexual, Sensual, Energetic, Kinky and Shapeshifter—and why knowing how your partner actually experiences desire can change the way you approach intimacy.

🔥 2. Stay Curious
You don't need new partners to create novelty.

I share ways couples can keep exploring together, from toys and workshops to BDSM education, community events, new experiences, or simply trying something neither of you has tried before.

My challenge: one night every month dedicated specifically to sexual exploration. Curiosity is a relationship skill.

🔥 3. Master Your Damn Calendar
Yes, calendar management made the sex podcast. 😂

One thing ENM teaches very quickly is that managing relationships requires managing time. Your partner shouldn't have to be the household cruise director responsible for remembering every date, commitment and plan.

We talk about shared calendars and intentionally scheduling different kinds of connection—including Her/His Night, Sex Exploration Night, and Fun Night—so your relationship doesn't get whatever scraps of time are left after everything else.

The best lesson from ENM may have nothing to do with having multiple partners.

It's the idea that your relationship deserves continued effort, curiosity and intentionality—even after you've "gotten" the person.

Whether you're monogamous, open, somewhere in between, or simply trying to build a better relationship, these are three habits worth stealing.

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I’m Jennifer, and today I’m talking with Betsy Pake about one of the hardest questions we ask ourselves: "Should I stay, or should I go?"

We talk about relationships, divorce, career changes, self-abandonment, and the expectations we inherit from our families and society. Betsy shares what she has learned from her own experiences and offers practical ways to reconnect with our values, our desires, and the life we actually want.

If you’ve ever felt stuck, disconnected, or unsure whether it’s time to make a change, this conversation is for you. Let’s get started.

Top 10 moments:

• 00:00 — Welcome and the central question: should I stay or should I go?
• 04:02 — When keeping the peace becomes self-abandonment.
• 06:14 — Questioning the programming and expectations we grew up with.
• 12:31 — Reframing divorce, judgment, and personal growth.
• 19:37 — Betsy’s Navigate Method: clarifying your values and needs.
• 22:29 — “If money didn’t matter and nobody got hurt, what would I do?”
• 26:10 — Betsy’s experiences with emotional disconnection in marriage.
• 31:01 — Career boredom and trying novelty before making a major change.
• 41:11 — Empty nesting, aging parents, and making time with loved ones count.
• 47:45 — Slowing down, finding yourself, and noticing the good things.

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This week my guests are giving you sex advice directly from sex worker's mouths! George Goulburn and London Sterling of Australia tell us not only what men and women ask for, but how to give it to them.

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In this episode of the Open Bedroom Podcast, I welcome Amanda Dames, a kink consultant, sexologist, and former NYC dominatrix. Amanda shares her journey discovering her kink identity, her experience as a dominatrix, and her transition into coaching. Our conversation covers BDSM dynamics, power exchange, and how to communicate desires in relationships. Amanda emphasizes that kink is normal, shame-free, and rooted in consent, offering practical advice for couples navigating mismatched desires or introducing kink into their relationships.

Introduction to Amanda Dames (00:00:48)

The host introduces Amanda Dames, a kink consultant, sexologist, and former New York City dominatrix, detailing her expertise.

Amanda's Kink Discovery (00:02:13)

Amanda shares her early awareness of her interest in spanking and punishment, starting from the age of five.

The Origins of Kink (00:03:51)

Discussion on whether people are born kinky, exploring ideas like past lives, epigenetics, and trauma as potential origins.

Kink vs. Fetish (00:06:42)

A clear distinction is made between a kink (a nice-to-have) and a fetish (a need-to-have for arousal).

Is Everyone a Little Kinky? (00:08:29)

Amanda argues that most people are a little kinky but are often afraid of the word itself.

Experience as a Dominatrix (00:16:43)

Amanda recounts how she found a job as a dominatrix on Craigslist and what the work actually entailed.

From Dominatrix to Kink Consultant (00:18:26)

Amanda explains her career transition from corporate life and moonlighting as a Domme to becoming a full-time kink consultant.

Living in a 24/7 D/s Relationship (00:21:25)

Amanda describes her current 24/7 Dominant/submissive relationship, where she is the submissive partner with her live-in Dom.

The Appeal of Submission (00:24:48)

Amanda explains why being in a submissive role is appealing, highlighting the freedom and care it provides.

How to Tell Your Partner About Your Kink (00:44:24)

Amanda provides a step-by-step guide on how to initiate a conversation with a partner about your kinks and fetishes.

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Erectile dysfunction can feel incredibly isolating—but it affects far more men and couples than most people realize.

I'm joined by my husband Scott for an honest conversation about his experience with erectile dysfunction. Scott shares what it felt like to lose trust in his own body, the frustration and hopelessness that followed, and the emotional pressure that can build when sex starts to feel like a test you might fail.

We discuss how erectile difficulties can affect confidence, intimacy, communication, and both partners’ experiences in the bedroom. Scott also opens up about finally seeking help, exploring prescription ED treatment through telehealth, and discovering that getting support gave him something he had been missing for years: a sense of control.

This is not simply a conversation about erections. It is about vulnerability, performance anxiety, asking for help, and finding a path back to confidence and connection.

00:00 — Introduction: The conversation men rarely have
Jen introduces the episode and explains why erectile dysfunction deserves a more honest, shame-free conversation.

02:15 — Scott’s personal experience with erectile dysfunction
Scott begins sharing when he first noticed something was changing and how the experience affected him emotionally.

06:10 — Losing trust in your own body
The fear of not knowing whether your body will respond—and how that uncertainty follows you into future sexual experiences.

10:25 — When sex starts to feel like a performance test
How pressure, anticipation, and fear of “failing” can make erectile difficulties even more likely.

14:30 — Hopelessness, frustration, and staying silent
Scott describes the internal struggle many men experience before they are willing to talk about the problem or seek help.

18:45 — How erectile dysfunction affects the partner
Jen shares the questions a partner may begin asking: Is it attraction? Did I do something wrong? Does my partner still want me?

23:10 — Attraction versus physical response
Why an erection is not always a reliable measurement of desire, attraction, or emotional connection.

27:20 — The cycle of anxiety and avoidance
How one difficult experience can create worry, avoidance, and even more pressure the next time intimacy begins.

31:05 — Deciding to seek help
Scott discusses reaching the point where he was ready to explore treatment rather than continue hoping the problem would disappear.

34:40 — Exploring telehealth and ED medication
The experience of using a telehealth provider, the convenience of accessing support, and overcoming the stigma attached to medication.

39:00 — Finally feeling in control again
Scott explains how having a reliable option changed the way he approached sex and reduced the fear surrounding his body’s response.

43:10 — The confidence shift
How greater reliability affected erection quality, confidence, presence, and the ability to enjoy sex instead of monitoring every physical sensation.

47:05 — What partners can do—and what they cannot fix
Supporting someone without taking responsibility for their erection, applying pressure, or interpreting the issue as rejection.

50:25 — Asking for help is not a failure
Why using medication or another form of support does not make someone less masculine, less sexual, or less capable.

53:20 — Taking back control of your sex life
Final thoughts on vulnerability, communication, treatment, and giving yourself permission to find a solution that works.

55:19 — Closing

Erectile dysfunction does not mean that attraction, masculinity, or a satisfying sex life is gone. Sometimes taking back control begins with one vulnerable conversation—and the willingness to accept help.

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