Life Uninhibited - The Enneagram 6 Podcast

Episode #166 The Missing Piece

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Ep. 166 — The Missing Piece

 

In this episode, I unpack a Type Six Enneathought from the Enneagram Institute and what it really means to go to type 3 and  borrow the inner-directedness and self-respect that finally dissolves the chronic insecurity and lack of faith in ourselves.

It's not about becoming someone else. It's about balancing the scales — bringing ourselves back to:

  • our own authority
  • the rules we've made up without realizing it
  • and the way we treat ourselves when no one is watching

    • In this episode, we explore:

    • What it actually means to be inner-directed — and how Sixes outsource authority without noticing
    • The made-up rules we follow like law (and the Facebook group story that helped me catch one of mine)
    • Why "supposed to" is often just a preference in costume
    • Self-respect as balance, not bravado — what high self-respect actually looks like day to day
    • The "Blamey Shameys" — owning mistakes without falling into self-loathing or finger-pointing
    • Why asking for help is the vulnerable, self-respecting move… not the weak one
    • The crucial difference between self-respect and defensiveness
    • A real-time example of working through fear before my husband left for the weekend — and what it made possible

      • A question to take with you: Where am I outsourcing my own authority right now — and what would it look like to take it back?

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